Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 After this girl went away for the surgery it's been 15days now. Before she left we spent the night together at the airport. She told me that she doesn't have any relationship with any guys and that one guy did tell her that he likes her but she doesn't have any feelings for him. We talked bout how our parents got maried and all. She told me that her parents wouldn't disagree her marrying someone if she likes him. We talked for more than 2 hours... and i love her. I dint tell her that coz that was the first time we talked or this much, i dint feel it would be right to do so. But after she went she called me only once and that time she dint speak for much long. She sent me only one sms to my countless ones. After that night and talking i used to feel that she likes me, but now i don't think she does. Otherwise why would not she call me? She used to call her other friends but not me and i had to ask her friends for any news reg her. Should i tell her that i love her when she comes back? Or should i wait for more time... this anticipation and heartburn i want to avoid, if she doesn't like me then i can move on. That's why i ask.
db75 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 After this girl went away for the surgery it's been 15days now. Before she left we spent the night together at the airport. She told me that she doesn't have any relationship with any guys and that one guy did tell her that he likes her but she doesn't have any feelings for him. We talked bout how our parents got maried and all. She told me that her parents wouldn't disagree her marrying someone if she likes him. We talked for more than 2 hours... and i love her. I read your post through several times. I'm confused. Are you saying you met this girl at the airport and spoke to her for 2 hours and now you love her? Is that what I'm getting from this?
MikeC Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 No, he did not meet her at the airport. He stayed with her there. Honestly, I would wait more time. After not talking for 15 days and then saying 'i love you' might be a bit much. Just my opinion.
Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 No, he did not meet her at the airport. He stayed with her there. Honestly, I would wait more time. After not talking for 15 days and then saying 'i love you' might be a bit much. Just my opinion. MikeC is right, i dint meet her at the airport ifact she studies with me in college. I tried callig her today and she dit pick the phone and i did sent her sms ad she dit reply either, the oly excuse i could find myself to satisfy me is that her mobile is roamig w ad it costs to sed sms and make or recieve calls ad her mobile is prepaid and maybe her credit is runing low. Last news i got of her a couple of days back was that her surgery was over, and this i got from a friend of hers and these days he's also acting strange by not telling me everything. Before she went and the way she talked with me i believe that she did like me.. but i don't know if 15 days would chage that..circumstances change. That's why i'm a bit worried. Thanks friends.
phyrespryte Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 We talked for more than 2 hours... and i love her. Um...you talked for 2 hours...that's not love. Perhaps you might've felt a bond and learned more about her. But it's way too early to be thinking about love. Stop sending her messages. Stop calling her. And don't tell her you love her when you see her. You're coming across as really needy and desperate. Actually you've probably freaked her out already. And stop asking her friends about her. Her phone clearly works. And I'm sorry, but she's probably avoiding you now. I think she probably liked spending time with you and would've liked to spend more time with you...but now she's freaked out. I don't know if you can really fix things. But if you want to ease your heartburn and anticipation...forget about this girl and move on.
Guest Posted October 17, 2006 Posted October 17, 2006 I don't know if she's freaked out or not...i think she likes me otherwise why would she take the initiative to be with me when she had other options? I did sent her a message couple of days back telling her that 'i'm worried coz i don't know how she is or where she is and i'm eager to know about her whereabouts'. And for that she replied like 'she's fine and she's not supposed to use the phone (she had an eye surgery). don't worry'. She dint tell me when she's gonna come back though. I think now she's playing hard to get. I would categorise her as the strong independent type of girl. Is it really better to stop msn her? Then what would she think if i suddenly stop msgn her? I used to msg her everyday upto three or four times asking how she is and all.
phyrespryte Posted October 21, 2006 Posted October 21, 2006 Guest what are you doing? Why would you message her 3 times a day...just to ask how she's doing? That's overkill!!!! And you know that she's just had eye surgery and still you send her messages?!?! Imagine if it were you, you'd feel suffocated. She's not playing hard to get. She's not interested in you. If she was interested in you she would've contacted you. She would've also told you when she was coming back home. Please stop messaging her! She'll be happy you stopped. And if there was any interest in you left...she'll start messaging you. If not...at least you'll stop looking obsessive and you'll be able to get over her quicker.
MikeC Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 Guest what are you doing? Why would you message her 3 times a day...just to ask how she's doing? That's overkill!!!! And you know that she's just had eye surgery and still you send her messages?!?! Imagine if it were you, you'd feel suffocated. She's not playing hard to get. She's not interested in you. If she was interested in you she would've contacted you. She would've also told you when she was coming back home. Please stop messaging her! She'll be happy you stopped. And if there was any interest in you left...she'll start messaging you. If not...at least you'll stop looking obsessive and you'll be able to get over her quicker. This could be defined as the perfect response to this post. Sending 3-4 messages a day is too much. I used to do that way back in the day, but found out that it really just pisses a girl off. Try sending her 1 text in the early afternoon time and let it go at that. Trust me, if she gets your message and wants to respond, SHE WILL. If you also have told her that you want to know of her whereabouts and what she is doing, you might be setting yourself up for a crash and burn. Sounds like you are indirectly watching over her (not in a good way). She just got eye surgery. Let her recover first. She will thank you for it later.
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