BlueEyedGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I was walking along looking like c$rap, no make up, exercise clothes and some guy walks past and kind of looks me up and down and smiles at me. He was pretty hot so I smiled back and after we walked past each other we both turned back at the same time. So he asked me if we can chat for a bit. I found out his name, that he works as a chef and not much else. He asked me if I have a boyfriend and then asks for my number and says that he wants to take me out tommorrow night. He will pick me up and we will go for drinks somewhere. Said he will call to confirm. I'm just not sure how safe I would feel sitting in a car of a virtual stranger who can for all I know be a serial killer. Then again, what are the chances of that. Plus picking up on the street is kind of sleazy. Do I go or blow him off?
Cheshire Cat Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 If you like him and he looks like an okay guy to you, pick a place you know and like and offer to meet him there. Be careful about not drinking too much.
bluechocolate Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Giving a stranger (hot or not) on the street your name, address & phone number is not the wisest of things to do IMO. Ah well, what's done is done. Yes, meet somewhere public & have a viable exit strategy ready in case he turns out to be a jerk.
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 I only gave him my first name and my mobile number. Oh after our chat he suddenly took my hand in his and then kissed me lightly on the lips before he left. Kind of sweet....
Yoohoo Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I agree, tell him you'll meet him somewhere...meeting a total stranger somewhere is one thing, but getting in a car with one is totally different Good luck & have fun!
Cheshire Cat Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Oh after our chat he suddenly took my hand in his and then kissed me lightly on the lips before he left. Kind of sweet.... One more reason not to be alone with him anywhere on your first date - or until you have figured out what kind of guy he is.
justagirliegirl Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 He seems a little too well rehearsed with what he did. Got player bad boy written all over him.
littlekitty Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Yup, go along. But as the others said, meet him some where, in public, with lots of people around. And don't drink a lot. Other than that, have fun!! As an after thought: Picking up on the street can't be that sleezy? After all you turned around too!! Where's the harm in going after something you liked?!
dgiirl Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 One more reason not to be alone with him anywhere on your first date - or until you have figured out what kind of guy he is. Wow, he kisses you after talking for a minute on the street? :confused: Boy is it me or has dating changed since I was single last? lol
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 He seems a little too well rehearsed with what he did. Got player bad boy written all over him. Yes that's the impression I got. He did and said all the right things. He was very good looking and very confident. Stylishly dressed, just the right amount of sexy cologne etc. But I don't really mind if he is a bad boy, I'm after a bit of fun it's not like I expect to find a serious commited relationship with someone I met on the street. I'm more concerned about my safety at this stage than if he will break my heart or not. I don't fall in love that easily.
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 Wow, he kisses you after talking for a minute on the street? Haha it wasn't a "french kiss" just light peck on the lips. It felt right and not creepy or anything.
dgiirl Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 But I don't really mind if he is a bad boy, I'm after a bit of fun it's not like I expect to find a serious commited relationship with someone I met on the street. I'm more concerned about my safety at this stage than if he will break my heart or not. I don't fall in love that easily. If that's true then go for it. Just remain realistic about it. When/If he calls you to setup the date, tell him you'll meet him there. And if he pushes, just tell him you'd feel more comfortable to meet him there. If he STILL pushes, refuse to go out. Any man who has honest intentions wont do anything to deliberately make the woman feel uncomfortable.
Spiderman Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I only gave him my first name and my mobile number. Oh after our chat he suddenly took my hand in his and then kissed me lightly on the lips before he left. Kind of sweet.... He's got confidence I'll give him that.
Art_Critic Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Giving a stranger (hot or not) on the street your name, address & phone number is not the wisest of things to do IMO. Ah well, what's done is done. Isn't this done every day at bars ?? Online ?? Blind Dates ?? etc etc... What is the big deal.. People are always on LS asking where to find girls.. We tell them to go outside and find them.. This guy does this and now he is bad news.. BlueEyedGirl: Just use your head.. He does seem to have player air about him, but go out on a date with the guy..
bluechocolate Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Isn't this done every day at bars ?? Online ?? Blind Dates ?? etc etc... What is the big deal.. People are always on LS asking where to find girls.. We tell them to go outside and find them.. This guy does this and now he is bad news.. Somehow I see a difference between an online dating site, arranging a date through mutual friends or going to a bar to being propositioned while walking down the street to get a cup of coffee. And where did I say he was bad news? To my mind the clever thing to have done would have been to get his number. What is the big deal.. Good question. Whatever.
