Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Sorry about the generalization in the question, but let me explain my situation. There is this very shy girl who is in a few of my college classes. For weeks at the start of the semester I would notice her glancing over at me and caught her looking at me several times. I took an interest in her, too. So I changed my seat in one of the classes and started to sit near her and talked to her a bit and at least we have introduced each other now and talked a little bit. The thing is at first she was just shy, but it was still obvious she was interested. She would try to time it right leaving class so we could bump into each other, etc. She was trying to make it easy at first. But, then once I started talking to her more and trying to get to know her, she doesn't seem to be making it as easy. I am sure she is still interested cause I still see her glancing at me with that look, but what is she doing? She is really shy and I never really see her talk to anyone. I am also shy so I can relate to that. She is probably inexperienced so is she just intimidated by guys in general or do you think she is playing some kind of hard to get game? I kinda thought that a shy girl wouldn't want to play hard to get so much, but maybe I am wrong.
monkey00 Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Shy girls are shy because they're inexperienced. You could say it's playing hard to get...but they like to take things really slow because they're inexperienced. You cant rush things with them. Go up, introduce yourself and just be friendly...they'll take it as a good gesture.
Noos Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Shy girls play hard to get and IT NEVER WORKS! It comes off as disinterest. She want you to approach her. And when you do, keep the conversation flowing - please...she doesn't want any awkward silences.
alphamale Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 dude, stay away from the quiet shy chicks....they're trouble.
phyrespryte Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 dude, stay away from the quiet shy chicks....they're trouble. Yeah seriously. You never know when they'll go psycho. I should know. I'm one of them. Try to avoid saying things like...stop talking so much! Us shy people hate that.
elijahBailey Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 OP, honestly, I don't think she interested. She's just interested in the attention that you're giving. Then again, this is just my opinion, I could be wrong.
maoserr Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I'm infatuated with shy girls. You just gotta be comfortable and easy going to get to know them. Don't try anything mushy or be serious. They really like it when you can get them to relax and be comfortable.
Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 OP, honestly, I don't think she interested. She's just interested in the attention that you're giving. Then again, this is just my opinion, I could be wrong. Dude she is glancing at me every day...she noticed me first. But I appreciate your comment.
phyrespryte Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I'm infatuated with shy girls. You just gotta be comfortable and easy going to get to know them. Don't try anything mushy or be serious. They really like it when you can get them to relax and be comfortable. That is so true! But mushyness isn't a bad thing either...just depends on the timing. OP...I don't think this girl is playing hard to get. I agree with Monkey and Noos. This girl probably doesn't really know what she's doing. You should just ask her out. I mean what are you waiting for? To be 100% sure she likes you so you feel safe asking her out? She seems interested and I think that's enough of a reason to make a move.
ANSWERSFORYA Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 She is mesmerized!maybe can't look at you in the eyes.She is in love. Just go to her and talk to her and go slow she will gradually open up.maybe she is an introvert and does not like public display of afffection.Try approaching her in pricacy.Where she will not be shy.Flirt with her and talk to her.She will respond to you.Good luck.
konfuzd Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Maybe she's just got a bit frustrated that you didn't ask her out yet. She put herself out there, (which for a shy girl is really, really hard to do) and wasn't getting anything beyond small talk, so she's backing away. I don't think she's playing hard to get, more likely protecting herself from investing her time in sending out signals that aren't getting results.
monkey00 Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Maybe she's just got a bit frustrated that you didn't ask her out yet. She put herself out there, (which for a shy girl is really, really hard to do) and wasn't getting anything beyond small talk, so she's backing away. I don't think she's playing hard to get, more likely protecting herself from investing her time in sending out signals that aren't getting results. I can vouch for this, shy girls rarely put themselves on the line. If on initial attempt, they dont get their expected results...they pretend like they dont know you, and get on defensive mode. In a way the guy should make things easy for the shy girl. Try to avoid getting involved with one...they can get hot/cold on you in a second. And it is extremely hard to figure their interest level. Shy girls are also very picky, keep that in mind.
infatuated Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 She is probably similiar to me. She likes you, but she isnt used to the guys who she likes taking an interest back. So when she finds one that does, she gets scared and distances herself. I do that everytime, and no matter what happens I can't stop it. It may just turn out to be a hopeless situation. But, good luck!
monkey00 Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 She is probably similiar to me. She likes you, but she isnt used to the guys who she likes taking an interest back. So when she finds one that does, she gets scared and distances herself. I do that everytime, and no matter what happens I can't stop it. It may just turn out to be a hopeless situation. But, good luck! infatuated, you sound exactly like this girl in one of my classes. I should take my own advice for once haha! Although she kind of freaked me out today when she had a bit of a drama episode around me...a bit psychoish.
kismat Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I'm infatuated with shy girls. You just gotta be comfortable and easy going to get to know them. Don't try anything mushy or be serious. They really like it when you can get them to relax and be comfortable. this is very true!! I was SUPER shy when in my first couple years back at uni... and i would do the same... when i was interested, i would throw enough glances to let him know that i was, and always did the things like timing things so we'd bump into each other etc.. the little easy to do things. but you basically will have to do all the work!! you have to go up to her, and talk to her, and make sure to keep the convo going and flowing, too many pauses will make her feel uncomfortable. for me, what always worked is when a guy started things out on a sort of friendly level. with flirtation too, but i mean, you really gotta take it slow!! ie, start out with coffee after class, or study breaks and stuff to warm her up.. lol.. .anyway, thats just my 2 cents... thats how i needed guys to be with me back in my super shy years... good luck!! **** just wanted to add one more thing! she's likely not necessarily playing "hard to get"... she probably just has no idea what to do! :)
remedylane Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I agree with others in that you should do something about it. Maybe ask her out to eat or something. Take the next step, or at least talk to her and get to know her in class or something and see if she changes up a bit. Either way try something unless she stops looking and never gives you attention ever again...then I'd be worried myself haha.
Guest12 Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 I don't believe that she is playing hard to get. She may be waiting for you to take the next step if she is very shy. Do you think she knows that you're interested in her too? If she doesn't know or isn't sure about this, she may just be protecting herself by not revealing all her feelings first. Some people are hesitant to make the first move if they are not sure what the other person is feeling. If she is glancing at you that way, then she is definitely attracted to you. I've been in this type of situation before (as the girl). I say go for it; otherewise you might miss out on something.
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