Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I'm pregant with my second child. We are all very excited even our 7 year old son. He has been the only child and gotten most of the attention for the last 7 seven years. He can be quite a handful sometimes and unruly. He is also very spoiled. I guess that mine and my husbands fault becasue we have always given into him. He makes us feel quilty over the littliest things. So I can't imagine how it might be with a new baby. I understand a new baby is a big adjustment for all of us. But I'm really afraid our son will be jelaous. Maybe some jealousy is normal, but he will act out big time I just have that feeling. Whats the best thing to to do about this? or hows the best way to handle it if this happens? We will be sure to involve him as much as possible on all things with the pregnancy and the birth etc. If after the baby is born, we have involved him continue to show him love and affection, talk to him about the baby etc, if he is still mad or acting out, could there be another cause?
JackJack Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I'm pregant with my second child. We are all very excited even our 7 year old son. He has been the only child and gotten most of the attention for the last 7 seven years. He can be quite a handful sometimes and unruly. He is also very spoiled. I guess that mine and my husbands fault becasue we have always given into him. He makes us feel quilty over the littliest things. So I can't imagine how it might be with a new baby. I understand a new baby is a big adjustment for all of us. But I'm really afraid our son will be jelaous. Maybe some jealousy is normal, but he will act out big time I just have that feeling. Whats the best thing to to do about this? or hows the best way to handle it if this happens? We will be sure to involve him as much as possible on all things with the pregnancy and the birth etc. If after the baby is born, we have involved him continue to show him love and affection, talk to him about the baby etc, if he is still mad or acting out, could there be another cause? Congratulations. Yes I'm sure it will be a big adjustment. No matter how many kids you already have anytime theres a new addiction to the family there will be an adjustment for all. You say he is unruly, how so? Is he defiant? I'm assuming he is in school? Does he act this way at school to or just at home? If he only acts that way at home then chances are the problem lies within the household. How are you and your husband towards him? Do you both discipline? If so wht are your techniques? Does he get mixed messages? The fact you say he is spoiled, is something you and your husband are going to have to undo NOW. That is, assuming it can even be undone at this point. Spoiled I'm sure you are meaning with material things? If he doesn't get his way or what he wants does he have a fit? You both are going to have to pull together as a team with this. If you say no, mean no and stick to it and your husband will have to do the same. I do believe a certain amount of jealousy between siblings is normal. And after 7 years with him being used to being the only one yes it will probably be a challenge. There are some books out there too about easing the transition when a new baby arrives etc. that might give you some helpful tips.
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