phyrespryte Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Maybe it's the whole grass is greener thing but I think I'd prefer to be on your side, you can always wear a wonder bra, I can't make them go away. Okay, now I'm getting all down about the boobies Aww don't feel bad. Big boobs are great fun. At least you can do fun stuff with them like prop them up on a table. Or hold your money between them.
allina Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Aww don't feel bad. Big boobs are great fun. At least you can do fun stuff with them like prop them up on a table. Or hold your money between them. :laugh: But propping them on a table would be hard, I think you'd have to have saggy ones for that
dgiirl Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 small boobs = virgin or good girl I get that a lot too. I meet guys and they're like...you've had sex right? My friend said I could be a pole dancer and I'd still look innocent. sheesh, for those who have boob's, please enjoy them. Damn small boobs = unnoticed. Nothing makes me feel more invisible when a beautiful woman with boobs comes into the room and all the guys eyes turn towards her. I dont get hit on very often. I've never had a guy in person walk up to me and chit chat or try to get my number or anything. The only one's who do are weirdo's and creeps. I've been told that because I'm smart and pretty that I'm intimidating. I get hit on a LOT online, but rarely ever in person. Yet, the one's who do hit on me online, i usually dont have very much in common with. They are usually too clingy or needy. I think my problem might be because I am shy, i might be giving off a snobby attitude. My ex accused me of being unapprochable. I really am working on this now tho. I try to smile a lot more, and try to make eye contact. I am noticing I am catching more eye contact, but I'm not sure if it's a sign of interest or simply a look in passing, and by then i usually blush and look away too quickly.
SmoochieFace Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I think it's safe to conclude that some people are just simply not happy with what they have. Sad.
IpAncA Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 yeah i can see how that would suck too. everybody has a story. i'm curious though, beyind the most basic, most obvious insult about a smaller chest ("you have small boobs") do people think it makes you act a certain way because of the size? i mean like, big boobs=bimbo/slut, small boobs=???? do you experience anything like that? No I haven't come across that. Its never been an issue that I'm aware of. I personally like being small and I always have. There are a lot of perks that come with it. When I went up size 34, I actually freaked. It's hard to believe someone would I know. I had to get used to being a size bigger and to me I look like I just stick out but I don't. I'm pretty much small all around so my chest does fit in with my type of body.
blind_otter Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 small boobs = virgin or good girl I dunno about all that.... No I haven't come across that. Its never been an issue that I'm aware of. I personally like being small and I always have. There are a lot of perks that come with it. When I went up size 34, I actually freaked. It's hard to believe someone would I know. I had to get used to being a size bigger and to me I look like I just stick out but I don't. I'm pretty much small all around so my chest does fit in with my type of body. I haven't either. I think it's more your overall persona than your set of breasts. JMO, though. take it with a grain of salt.
princessa Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 FOR ALL MY SMALL CHESTED SISTERS, I GOT ONE WORD FOR YOU: PUSH-UP BRAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well.. granted this was actually two words.. BUT if you have a problem getting your boobs noticed (not that it's always wanted), get a bunch of Calvin Klein push-up bras (these are the best), and low-cut tops!! A HUGE mistake that most A-B cup women make is wear their bras too low. Push it towards your upper back as much as you can, so that the lowest part of the bra is aligned with where your boobs end when they're pushed up, no lower. Tie the straps up for as much as you can handle, and this will push your boobs UP, creating nice and shapely cleavage Cleavage is very feminine and very sexy, so anybody should be able to flaunt that, you just need to figure out what's the style that's most appropriate for you! Cough cough not that everything always has to revolve around boobs of course
princessa Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Oh yeah "balconnet" type bras have a really nice effect also. They're similar to a corset for the boobs. Reminds me of how these women look in those huge victorian dresses, when their boobs are pushed up to their chins. SOO HOT Again, straps should tightened as much as possible!
IpAncA Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Cough cough not that everything always has to revolve around boobs of course Yeah but it's one less thing to worry about .
