drewicide Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I'm currently a senior in high school (am I the youngest here?). I go to a private school that is religious, so we lead many "retreats" or spiritual meetings. My retreat team led a retreat last week for these 8th graders from a middle school that is by our school. Anyways, in my group I had a couple of girls. This one girl who sat next to me (keep in mind, I was a leader in this retreat) really started giving hints and kept flirting with me. Well it has almost been a week after the retreat. We have been talking online for a few days now and we have gotten pretty close. It's kinda obvious that she wants to go out with me. But the age difference is causing a lot of problems. She wants to be "more than friends". What should I do? Keep in mind I am almost 3.5-4 years older than her. I graduate from high school next May, and she is graduating from middle school next summer. Thanks in advance!
Tony T Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 A 12th grader dating an 8th grader...NOT good at all. Back off. I don't care how much she was flirting, I PROMISE you she's not expecting you to come on to her. Little girls just emerging into puberty like to play games like this. If you really, really like this lady, get her phone number and call her in four or five years. It might be just a tad better then...or, better yet, wait six to eight years. Where do you go to school...I'd wish I'd attended some of those "spiritual" retreats...YEAH!!!
allina Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 4 years isn't a big deal when we're takling 24 & 28, but 18 & 14??! I doubt that her parents would be okay with this to say the least.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I'd wait until you're 18 and then look for thirty year olds. Believe me you'll have more fun (.....if i only had it to do over again......)
Author drewicide Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 Yeah that's what I thought too. She's scaring me so much right now thinking of cutting herself ughhh. Im trying to convince her to stop. Hopefully she is. From the beginning I knew the age difference wouldn't work. I don't think she knows what the true meaning of the word LOVE is. These younger people tend to throw that word around like it's nothing. Well here's the complete story of the past hour or so. She called me and we started talking like normal. Then she was like "what do you think we are?". I told her friends who "like" each other (to soften the blow). Then she was like "if it were me, i'd make it more than that". Then she started mentioning the age difference and stuff and she rambled on about how if I don't feel the same way then you know... Well then she was crying over the phone and stuff, saying she wants to hurt herself. I convinced her to stop and hopefully shes sleeping right now. I don't want to break her heart or anything. I am going back to her school a couple of weeks for a follow-up meeting (with the other leaders), so this will be a little awkward at that point. I know this is getting way off topic for this forum. I am sorry for that. However, I am thankful for all the advice you guys are giving me.
Author drewicide Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 Ok she keeps wanting to go out with me, and says she LOVES me. Yes...loves. Sure I kinda feel the same way, but again, the age difference. She invited me to go to the movies with her and a few of her friends (all 8th grade as well) and I declined by not answering calls. What's a good way to tell her I'm not really "interested", but I still wanna be friends that are pretty close? She's realllyyy sensitive, so it's kinda hard.
CarolAnne Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 Awww Well, she's so young I don't think you should just stop talking to her because this might be the first time she has ever tried sharing her feelings with someone and it might scare her for the rest of her life to just be dumped I'd say, buy her a good-bye present, and explain that she is too young, and you're too young and will soon be graduating/ moving away, but she is a great person and a lot of fun and will have a great life and meet lots more guys, but here is a present to remember you by At that age girls are testing you to 'see what happens' more than looking for a bf/husband
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