Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 OK so, I was having an affair with a MM...my boss' husband...I know it's horrible, and I'm a horrible person too, especially knowing that my boss has been a wonderful person to me and has told me before that of all the employees, I'm her favorite 'cause she can trust me...but I did it anyways, most of all because of the thrill I guess, and of course because I was extremely attracted to him. Our affair lasted less than a year and it stopped because I decided I was going to give my relationship with my ex boyfriend a last chance, and in order to do so I needed to stop seeing him. I am now extremely happy to be with my boyfriend and glad that things with MM ended, but he is still pursuing me after I made it clear that I don't want to see him again. So...how is it possible that he still wants me, now more than before? Is it just because it was ME who ended things??? I guess he always thought he had the upper hand... Or is it because he misses being with me... I also know that him and his wife have been fighting a lot lately...Is it because he is frustrated about us??? What do you think is going on...My job is being jeopardized...I know I brought this upon myself but I regret everything and want to leave all this behind but he is not really accepting things...
whichwayisup Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Ignore him. His ego is hurting and he misses the attention. Who knows how deep his feelings for you were, but it really doesn't matter seeing as he's married...To your boss. (I know you know this, but man, that's playing with FIRE!!) If he tells his wife about this, you can more or less kiss your job goodbye. You could, however, start looking for another job, that is an option...And, keep ignoring him. Don't return calls, emails - NOTHING. You have a guy in your life who wants a relationship with you, so stick with him.
everlong Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 omg....red flag alert time... first of all it really doesn't sound like to 'stopped' to give yer ex bf a chance, because, your whole post is focussing on the MM...there is one 'sentence about the ex bf' - have u asked yourself why it is that the people that show trust and respect in you [boss, bf] you treat poorly, yet, the one that is obviously using u, u continue to see as more important? do u have children? does he? it really sounds like you haven't 'stopped' - as well as he hasn't - and you two are leaving a trail of hurt bodies all around you - and for what? a thrill? have you spoken with a therapist about this?
NoIDidn't Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Ignore him. His ego is hurting and he misses the attention. Who knows how deep his feelings for you were, but it really doesn't matter seeing as he's married...To your boss. (I know you know this, but man, that's playing with FIRE!!) If he tells his wife about this, you can more or less kiss your job goodbye. You could, however, start looking for another job, that is an option...And, keep ignoring him. Don't return calls, emails - NOTHING. You have a guy in your life who wants a relationship with you, so stick with him. I second everything Whichway said. Ignore this baffoon and work on your R with your BF. You should look for another job anyway. In this guy's state, he may well have used you to hurt his W and will tell her it was you soon. I imagine he will glory knowing how much it hurt knowing that "her favorite" betrayed her trust. I also don't buy the "he won't let me go" thing. You don't want him, so that's all that matters. You let him go. What he does or doesn't do isn't your problem. Change your number. Don't talk to him anymore. And CYA! Cause he is out to hurt you and his W when he realizes that he can't have what he wants.
bluechocolate Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Find another job & get out of these peoples lives.
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