ilmw Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 I had to get a few groceries last night and while I was there I checked out the V-Day isle and found a purple bear that I plan on giving the W when we go out to eat. Looking forward to seeing how things go that evening. I plan taking a page from ilmw's book and getting me a new shirt that fits me (nothing fits good now with the weight loss), new pair of jeans and I'm going to look good!!!! Get some new after shave too... so not only will you tantalize her eyes, you will her nose too........ Just remember..... cool...calm.... steady... no rush....no pressure. ilmw
Gunny376 Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 Get some new after shave too... so not only will you tantalize her eyes, you will her nose too........ Just remember..... cool...calm.... steady... no rush....no pressure. ilmw Obession for Men ~ $45 to $50 WalMart carries a copycat brand for $6 to 7 I quit wearing it, because I'm not looking for a GF right now (I'm working on Mary Hunt's "Debt Proof Living" and "Dave Ramesy's "Complete Money Makeover" approach to personal finances ~ just easier to do without a relationship) , LOL! Of course the WalMart Brand doesn't last as long. Lever 2000 ~ in Men's Health Magazine listed by women as the number one soap. David DeAngelo of "Double Your Dating" recommends that you bath 3 times before going out on a date. Walmart carries an equivalent brand under the name of Equate. After the shower, Jergains Body Lotion ~ (rough elbows, scaily skin, rough knees, etc.) Learned this one from some of the toughest, meanest, badest African-American Marines. WalMart sells a cheaper version of there own. Shower to Shower (Again WalMart sells their verison of it) Body Powder. According to "Men's Health" magazine the number one thing women absolutely go crazy over about a man is his hygine, and a freshly showered and groomed man. Razor ~ can't speak enough about the Gillette Quad ~ best damn razor ever made! Shave not once ~ but twice. I've actually had women ooh and ahh over my freshly shaven, smooth skin face because of it. Make sure you use an aftershave balm ~ not aftershave. Dress? Can't go wrong with a long sleeve baby blue shirt, and kahki pants. And damn'it get a new belt and shoes to go with it! Pay attention to your shoes. She will Get a haircut at a beauty parlor, and tell her the deal, and have her cut your hair from the appreciative point of a woman. Tell her to trim the nose, ear hairs. (A good one will do it without asking)
Author PWSX3 Posted February 3, 2007 Author Posted February 3, 2007 Obession for Men ~ $45 to $50 WalMart carries a copycat brand for $6 to 7 I quit wearing it, because I'm not looking for a GF right now (I'm working on Mary Hunt's "Debt Proof Living" and "Dave Ramesy's "Complete Money Makeover" approach to personal finances ~ just easier to do without a relationship) , LOL! Of course the WalMart Brand doesn't last as long. Lever 2000 ~ in Men's Health Magazine listed by women as the number one soap. David DeAngelo of "Double Your Dating" recommends that you bath 3 times before going out on a date. Walmart carries an equivalent brand under the name of Equate. After the shower, Jergains Body Lotion ~ (rough elbows, scaily skin, rough knees, etc.) Learned this one from some of the toughest, meanest, badest African-American Marines. WalMart sells a cheaper version of there own. Shower to Shower (Again WalMart sells their verison of it) Body Powder. According to "Men's Health" magazine the number one thing women absolutely go crazy over about a man is his hygine, and a freshly showered and groomed man. Razor ~ can't speak enough about the Gillette Quad ~ best damn razor ever made! Shave not once ~ but twice. I've actually had women ooh and ahh over my freshly shaven, smooth skin face because of it. Make sure you use an aftershave balm ~ not aftershave. Dress? Can't go wrong with a long sleeve baby blue shirt, and kahki pants. And damn'it get a new belt and shoes to go with it! Pay attention to your shoes. She will Get a haircut at a beauty parlor, and tell her the deal, and have her cut your hair from the appreciative point of a woman. Tell her to trim the nose, ear hairs. (A good one will do it without asking) I am so lucky to have such great people looking out of me. I will check some of this stuff out that's for sure, but some if it I will have trouble with. 1)My hair style is pretty easy, less then an 1/8" long (and not much of it on top:p) so there isn't much styling to it. 2) I use an electric razor, never have used a blade razor before in my life so this wouldn't be a good time to try, might cut my throat! Plus it's winter time around here, so I have a full beard until April fools day. I will make sure it is trimmed. 3) Dress, I will check that one out and the Obession for Men (Walmart brand of course) I will check out. 4) I hope a long sleeve "purple" shirt will work instead of baby blue, but I'm going shopping so I might look for one while I'm there. As you can see, I usually wear something in purple, but maybe I'll surprise her with something different. If it's to cold I might go with a sweater but hopefully this cold spill will be gone by then. Thanks for all the great tips, I will look good, I will smell good, and I will go with the flow and just have fun.
