beachlover Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I haven't been on here in a while... anyway I am back and I want to hear other people's opinions who are in LDR's or who have been in the past. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years, we have not had sex because we rarely get to see eachother and we thought it would be too hard on both of us. Well this summer we went on a week long trip together across the country and we forced ourselves not to have sex, last time we saw eachother about 3 weeks ago we almost didn't stop. Now I am going to see him again tomorrow. I want to have sex but I don't know what will happen to us with the distance part. I am afraid that we will just be preoccupied with wanting to see eachother just to have sex. We are both seniors in college and have a lot going on right now. Any thoughts? Anyone been here? Thanks in advance
Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I think that by not having sex you are trying to trick yourselves. LDR's are hard & trying reguardless. My boyfriend & I had alot of sex and slowly cut it down to almost none right before he left to the other side of the country for grad school. We have every intention of having sex when we see each other again- the only reason why we stopped before he left was b/c we lived a block away from each other & had to break the habit. No matter what though you will still miss each other & want to see other. I miss my bf's hugs..but im not going to ban hugging when we are togther. You are in an adult relationship....but if you are virgins then i say don't do. If not then sex is wonderful when it is with the person you want it to be with, don't deprive yourselfs- enjoy your times togther.
Author beachlover Posted October 16, 2006 Author Posted October 16, 2006 Thanks for your reply guest. Well we are both virgins... and it is getting hard to say no every time we are together. We didn't have sex the other night, but we still have 9 months of long distance and then who knows what, it will all depend on where we are going for grad school. But nine more months for sure we are not going to see eachother all that often. Has anyone been here? What did you do?
kismat Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Now I am going to see him again tomorrow. I want to have sex but I don't know what will happen to us with the distance part. I am afraid that we will just be preoccupied with wanting to see eachother just to have sex. We are both seniors in college and have a lot going on right now. Any thoughts? Anyone been here? although i do understand your concern, I hardly think a long distance relationship can become just about sex considering you don't get to see each other very often!.. granted, yes, when you do meet up, there will be a lot of pent up "frustration", lol.. but that would include anything you're doing intimately, whether it is sex or everything but sex... if it was just about the sex, then i'm sure you'd both date ppl in college with you with whom you could have sex with more often!! lol.. but the fact that you'd both be willing to wait so much b/w visits with each other would make it more meaningful, and would prove that its not just abt the sex.. even if it may seem like that when you first see each other
justagirliegirl Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Why are you torturing yourselves over this? You have been together for 2 years without sex. Obviously it isn't just about sex. I'm in a very ldr and it is months in between seeing each other and yes sometimes I think about sex with him so much I feel like some pervert. We we get together we do it like rabbits and then we calm down and enjoy a more balanced visiting with each other. If you want to have sex just go for it! Yeah you'll probably have a blast going at it like crazy and then you'll both calm down.
mental_traveller Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 My advice is to go for it! Sex is fun, especially with someone you have feelings for. Make out like rabbits and put a grin on your face, stop trying to second guess yourselves with this excess of analysis. Less talk, more action!
Guest Posted December 2, 2006 Posted December 2, 2006 Unless you're deeply religious or otherwise may feel negative about it later. Personally, I can understand about having gotten to Senior year of college as a virgin. But me and my girlfriend started having sex only a month into our relationship because we couldn't resist it. Our relationship now is hardly based on sex, so as long as you are really compatible I don't think it should be a problem. Again, just make sure that you don't have any negative feelings about sex itself. If you're braking a pledge and are liable to regret it, then it may actually hurt the relationship. If you're just concerned about you relationship, I think it will be better with sex.
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