dgiirl Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Isn't this done every day at bars ?? Online ?? Blind Dates ?? etc etc... What is the big deal.. People are always on LS asking where to find girls.. We tell them to go outside and find them.. This guy does this and now he is bad news.. I agree (except giving your address is not really a good idea). But I think I'd rather be picked up on the street than in a bar. Sounds like a damn hollywood movie. Never had someone pick me up, let alone on the street b4
CelloGirl Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I agree with everyone on here that there's no harm in going, so long as you meet him at a designated place and don't get in a car with him right off the bat. Also, I would tell someone where you are going, and tell them that you will call them when the date's over- just in case (just don't forget to call or your friend may have a posse roaming the streets for you:) ) Good luck, I hope it turns out well!
Almost Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Oh after our chat he suddenly took my hand in his and then kissed me lightly on the lips before he left. Kind of sweet.... Damn, how did he pull that off, with it being sweet rather than creepy? He must have been very good looking like you said, and super charming. I can imagine meeting a girl on the street, both of us looking back, and having a brief conversation and exchanging numbers, but I have a hard time imagining myself bending over to give the girl a kiss on the lips afterwards! A hug maybe, yes. Maybe a kiss on the cheek tops. But I would think the girl would push me away and take back her number if I tried to kiss her on the lips right away like that. Blueeyedgirl, could you give us a verbatim, play by play transcript of this encounter please? I'd like to see the instant replay. Thanks
Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 be careful...... I would not at all ride in a car that I have no control over with a complete stranger. first of all you know nothing about this guy, nothing. you dont even know if he is trust worthy or even if he is a chef. if you want to go out then meet him in a very public place that is pretty well lit and then watch yourself!!!! and your drink too. I would not at all get drunk I would only have one if I had any at all. I would make sure that when you leave you are leaving behind a croud and not by yourself and I certainly would not let him walk you to your car. If asked if he can just say no thats ok I got it and I will call you or you call me. do not beat around the bush on that you barely know him and that you would just like to walk to your car by yourself. I myself would go for lunch somewhere before I went to dinner just because it is night and you cant see as good. no heals where tennies so that if you have to jet you can. hahaha I really am not trying to be so scarice but gosh the world today is not safe at all. not only that no sex or one night stands cause before you know it you have something that is a gift but one you would rather not have. BE SAFE!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 And after all that the guy didn't end up calling. I'm actually not dissapointed, all I feel is releif. I hate dating, making superficial conversation etc, let alone having to worry about my safety on the top of that.
dgiirl Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 BEG, atleast you can say you had a real one-minute romance and a story to tell your grandkids lol
Loserdude Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I only gave him my first name and my mobile number. Oh after our chat he suddenly took my hand in his and then kissed me lightly on the lips before he left. Kind of sweet.... More like, kind of scary. Way way too forward. Meet him out if you choose but have the exit route as others advise and don't get too involved with him until you know him well, meet some of his friends/coworkers etc. Dating and finding a psycho is not a function of statistics. The risks are too great to just play the odds.
Loserdude Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 And after all that the guy didn't end up calling. I'm actually not dissapointed, all I feel is releif. I hate dating, making superficial conversation etc, let alone having to worry about my safety on the top of that. BEG: Dating should be fun - not a hassle. Why do you engage in superficial conversations? Maybe that's part of the problem. If you do not want to go out with someone, don't. Only go out with someone who interests you. If he doesn't, then don't go. I bet you'll see it as les of a hassle...
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 Ah but if I wait for someone that truly interests me I will have a date once in every blue moon. It takes a lot for me to get truly interested in someone. I feel like I'm perhaps being too picky and time is passing me by. Also the guys I would be interested in are either taken, gay or just not that into me. I feel like its either being alone or taking a best pick of what's on offer.
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Ah but if I wait for someone that truly interests me I will have a date once in every blue moon. It takes a lot for me to get truly interested in someone. I feel like I'm perhaps being too picky and time is passing me by. I am the same way..I'm content with my life and just by living it tends to leave out the time that is required for dating. I do online dating but I'm not serious about it and I haven't found the people online very good. Being 43, I've looked into the too picky and time passed me by things and I think they hold weight.. Even though I wouldn't change anything in my past when it comes to most things in my life I think if I had a chance I would change how picky I was as well as I made some mistakes with people that altered my future.. I would change those in a heartbeat if I could.. I think those are what we call regrets.. I have some.. no many but I do have some.. Even if I can't practice my own advice I think you need to get out there.. dating is a game of numbers and by taking chances you will find someone to be around..
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