IpAncA Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Well either guys think your already taken, your in the wrong spots or your giving off the leave me alone vibe.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Hm.. I had to chime in because I used to have this problem. I didn't date anyone until I was 22. Then I married the first man I dated. We've been married 10 years now. Well, the weirdest thing was that after I was married, men would hit on me left and right!!! Men can sense when you are *desperate* for a LDR, perhaps?? My advice to you: just relax and have fun being single. When the time comes, you'll meet someone special.
phyrespryte Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Well, the weirdest thing was that after I was married, men would hit on me left and right!!! Men can sense when you are *desperate* for a LDR, perhaps?? I seriously think that must be it. I mean that would explain why when you're not expecting to meet someone...you do.
Guest Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Hm.. I had to chime in because I used to have this problem. I didn't date anyone until I was 22. Then I married the first man I dated. We've been married 10 years now. Well, the weirdest thing was that after I was married, men would hit on me left and right!!! Men can sense when you are *desperate* for a LDR, perhaps?? My advice to you: just relax and have fun being single. When the time comes, you'll meet someone special. Wow That's interesting!
monkey00 Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 "look can be intimidating" , nuff said. Im not big on giving men advice to women but here it is: Tell me how you dress , and whats your makeup like on a daily basis. Do you dress/look your best everyday? If so, perhaps tone it down a bit, but still be presentable to people. Whether or not you are shy, appearance makes a huge difference..yes you're pretty, lets put that aside for now. Speaking from experience if meeting girls in a social situation, if the girl is closed off/not interested in talking...in most cases that girl is taken. So you have to do the opposite affect, make yourself available and be interested in what a guy says and him in general..however that does not imply that you should be desperate, have your own life also. If you see you're about to pass a guy down the hall and you're interested, make EC, smile, and if he does the same, you should look away/down before he does. Or better yet, keep the EC as long as he does and say 'hi', and make some small talk with him. If you're confident enough ask him out, if you arent, wait for him to make the move. Keep it light and short, and dont stay around like you have nothing else better to do, guys like a challenge also. Remember the worst thing you can do to confuse a guy is send off mixed messages or signs of disinterest.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I seriously think that must be it. I mean that would explain why when you're not expecting to meet someone...you do. Very good point, I think they should do some university study on this observation. I think it would yield interesting results. Excellent!
StayClose Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 Not true! I never met anyone when I was home in bed sick!
Yamaha Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 it sucks approaching a cute girl when she's with a couple other girls its always trouble and I hate doing it. Not true. You just need the right approach. Try this next time a group of women are sitting together. Find you an empty chair and walk up to the group (carrying the chair) and ask "is this chair is taken"? It will be good for a laugh and you can sit down and find out about the cutie you had your eye on.
IWalkAlone Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 How do you handle the awkward moment when the girls all give each other the look that means "Who's this weird guy who just barged in on our conversation?"
phyrespryte Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 How do you handle the awkward moment when the girls all give each other the look that means "Who's this weird guy who just barged in on our conversation?" Well you could make a joke. And if it's still awkward...then leave? I don't know. Just keep talking until you feel like it's time to leave. The last time something like that happened to me...all of us girls were kicking ourselves for not inviting the guy out with us later.
infatuated Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I completely know what you mean, the only difference is that I am in high school. Ive only ever really been asked out by one guy, but I am (I dont mean to sound conceited, im just told all the time) really pretty. But Im also really shy. haha. I find it incredibly frustrating. Maybe being shy does make people seem arrogant?
Rooster_DAR Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I completely know what you mean, the only difference is that I am in high school. Ive only ever really been asked out by one guy, but I am (I dont mean to sound conceited, im just told all the time) really pretty. But Im also really shy. haha. I find it incredibly frustrating. Maybe being shy does make people seem arrogant? I can also relate to this. I was in a club last weekend and the girl I met told me I looked like I was very standoffish and conceited. I am totally opposite of that.
phyrespryte Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I can also relate to this. I was in a club last weekend and the girl I met told me I looked like I was very standoffish and conceited. I am totally opposite of that. I get that too. One time someone told me they thought I was some air-headed cheerleader.
lonelycutie Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I get that too. One time someone told me they thought I was some air-headed cheerleader. A few people have told me that when they first saw me, they assumed I was a ditzy "valley girl", and never would have guessed I am in med school. Sad that so many people judge a book by its cover.
monkey00 Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 A few people have told me that when they first saw me, they assumed I was a ditzy "valley girl", and never would have guessed I am in med school. Sad that so many people judge a book by its cover. That's life. We all judge, we are also clueless. Think of it this way, they're at a loss because they missed out on a chance to truly get to know what kind of person you are.