ilmw Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 I am so lucky to have such great people looking out of me. I will check some of this stuff out that's for sure, but some if it I will have trouble with. 1)My hair style is pretty easy, less then an 1/8" long (and not much of it on top:p) so there isn't much styling to it. 2) I use an electric razor, never have used a blade razor before in my life so this wouldn't be a good time to try, might cut my throat! Plus it's winter time around here, so I have a full beard until April fools day. I will make sure it is trimmed. 3) Dress, I will check that one out and the Obession for Men (Walmart brand of course) I will check out. 4) I hope a long sleeve "purple" shirt will work instead of baby blue, but I'm going shopping so I might look for one while I'm there. As you can see, I usually wear something in purple, but maybe I'll surprise her with something different. If it's to cold I might go with a sweater but hopefully this cold spill will be gone by then. Thanks for all the great tips, I will look good, I will smell good, and I will go with the flow and just have fun. Awesome PW I'd definitely not wear purple... (it would show you are willing to take chances and step out of your box) Not the same old same old... As for the beard... yeah ... get er trimmed good... My goat-t always looks better.. when it is trimmed down... (neat and trim) Like gunny mentioned...maybe go to the professionals at get it done...? BTW... the razor gunny mentioned is good... it will (like he described) shave you down smooth...(get some decent shaving cream/gel) Once again... these are all things you are doing not only to show DW... but you too... that... I can change... I am changing ... and have already started to change for the better. These may seem like small /little things... and some people would not bother... but ... they are symbolic of your attitude.... of change. Some men would not do it.... because they will not... they don't have to... (and that is their ...fault) and possibly their ultimate downfall. Kinda like what Charles Darwin said.. "if yah don't adapt your gonna die out" (well he didnlt actually say it like that... but that was his point) Where shoes... I don't care if there is 10 feet of snow... where nice clean shoes... new ones are preferable (they have decent looking ones at walmart (Geezz sounds like a bunch of LS'rs have shares in Wally mart..) You show up feeling and looking like a million bucks.... you'll be amazed how it effects your mood and attitude in a positive way... and... most importantly... HAVE FUN!!!:bunny::bunny:... ilmw
Author PWSX3 Posted February 4, 2007 Author Posted February 4, 2007 Well with all this great help and information I should look like a 100 bucks or at least be dressed like a it!! I guess after cleaning the house I'll go do some shopping and see what I can come up. Yesterday was our cousins wedding and the good Lord was looking out for everyone. I had watched the news all week and they were talking cloudy, high of 7 degrees and windy. We headed up the mountains and they were correct with the wind, it was blowing so bad you could hardly see the car in front of you in places, and the roads were snow packed but we just took it easy. It took us 3 hour but we finally made it with plenty of time to spare since we left plenty early. To get to the wedding it was a 30-40 minute ride on snowmobiles & it was Patrick's first time on a snowmobile and he got to ride his own. It was so much fun winding our way up thru the Aspen and as we were on the trail the clouds broke up & the sun came out and by the time we got to the wedding it was still windy but not near as bad as when we started out and the sun was out and it was beautiful. After the wedding the trip back was quicker then what it was supposes to be but the wedding took longer then they expected because of getting everyone there and everything. Another cousin did the ceromony & of course I listened close to what he said and it brought a tear or two to my eyes. It was really good to see a young couple in love & starting there life together and I wish them the best. It's amazing how much more I am starting to pick up because I listen more and try to learn with what I'm listening to. I guess that is why God gave us two ears and only one mouth, we need to listen twice as much as we speak and maybe we will learn twice as much. When we left for home I called the W and let her know we were headed home & it would be late when we got home (this is Patrick's week over there) and she just said to have Patrick stay here because she was sick. This morning Patrick and I were talking and decided what we were going to fix for lunch (I have to get groceries) and I decided to call the W since she is sick and I asked if I could bring her some lunch today since she isn't feeling good and she thought that was very nice of me, so Patrick & I are going to make Creamy Chicken Enchiladas and we will take some over to her. Just hope everyone else is having a great weekend because mine was awesome!:bunny:
Author PWSX3 Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 Today I emailed the W a couple times about our weekend and how Patrick would like to go do the snowmobiles again sometime. She replied and said she would pay half for his sled but I emailed back and said I needed to save what I could for our trip with the Explorer group's trip to Moab. She thanked me for being concerned about her being sick & for bringing over the food for her, she said that was very thoughtful, then she added this. I have been thinking of you alot lately. Things I miss....like hugs, and how good of a kisser you are. How about if we call the 14th a "date" so we can share a kiss if it feels right....... I have asked her to a couple things with me a couple months ago but she said she wasn't ready to "date" that maybe down the road she would be ready to do that again, so I guess it must be that time. We have talked on the phone a few times and it has really been nice & tonight she went over to my folks to pay for her part of the cell phone bill and stayed and looked at pictures that my mom had taken of the wedding and I know this because she called me on her way home and told me it looked like we had fun. I plan on emailing her back and telling her; I am going on the 14th with no expectations, that I don't know what will happen but if she would like to call it a "date" then that is fine with me as well. So for the guys, has anyone ever been to a barber???? Someone told me I need to go to one to get my beard all trimmed up and they will put all that good stuff on you. I have never been to one before in my life so I don't have any ideas.
