Almost Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 It seems like most people say that they hate it when people play games when dating. Yet it seems like a lot of people do it anyways. So I have several questions for everyone relating to this: 1) Do you play games when dating? If so which ones are your favorites? 2) Do you hate it when someone plays games? If so which ones do you hate most? 3) Let's take inventory of all the different kinds of games people play when dating. Please list off the games you have experienced people playing on you, as well as any games you yourself have played.
alphamale Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 1) Do you play games when dating? If so which ones are your favorites? yes I do. Scrabble is always fun as is Pictionary and Trivial Pursuit. My favourtie card game is Euchre which is big in Michigan and Canada. And sometimes I like to take the little lady to the casino.
Author Almost Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 Very funny. Here's a list to get people started: Playing hard to get. Trying to act like the one who cares least about the relationship. Saying you'll call, and then not calling. Saying that you don't care what we do or what happens, when you do care deeply and you're just testing. Testing of any kind. Trick questions. No win questions.
Author Almost Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 oh sorry, i though you meant game games... No I mean relationship games that men play on women and women play on men. Alpha, you're playing the game called: "I'll pretend not to know what he's talking about, when in fact I do totally understand what he's talking about." That's a good one.
Pyro Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 It seems like most people say that they hate it when people play games when dating. Yet it seems like a lot of people do it anyways. So I have several questions for everyone relating to this: 1) Do you play games when dating? If so which ones are your favorites? 2) Do you hate it when someone plays games? If so which ones do you hate most? 3) Let's take inventory of all the different kinds of games people play when dating. Please list off the games you have experienced people playing on you, as well as any games you yourself have played. I don't play games, nor do I enjoy them. Getting to know the person and finding out if we are compatible or not is good enough for me.
alphamale Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I don't play games, nor do I enjoy them. Getting to know the person and finding out if we are compatible or not is good enough for me. hey RIDDLER...are you getting ready for the Tigers game? 1 more hour. Me and some friends are going to the Library Pub.
Pyro Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 hey RIDDLER...are you getting ready for the Tigers game? 1 more hour. Me and some friends are going to the Library Pub. I am ready. I have my feet up on the coffee table, with a six-pack next to me. I'd rather watch the game here then go to a bar full of bandwagon fans.
whichwayisup Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 My favourtie card game is Euchre which is big in Michigan and Canada. I got REALLY good at Euchre when I was in College! hehe.. I am not a "game" person and even though afew of my ex's were, I never stooped to their level, which is probably why the relationships ended. Now, game playing for FUN is OK. Like when having sex, or just being silly, but mind games are just plain stupid, done for EGO and people get hurt.
Pyro Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I got REALLY good at Euchre when I was in College! hehe.. I am not a "game" person and even though afew of my ex's were, I never stooped to their level, which is probably why the relationships ended. Now, game playing for FUN is OK. Like when having sex, or just being silly, but mind games are just plain stupid, done for EGO and people get hurt. I am a euchereholic. I could not have written this better myself.
whichwayisup Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I am a euchereholic. So that makes you, me and alpha...We need one more person! Anyone? Anyone? Bueller, Bueller? heeh.. I could not have written this better myself. Thanks.
jaylee Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Very funny. Here's a list to get people started: Playing hard to get. Trying to act like the one who cares least about the relationship. Saying you'll call, and then not calling. Saying that you don't care what we do or what happens, when you do care deeply and you're just testing. Testing of any kind. Trick questions. No win questions. I absolutely despise the aforementioned games. I'm not going to waste my time on that garbage. I prefer only to associate with those who are straight-up and honest, whether it be a romantic relationship or a platonic friendship. I appreciate people who are willing be be open and honest. Sometimes putting your true feelings on the line can be scary, but in the end, it's worth it.
CrushedOrgans Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 if i was still dating and looking for a relationship, no. if i was just dating and having fun and not looking for something serious, i absolutely without a doubt would play games. that's the freaking whole fun of it.
Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 My best bud and I were always undefeatable at Euchre Here's a list to get people started: Playing hard to get. Trying to act like the one who cares least about the relationship. Saying you'll call, and then not calling. Saying that you don't care what we do or what happens, when you do care deeply and you're just testing. Testing of any kind. Trick questions. No win questions. Games are for kids. What kind of loser only wants someone who doesn't like him - or acts as if she doesn't like him? I suppose if you are a chronically needy person you can try to fool someone into thinking you're not for a while by doing all this stuff, but eventually he'll find out that you've got problems anyway and you'll end up dumped. False advertising only gets you a dissatisfied customer. The smarter thing to do, if you have issues you think you need to 'play games' to hide, is get to a shrink and get normal. Because when people play 'games', there's always a loser - and it's most likely to be you.
Craig Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 No games here, what you see is what you get from day #1. Playing games with me is the kiss of death to ANY potential relationship or relationship. Oh and I don't appreciate being 'worked' either. I mean come on what is the purpose of game playing or workin someone?
Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 what is the purpose of game playing or workin someone? It is to pretend you're something that you're not to fool someone into falling for the fake you. God only knows why, because you can't keep up pretending forever and you'll be found out eventually and then just look like a twit. And end up miserable in a bad relationship. How dumb is that? BE WHO YOU ARE. And if she or he doesn't appreciate the real you, then you do NOT need that person in your life. It is a wonderful experience to be loved for who you are. Don't settle for less. If you're clingy, find someone who likes to be clung to. There's someone for everyone, even the dysfunctional
elijahBailey Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 if i was still dating and looking for a relationship, no. if i was just dating and having fun and not looking for something serious, i absolutely without a doubt would play games. that's the freaking whole fun of it. word word word.... And did you also know that married people play games too, even if they don't ever plan to leave their marriage? It's the thrill they seek.
everlong Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 no. i don't like to play games. tricks are for kids silly rabbit!
Author Almost Posted October 15, 2006 Author Posted October 15, 2006 if i was just dating and having fun and not looking for something serious, i absolutely without a doubt would play games. that's the freaking whole fun of it. Ok, so please be specific and expand on your answer. What games would you play? Please provide some good anecdotes or stories. And did you also know that married people play games too, even if they don't ever plan to leave their marriage? It's the thrill they seek. So what kind of games do married people play? Please be specific.
Author Almost Posted October 15, 2006 Author Posted October 15, 2006 I absolutely despise the aforementioned games. I'm not going to waste my time on that garbage. Playing games with me is the kiss of death to ANY potential relationship or relationship. Oh and I don't appreciate being 'worked' either. Ok, well please share some stories or anecdotes of when someone played a game on you, and you hated it and/or it didn't work. Thanks!
elijahBailey Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 So what kind of games do married people play? Please be specific. sorry, trade secret
Adunaphel Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 1) Do you play games when dating? If so which ones are your favorites? The only one I play now is "spot the game" or "turn your cards upwards". I recently started to play it, but I am quite good for a beginner. The rules are simple: you realize the other person is playing a game, you let them know. The more you embarass them, the more points you score. 2) Do you hate it when someone plays games? If so which ones do you hate most? The one I hate most is when the other person makes me jealous on purpose. I regularly fall for it like an idiot, get upset and lose a good amount of dignity. 3) Let's take inventory of all the different kinds of games people play when dating. Please list off the games you have experienced people playing on you, as well as any games you yourself have played. Games played on me: - delay phone calls on purpose - vanish and reappear after a lot of time - be rude/unpleasant/hurtful on purpose - alternate kindness with unpleasantness - give you the idea they are interested and considering a relationship - they don't *say* it, but act like they do - when all they want is getting in your pants. - pretend you are less interested than you actually are. - generally make you believe they are planning to do certain things for you, when they won't. - flirt with you/ send you mixed signals/string you along either on purpose or anyway being aware of it even if they are not interested - it's a quick way to get attention and bond with you in short time. - make you jealous on purpose - not saying things like "I am not interested in you" clearly, in a straightforward way. - manipulating/brainwashing you into believing that certain things are okay in a relationship and if you have a problem with it, you are limited/immature. - belittle you or pick on you on purpose to make you less self-confident. - testing you. in a more or less subtle way. Always unnecessarily. - accuse you of cheating, etc. when they know you didn't. - Upset you on purpose, going for your soft/sensitive spots, just to prove that you have a bad temper. And complain that you are nagging/aggressive/abusive. - "brutal honesty" and bashing with the excuse that they do it for you and for your own good. I'm sure there are more. Games I played: I've played "ignoring you on purpose" games. I've also done a lot of testing games, but I was not aware of it. And I strung some guys along (not on purpose). I played the "I'm vanishing to see if you will run after me" game - I'm playing it right now with a guy, even if I'm telling myself I'm just going no contact. I've pretended people were asking me out to impress a guy and done/said things in a fleeble attempt to sound more interesting. Again, there must be a lot more. There are also a lot of games involving friends in common!
elijahBailey Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 The only one I play now is "spot the game" or "turn your cards upwards". I recently started to play it, but I am quite good for a beginner. The rules are simple: you realize the other person is playing a game, you let them know. The more you embarass them, the more points you score. Wow... you would call the guy out just so you can embarass him.... I don't think I would wanna meet you in person. That's just way too scary
Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 - delay phone calls on purpose - vanish and reappear after a lot of time - be rude/unpleasant/hurtful on purpose - alternate kindness with unpleasantness - give you the idea they are interested and considering a relationship - they don't *say* it, but act like they do - when all they want is getting in your pants. - pretend they are less interested than you actually are. - generally make you believe they are planning to do certain things for you, when they won't. - flirt with you/ send you mixed signals/string you along either on purpose or anyway being aware of it even if they are not interested - it's a quick way to get attention and bond with you in short time. - not saying things like "I am not interested in you" clearly, in a straightforward way. Congratulations! You've just written the user manual for 'how to play games to catch someone'. Sadly, some people actually think that this behaviour is necessary to 'win' someone. I say whoever you 'win' behaving that way is no prize. Yes, some women will hang in there throughout all this - NOT because it's desirable behaviour, but because they keep hoping the dope will drop the games and turn into an actual decent person because these guys aren't necessarily bad; they've just bought into the inane blatherings of some twits who counsel men to behave like idiots. The theory is that it gives the men 'mystery' or some such thing and the guys fall for it. The only mystery is why women don't just drop-kick these sorts right from the start. (smacks head on desk)
Adunaphel Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Wow... you would call the guy out just so you can embarass him.... It's actually out of hope they'll stop playing games with me. I don't think I would wanna meet you in person. That's just way too scary I'm taking it as a compliment. I'm relatively nice, actually.
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