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 ... Everyone is always surprised I don't have a boyfriend, in fact sometimes they even think I am lying! My friends say that men just assume "HOT" girls have a boyfriend already. And when I have spoken to several guys I dated they said they didn't ask me out sooner because they just assumed I was "taken"...or were too intimidated to ask me out in case they weren't good enough. hmmm..... who needs the hassel of dating a hot woman? I mean if you have to chase other guys away with a bat... is it worth the effort? The problem with "pretty women" is always worrying about losing them. Is a pretty woman really going to be faithful? After all she can always find another guy... hmmm.... Well maybe I won't bother... Maybe those are some of the thoughts that go thru a guys head. As for dating my guy friends, it really starts treading into dangerous waters. I love all my friends and I don't want to risk hurting or losing their friendship. Well nothing ventured nothing gained. Maybe one of those guys could be the guy... how will you know if you don't try? It is easy to say make the first move, but even if I really want to, the fear of rejection just holds me backYeah, and that's why guys don't approach hot women. Who wants to get rejected - by a hot woman? If you're rejected by a not so hot woman it doesn't sting as much. Maybe the odds are better with someone that isn't so hot. How about baby steps? Just being friendly. Start with Hi... Well my problem was more that I only seemed to attract creepy stalker types, never the normal guys.Well, yeah, the creepy stalker types are less worried about rejection or being cheated on.
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 ladies can I just make a comment about the boobs thing... Big or small they're all nice - if you're willing to display them, as in low cut tops, sexy bras, very nice. And yes, there's a whole lot more of the whole package to like - a woman's eyes, her lips, her cheeks, her hair, the curve of her shoulder, her legs, the sound of her voice, her fingers, --- so many wonderful and delectable parts. And when they're all put together... well. What makes a woman sexy, appealing, attractive? Attitude... Your attitude about life, yourself and being a total woman. That would include being a sexual woman.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Small to medium boobs are a big turn on for me. Boobs are of no big importance to me, the person makes more of a difference. On a sexual level, I am more attracted to how a female keeps her lovebox nice and groomed than her breasts.
CrushedOrgans Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 I dunno about all that.... I haven't either. I think it's more your overall persona than your set of breasts. JMO, though. take it with a grain of salt. i agree with this. some guys don't know what persona means though, and they just be checking out your tatties--big or little, from what i see. another poster made it seem like it was as easy to insult big boobs (slut-bimbo) than with small. i just wondered what would be used as an insult. i'm not sure if she answered, however, i'm kind of out of it.
Celeste_Craftenstein Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Being small chested, I wear padded bras because I have a youthful face and having the chest of a prepubescent girl isn't flattering when you're 21 and already have the face of a teenager. I get tired of being asked if I'm 17 or "Oh, I though you were younger." If I had SOMETHING up front, perhaps people would guess me to be my real age.
dgiirl Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Being small chested, I wear padded bras because I have a youthful face and having the chest of a prepubescent girl isn't flattering when you're 21 and already have the face of a teenager. I get tired of being asked if I'm 17 or "Oh, I though you were younger." If I had SOMETHING up front, perhaps people would guess me to be my real age. lol i'm 32, have a youthful face, wear padded bras, people still think i'm 17. Trust me, when you turn 30, and someone asks if you're over 18, it's a great feeling!
wreck_em Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I am actually in the same situation you are. My friends guy friends that meet me refer me as "the hot friend". But, guys never ask me out. They flirt or look but never take it to the next level. I just wanted to offer some moral support that you are not the only one out there with this problem!
Teacher's Pet Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I'm a leg man. I ADORE a woman with nice legs and a matching tushy. Sadly, I have my own boobs. -tp nice rack!
Guest Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 I am actually in the same situation you are. My friends guy friends that meet me refer me as "the hot friend". But, guys never ask me out. They flirt or look but never take it to the next level. I just wanted to offer some moral support that you are not the only one out there with this problem! Thanks a lot. It is a much more common problem than people would think. Society seems to think that if you are rich or beatiful, you can have anything you want, which is so untrue.
