Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I love my boyfriend and for the most part he makes me very happy. However there are certain things that we always seem to fight about and even after four years can't reach a compromise. These issues aren't something I am willing to change on. The main two are that he finds it acceptable to make very rude comments about other chicks in front of me. (Example- we work together and some hot chick who was dressed very slutty came in, well this one sleezy guy told my bf he had to go up front to check her out. In front of me my stupid bf decided to tell this other guy thank you for letting him know about her. I mean come on, how freakin stupid do you have to be to say that in front of your girlfriend? If you aren't satisfied with how she looks to the point that you gotta check out other chicks IN FRONT OF HER and even mention it then come on you are asking for a fight. The other one is he is just plain mean sometimes. He will make comments about how I am a fatty. (I am 5 foot 1 and weigh 100 pounds) or just plain rude things like that. If I get mad he says, "You know I am joking," or ,"Oh come on I find you hot and you aren't fat." I don't find his "sense of humor" to be funny and he doesn't seem to want to change it. Any advice on what I should do would be great.
Guest Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 SCARE HIM. he will stop, he jsut doesnt think your serious about it. but u cannot joke about it. make sure he kows u are serious and that the relatiuonshhip WILL end and will end soon if he wont stop. IF he doesnt care enough to stop after being scared like that, dont break up with him becasue he may posibly be really stuck up and u two may both break up and regret it forever, but tell him you need some time apart. maybe in that time, he will learn to listen to you. if u dont do something about it soon, he will never take u seriously again. im a guy and i know something, and thats that guys are stupid, im a jerk at times too, alot actually, but one thing i know is that if i was gonna lose a girl over something like that, i would change in a second.
Guest Posted October 19, 2006 Posted October 19, 2006 SCARE HIM. he will stop, he jsut doesnt think your serious about it. but u cannot joke about it. make sure he kows u are serious and that the relatiuonshhip WILL end and will end soon if he wont stop. IF he doesnt care enough to stop after being scared like that, dont break up with him becasue he may posibly be really stuck up and u two may both break up and regret it forever, but tell him you need some time apart. maybe in that time, he will learn to listen to you. if u dont do something about it soon, he will never take u seriously again. im a guy and i know something, and thats that guys are stupid, im a jerk at times too, alot actually, but one thing i know is that if i was gonna lose a girl over something like that, i would change in a second. I also have a thread here with a very similar story to yours, and i wish it was only 4 years for me. The truth is, if you cant take the pain then get out now he will Not change and in my experience he will only get worse, do you really want to spend years on that rollercoaster of pain? Sorry to be so brutally honest .ps I have now come to my senses and ended our relationship. Yipeee !
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