Matt L Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 Hrm, this is an interesting dilemma... but I guess it really only confirms a minor irritation I've been having at the way things are, socially. My college is literally "swarming" with a bountiful supply of gorgeous, pretty, "hot" women and handsome, athletic "hot" men (just so you know though, I don't like the word "hot," it's lame). Then, there is naturally a population consisting of us regular looking people... not amazing, but certainly not ugly. Anyway, anyone who could put two and two together would naturally assume that the "hot" girls pine for the "hot" guys, and that the "hot" guys reciprocate, and that together they have an elitist "hot" utopia where they plan to breed version 2.0 of the human race, but this isn't the case. The "hot" guys instead target the "regular" girls, leaving both the "hot" girls and "regular" guys SOL in many cases. So I say blame the men. It's their fault for not having the balls to ask you out. I don't ask out really pretty girls because I know they know that they can do better than me, but really, the good-looking men, do they even have a legitimate excuse? If the supermodelesque men all had more balls then everyone would be happier, see?
allina Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 A few people have told me that when they first saw me, they assumed I was a ditzy "valley girl", and never would have guessed I am in med school. Sad that so many people judge a book by its cover. People assume a lot just by looking at someone. I've had people tell me that their first thought of me was that I would be a total bitch, thats before even talking to me. I don't really see the point of telling me something like that, how am i to even reply to that?
CrushedOrgans Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 People assume a lot just by looking at someone. I've had people tell me that their first thought of me was that I would be a total bitch, thats before even talking to me. I don't really see the point of telling me something like that, how am i to even reply to that? yeah, if you're pretty, smart, and have bib boobs you're a bitch, and fairly often you're a slut too. oh, well. as long as i don't have walk through insults being hurled at me, i can live with the fact that people are thinking incorrect thoughts in their heads.
allina Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 yeah, if you're pretty, smart, and have bib boobs you're a bitch, and fairly often you're a slut too. I HATE the boob thing! Why is it that big boobs = slut/bimbo?! My boobs are way too big for my size and frame and I'm really insecure about it
CrushedOrgans Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I HATE the boob thing! Why is it that big boobs = slut/bimbo?! My boobs are way too big for my size and frame and I'm really insecure about it i used to be a little insecure, too. but then i thought, well, they're wrong, and my boobs are still nice, and definitely nicer than than theirs. helps ya get over it when you see the reality.
IpAncA Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 The "hot" guys instead target the "regular" girls, leaving both the "hot" girls and "regular" guys SOL in many cases. So I say blame the men. It's their fault for not having the balls to ask you out. I don't ask out really pretty girls because I know they know that they can do better than me, but really, the good-looking men, do they even have a legitimate excuse? If the supermodelesque men all had more balls then everyone would be happier, see? Where I live, that is so not the case. Even in high school and college. If the girl was hot, so was her boyfriend. I hardly ever seen a hot guy with a regular girl. IMO if the guy doesn't think someone is attractive he isn't going to come around and ask that person out. That would be like a really good looking guy asking a girl who in their opinion looks ugly and dresses trashy. Just isn't going to happen. I just think you need to put yourself out there more and make yourself known that your single.
IpAncA Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 I HATE the boob thing! Why is it that big boobs = slut/bimbo?! My boobs are way too big for my size and frame and I'm really insecure about it You think your insecure about it, I'm the other end of that pole.
allina Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 You think your insecure about it, I'm the other end of that pole. Maybe it's the whole grass is greener thing but I think I'd prefer to be on your side, you can always wear a wonder bra, I can't make them go away. Okay, now I'm getting all down about the boobies
CrushedOrgans Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 You think your insecure about it, I'm the other end of that pole. yeah i can see how that would suck too. everybody has a story. i'm curious though, beyind the most basic, most obvious insult about a smaller chest ("you have small boobs") do people think it makes you act a certain way because of the size? i mean like, big boobs=bimbo/slut, small boobs=???? do you experience anything like that?
phyrespryte Posted October 18, 2006 Posted October 18, 2006 i'm curious though, beyind the most basic, most obvious insult about a smaller chest ("you have small boobs") do people think it makes you act a certain way because of the size? i mean like, big boobs=bimbo/slut, small boobs=???? small boobs = virgin or good girl I get that a lot too. I meet guys and they're like...you've had sex right? My friend said I could be a pole dancer and I'd still look innocent.
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