search4the1 Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I met this guy recently and we have been talking for the last two months. We communicated very well during all this time but we never share bed together. Last time, we both took a romantic vacation for four days and we stayed in the same hotel and same room. For the first time, we became physically intimate (well, at least we tried). I liked the way he kissed me and hold me. But the problem was he couldn't get it up (the whole four days) and I tried to talk to him if there is any problem and he said he never had any problem before. I tried many things but we failed, I felt that he is not attracted to me but told me he needed more time. Should I be concerned? Should I leave him? Honest opinion appreciated.
everlong Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 omg..are u serious? is this really your qustion? what if he said to you...geeee, you weren't very 'wet' last night...i'm gonna leave u wow
phyrespryte Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Well aside from the sex...does he do anything to make you feel like he isn't interested? Because to me it seems like he is attracted to you and he cares about you. He could probably just be really nervous about having sex. I don't know. There's a thread on here somewhere about a guy who had a problem like that. And it didn't have anything to do with his attraction to his girlfriend. It was more that he was afraid of not pleasing her. I'd give him a chance and try to read up on the subject and see what you could do to help him relax a bit.
laRubiaBonita Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 hmmmmm.... i think semi-ED is awaaay bigger prob. than is "known"...... isay give it at least 6-10 more tries. seems like alot, but your have really only been physical what.... thpose 4 days, and only knew each other fot 2 months..... not too long. some people take longer to "warm" up to someone new.... especially somewhere new. gosh..... and if you use condoms add another month to whatever the "norm" is!
elijahBailey Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I met this guy recently and we have been talking for the last two months. We communicated very well during all this time but we never share bed together. Last time, we both took a romantic vacation for four days and we stayed in the same hotel and same room. For the first time, we became physically intimate (well, at least we tried). I liked the way he kissed me and hold me. But the problem was he couldn't get it up (the whole four days) and I tried to talk to him if there is any problem and he said he never had any problem before. I tried many things but we failed, I felt that he is not attracted to me but told me he needed more time. Should I be concerned? Should I leave him? Honest opinion appreciated. Was that his first time?
Jazzy Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 If it bothers you enough, Yes indeed!.............If it were me, I would! Although (ARGUABLY) physical connection isnt everything, it plays a big part in relationships if that's the goal here, but keep in mind, you've only been talking for 2 months, it's still early; However, to start off like this? and 4 days of trying to "get it up" would frustrate the heck out of me, there are some underlying issues here.................
Author search4the1 Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 No it was not his first time. Other than the problem I mentioned, I haven't seen any other indication that he has any other problem. But he told me he usually needs more time to be physically intimate with somebody new. I want to give him another chance but we live very far apart. I met him when he was visiting my city and we are talking through the phone and e-mail. Since we bothcan not talke time off from work, we are not going to see eachother at least for the next three months. I would like to think, even if he has some kind of problem, this is 2006, this shouldn't be a big problem (medical therapy). Am I wrong to think that way? Again honest opinion is appreciated.
Jazzy Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 No it was not his first time. Other than the problem I mentioned, I haven't seen any other indication that he has any other problem. But he told me he usually needs more time to be physically intimate with somebody new. I want to give him another chance but we live very far apart. I met him when he was visiting my city and we are talking through the phone and e-mail. Since we bothcan not talke time off from work, we are not going to see eachother at least for the next three months. I would like to think, even if he has some kind of problem, this is 2006, this shouldn't be a big problem (medical therapy). Am I wrong to think that way? Again honest opinion is appreciated. Good for you! If you see fit to give him another chance then go for it!
Rooster_DAR Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I met this guy recently and we have been talking for the last two months. We communicated very well during all this time but we never share bed together. Last time, we both took a romantic vacation for four days and we stayed in the same hotel and same room. For the first time, we became physically intimate (well, at least we tried). I liked the way he kissed me and hold me. But the problem was he couldn't get it up (the whole four days) and I tried to talk to him if there is any problem and he said he never had any problem before. I tried many things but we failed, I felt that he is not attracted to me but told me he needed more time. Should I be concerned? Should I leave him? Honest opinion appreciated. I can relate here. Some men can have this problem, as I myself had the same issue when my G/F and I first met. Maybe he simply got out of the rhythm being alone for a period of time. When guys go girless for a long period they tend to masturbate alot, so consequently when they suddenly become sexual with a woman, it's a little awkward and unfamiliar. I say hang in there, he could still prove to be a real stud in the sack after he get's comfortable again, I know I am! Regards,
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