mum2three Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 You sound like a very nice, kind, lovable guy. I hope FEb 14 goes well for you. I really enjoyed your thread and all the support here. The men sure have a bond here. You have come a long way on your journey. I think the hardest thing is owning up to our shortcomings in the relationship. On LS, I learned that the key to moving on is loving yourself and bettering yourself so that you don't make the same mistakes again the next time. Of course, I am still in that process myself. Keep us posted on your trip to the barbershop. I'm sure you'll look quite spiffy for the W.
Author PWSX3 Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 You sound like a very nice, kind, lovable guy. I hope FEb 14 goes well for you. I really enjoyed your thread and all the support here. The men sure have a bond here. You have come a long way on your journey. I think the hardest thing is owning up to our shortcomings in the relationship. On LS, I learned that the key to moving on is loving yourself and bettering yourself so that you don't make the same mistakes again the next time. Of course, I am still in that process myself. Keep us posted on your trip to the barbershop. I'm sure you'll look quite spiffy for the W. Thank you very much, I try to be a nice guy. I am so thankful for the "GUYS" on LS and the support I have been given. I work in a small office with 3 other guys and they all keep telling me I should be out f*****G anything I can & use this time to do anything I ever wanted to do, I'm a free man now so take advantage of it. First off I feel I was rased better then that and I can thank my parents for that. Second I feel we are still married & we both still want to work on things. Now if it was only me or only her wanting to work on the relationship then that is another story. The guys here understand what it means and takes to grow some ba$$s and stand up to yourself & the demons you have inside you and take them head on instead of just running away from them. Learning who you are isn't just hoping you will make the mistakes again, but I feel it also helps you understand other people and there feelings. It helps you to see how to treat others the way you would like them to treat you so people do treat you better. Like I have said before I am so thankful to find LS & for all the support that people are welling to give to people they don't even know. Mum, I have also kept up with your thread and you are starting to come around. It takes time & everyone has to do it at there own speed, but as long as you keep moving forward then there is progress and that's all you can hope for. I haven't decided on the barber just yet, I still have to get all that other stuff Gunny & others have suggested.
Dad_of_3 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Mini wave for P ! Wooooooo ! :lmao: Mate it has really lifted me to read up on the progress on your thread! That really is good stuff ! As for going to a Barber, do it ! Do it for yourself ! For me, I had a friend who's GF was a hairdresser. I have had the same hairstyle for the last 8 years. I went to see her and asked her to shave off 10 years ! She did something right cause after a cut and tips on hwo to style my hair, I felt like a million dollars. To get that second look from another person, a comment hwo different you look. Go for it! Go in and leave your good graces in the hands of an expert. Let us know how it goes. By the way, n regards to a cologne. I saved up and got Emporio Armani Code for Men. Its such a nice fragrance and I have had a fair few people comment on it. Keep us posted ! Best of Luck ! :bunny::bunny: Do3
Gunny376 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I don't go to a barber, I go to a :eek: beauty salon~ hairstylist, simply because she does a better job, she trim the hair off places that hair shouldn't be, and I don't have to tell her how to cut it everytime ~ because she remebers. Women do a better job than babers. And, I'm not fussy about my hair ~ I wear it short. Not the High and Tight like I did in the Marines, but not far from what you would expect of a Marine.
Author PWSX3 Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 Gunny, I need to shop at your Walmart man, I bought some of that Obsession and it was $13.00. I didn't find the Lever 2000 so I'll have to do that again later and I need to find someplace that will trim my beard & make me look like a million bucks. :laugh: Today the W had an appointment with our counselor & afterwards the 3 of us met for pizza at our favorite pizza joint. She met us at the door with a big hug for the two of us and said she was glad to see her two favorite men. I noticed she was wearing her wedding ring but I didn't say anything, then she said something about how she surprised our counselor by having it on and told me she appreciated the last email I had sent her that talked about; even though we are separated we are still married. She hasn't warn it since before she moved out so I would say Aug sometime and she moved out in Sept. Her excuse was it didn't fit because she had gained some weight. We had a good talk & when my boy left the table she started to talk a little about us but didn't get a chance to finish so hopefully the 14th will be a time we can talk. I did tell her I was very happy to see her changes & to hear of some of the things she is working on, but I'm not ready to just jump back into our relationship just yet. Like I have said before I'm not sure if I just built up a wall to protect me or I don't have those feelings anymore or what but things are different. The counselor did call me later today & we talked about it some & she said it could be lot of things & I plan on seeing her after our dinner on the 14th because I want to see what she has to say then. We have had some great conversations in the last few days & it looks like she is trying, but like I said I'm not just jumping back into this so quick.
