loveinlife Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Geez, I don't know where to start. 10 mins ago, I was having flashbacks when I just woke up. Times with spending with the ex. I've been getting these flashbacks before when I used to wake up in the morning. They disappeared awhile back but has started again since yesterday. Dream: Last niight I dream about my ex. Of seeing her w a different guy a club everytime I bump into her. Reality: I saw my ex a few times in clubs, the last time she was with a guy. I dunno, I thought I was sorta over it. But then that dream really brought up my subconcious of how hurt I am. I guess, its love, rejection, and frustration. Anyhow, I hope this pain will go away, I don't want to feel like crap when I have these flashbacks. Good luck to everyone!
KittenMoon Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I have found I feel the utter worst when I wake up after having a dream with my ex in it, despite whether I'm dreaming something good or bad about him. I think dreaming of someone just stirs things up, bringing more acute feelings to the surface. It passes after a bit. But it sucks, I'm there with ya.
Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Ditto KM, I understand what you are feeling. -Loveinlife
ANSWERSFORYA Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I have done it before.Getting over ex and healing will not happen without closure.You only get closure from inside yourself.Go through all stages without calling or seeing you ex.You have to keep on working on yourself until you reach a point where you no longer need anyone for emotinal support!This is soooo hard to do.But once you have learned to live with your self.And are no longer afraid to be rejected.Thats when your life begins.You can love and befriend anyone and still keep to your boundaries and not get hurt.Love becomes unconditional when you can live and really love yourself.Its the needs that spoil friendships or relationships.Good luck.
everlong Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 hi answer, why does 'needs' spoil a relationship? can u explain why a need is a bad thing? is a 'want' better'? what about a 'desire'? what about an 'expectation'? hmmmmmm...let me explain my position... i don't NEED to be in a relationship. i don't NEED to be with someone to make my life complete. however, when i am in a relationship with another... i NEED a partner i can rely on because that is called teamwork i NEED a partner that will be faithful because that is trust i NEED a partner that will communicate because that's how you understand each other i NEED a partner i can count on when times are tough because i will do the same etc.....
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