DanielMadr Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Yep, similar problem here as well. Girls think Im taken, they are intimidated by me, dont believe that I could want them, some are plain angry, rude or try to hurt me or they are insanely in love with me. Extremes. One time in my life I felt huge responsibility because of my apperance....I didnt want to break the hearts of girls so I tend to avoid them, I tried to be very gentle and a good guy. I did lots of things similar to rich kids did like volunteering for Vietnam (Fortunatelly, I wasnt born that time yet). I like helping people but too much is simply too much. And ofcourse being gentle, nice and humble a is not what attracts girls (atleast at beginning) even if they say so I know its frustrating....you look good, you are funny, with life and personal integrity, emotionally stable and NADA...no serious relationship. It sucks. Ofcourse my problem is somewhat different being a guy, because I am the active one - initiating conversations and so on. You just have to give good vibes and wait....it sucks...i feel you. I've read a few posts concerning this problem and I just figured it out. Because some people are intimidated by you or are jealous....dont start to walk slouching or try to make yourself look worse (or better) just to get their approval. When you see yourself by eyes of others you become insecure emotional wreck....just dont think about what others think of you too much (take a 'I dont give a f*ck' attitude). Dont seek approval and paradoxicaly quality people will give it to you;) Just smile (sincerely) to let people know, you are approchable. If you are not that kind of positive approchable person...work on it and become one.
DanielMadr Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 One more thing...sexappeal is also important. I know a couple of beautiful gilrs but they have no sexappeal. They behave and dress totally NONSEXUALLY. Dont start to stroke your breasts while in conversation....because sexappeal can be seen in the eyes because it is the state of mind.
IWalkAlone Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 Mmmm, If you don't like to date your guy friends and guys you are not your friends are creepy stalker types, then then maybe you tend to preceive guys as either "just friends" or "creepy stalkers."
blind_otter Posted October 20, 2006 Posted October 20, 2006 i agree with this. some guys don't know what persona means though, and they just be checking out your tatties--big or little, from what i see. another poster made it seem like it was as easy to insult big boobs (slut-bimbo) than with small. i just wondered what would be used as an insult. i'm not sure if she answered, however, i'm kind of out of it. mini tits? The slurs I can think of are all kind of amusing. mosquito bites?
Guest Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Mmmm, If you don't like to date your guy friends and guys you are not your friends are creepy stalker types, then then maybe you tend to preceive guys as either "just friends" or "creepy stalkers." I never said that other guys are "the creepy stalker type", that was another poster who made those comments. I only said that I would prefer not to date my guy friends. They are my buddies and I just don't have those feelings for them.
Guest Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Where I live, that is so not the case. Even in high school and college. If the girl was hot, so was her boyfriend. I hardly ever seen a hot guy with a regular girl. IMO if the guy doesn't think someone is attractive he isn't going to come around and ask that person out. That would be like a really good looking guy asking a girl who in their opinion looks ugly and dresses trashy. Just isn't going to happen. I just think you need to put yourself out there more and make yourself known that your single. isnt it a matter of personal preference though.Someone might be hot to one person but to another they might be ordinary. To the poster i think that beauty isnt everything some people will look at you and think your hot other people may have different tastes.Just because your beautiful doesn't mean you come top of the list.I think maybe you should concentrate more on others qualities you have rather than just beauty alone. Beauty fades with age and you wont always have that.Its your other qualities that keep the guy.Confidence had alot to do with it,if you look confident you will attract people.
DanielMadr Posted October 24, 2006 Posted October 24, 2006 isnt it a matter of personal preference though.Someone might be hot to one person but to another they might be ordinary. To the poster i think that beauty isnt everything some people will look at you and think your hot other people may have different tastes.Just because your beautiful doesn't mean you come top of the list.I think maybe you should concentrate more on others qualities you have rather than just beauty alone. Beauty fades with age and you wont always have that.Its your other qualities that keep the guy.Confidence had alot to do with it,if you look confident you will attract people. Yeah but some people are just hot. Not for 100% but it is not totally irrelevant either. When she is beautiful she will get different responses from people. Guys are intimidated etc. She is concentrating on other qualities but she has the 'pretty face' stigma....that what she is talking about. Beauty fades with age but when you are ugly in 18 then it will get much worse meanwhile beautiful 18 will be still yummy in 40. Confidence is a must have for a guy. Good for girl too, ofcorse but not so open masculine one, she should hold on her feminine qualities.
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