I may have gotten a girl pregnant, and i'm acting immature about it

[ChampionSound]

Big news today! She got her period, so all is good. Thanks for the helping hands everyone. I have a lot to think about, and some changes to make in my life.

 

Sixth st girl, I'm tempted to get into it with you about the whole premarital sex thing - but I doubt anything I say could change your mind about what god really wants from us. Let's just say I'm still learning, and as long as I keep doing that, I think I'll be ok in the eyes of the creator. Righteousness is good though. I like that in a person

 

I don't feel that I led this girl on. From the first time she expressed interest in more than sex, I shut her down. I think most people know that this isn't an easy thing to do, because you can see that someone is hurting. I didn't want to use her for sex. I wanted us to use eachother for sex. When it was clear that wasn't going to be the case, I cut her off.

 

One more thing has come up though. She has asked to meet up with me to talk. I'm not sure what about, and she got angry when I suggested we just talk on the phone. My plan is to not see this girl again. She is a cool person, but I'm not sure what the benefit would be to meeting up again. Should I give her carte blanche here? Do I owe her that after all of this? In my head, I just want to move on. But maybe this is where I can redeem myself for freaking out over the pregnancy scare thing. In my eyes, whatever lessons are to be learned here will be done individually. For all the mistakes I made, I'll have to learn how to change on my own.

[bluechocolate]

Big news today! She got her period...

 

Now, why doesn't that surprise me?

[ChampionSound]

Clue me in, bluechocolate. What happened here? I'm still undecided.

[bluechocolate]

Clue me in, bluechocolate. What happened here? I'm still undecided.

 

I don't know what happened either. However, it is not beyond some women to use a pregnancy or a false pregnancy to trap a guy into commitment. You said that she wanted more from this relationship than just sex, then she changes her mind - that I find hard to believe. IMO she said agreed to just sex to keep you in her life then probably regretted it, feeling used. Friends with benefits rarely works out.

[ChampionSound]

IMO she said agreed to just sex to keep you in her life then probably regretted it, feeling used.

 

Yeah. I could see that might be true too. I'll know better next time around. But this meeting up thing still has me thrown. Maybe she wants to come out with her feelings for me, which I don't really think is a good idea. All I could possibly do is shut her down again, and it's not fun.

[magda]

I think she has fallen really attached for you (how else to put it) and pretty much wanted/wants a serious relationship with you. The pregnancy was maybe wishful thinking, but also kind of a test of your feelings and you proved that you are not in love with her. That hurt her and now there is nothing to keep you around so she wants to see you. A kind of last ditch effort to reign you in. I don't think she's consciously planning all this, just immature, needy, infatuated, whatever.

 

I think you might as well meet with her. If for nothing else it may prevent a few drive-by stalkings and late night drunk phone calls and such.

 

 

This is now irrelevant but you were wondering about the missed period: If a woman is unable to take an accurate pregnancy test because it is too early, that typically means she has not yet missed a period. Once the period is missed, a preg test will usually be accurate. There are early detection tests too, tho.