ilmw Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Gunny, I need to shop at your Walmart man, I bought some of that Obsession and it was $13.00. I didn't find the Lever 2000 so I'll have to do that again later and I need to find someplace that will trim my beard & make me look like a million bucks. :laugh: Today the W had an appointment with our counselor & afterwards the 3 of us met for pizza at our favorite pizza joint. She met us at the door with a big hug for the two of us and said she was glad to see her two favorite men. I noticed she was wearing her wedding ring but I didn't say anything, then she said something about how she surprised our counselor by having it on and told me she appreciated the last email I had sent her that talked about; even though we are separated we are still married. She hasn't warn it since before she moved out so I would say Aug sometime and she moved out in Sept. Her excuse was it didn't fit because she had gained some weight. We had a good talk & when my boy left the table she started to talk a little about us but didn't get a chance to finish so hopefully the 14th will be a time we can talk. I did tell her I was very happy to see her changes & to hear of some of the things she is working on, but I'm not ready to just jump back into our relationship just yet. Like I have said before I'm not sure if I just built up a wall to protect me or I don't have those feelings anymore or what but things are different. The counselor did call me later today & we talked about it some & she said it could be lot of things & I plan on seeing her after our dinner on the 14th because I want to see what she has to say then. We have had some great conversations in the last few days & it looks like she is trying, but like I said I'm not just jumping back into this so quick. A lot of this sounds really good... AND.... you know it would be a mistake after this length of time apart... to just move back in with each other.... I'd personally date her for a while... just to get comfortable with each other again... like that. Nice and easy... nice a slow... patient.... smart.... You know the drill.... you know... what to do.... now do it... Best of luck PW... really best of luck in everything brother... (well I don't think you really need the luck) ilmw
Gunny376 Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 A lot of this sounds really good... AND.... you know it would be a mistake after this length of time apart... to just move back in with each other.... I'd personally date her for a while... just to get comfortable with each other again... like that. Nice and easy... nice a slow... patient.... smart.... You know the drill.... you know... what to do.... now do it... Best of luck PW... really best of luck in everything brother... (well I don't think you really need the luck) ilmw I'm with ilmw ~ stready as she goes! Damn the torepedos! You're doing great!
Author PWSX3 Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 I can't believe I'm actually getting very excited about our "date" tomorrow evening. The W called and asked me if I wanted her to pick me up or if I wanted to pick her up? I just told her I was just going to spend some time with someone I care about and it didn't matter to me, it was her date so she could decide what she wanted to do. She asked me if I wanted to go early so I could work out or go later & work out first & I told her; I didn't have anything planned for the evening, that I wasn't planning on working out so she could plan anything she wanted. I was just going to spend some time with someone special and the only thing I had to do is be at work at 7:00 Thursday morning, besides that I was hers for the whole evening. She laughed and said; oh ya? and laughed again, she thought that was funny. She did say she is wearing jeans, so should I still dress up with the fancy pants or should I dress down a little so it doesn't look like I'm out doing her? I still plan on wearing the new shirt and the smelly stuff, but I could just wear some nice jeans and it would still look nice......... I got my little Valentine package ready for her this evening. I had posted on what kind of Chocolate is good and I got a good response on Lindt chocolate, so I bought some truffles and a dark Lindor bar. It was cheaper then a heart shaped box, then I got a purple Teddy Bear, and a little small ceramic type bear that she can set on her desk at work if she wants. I purchased a gift bag with some cool paper that I crunched up to add to the top so you can't see the bear. It looks really nice & is a little different then just a heart shaped box. Please help me out about the Jeans & then I'll be ready to rock & roll.
Gunny376 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Definately the jeans, but make sure you press the out with iron, pay attention to the small things.
ilmw Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 You don't need help... you sound like you are doing great. Hope you have a great time.. Just remember... NO PRESSURE. Just relax... and have fun. Let her lead... She is initiating this... so let her lead... let her show you how comfortable she is. K But most of all stay focused... stay calm.. and have fun. Let us know how it goes...K ilmw
a4a Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Definately the jeans, but make sure you press the out with iron, pay attention to the small things. oh and for cripes sake put on some nice underwear.... clean ones..... no holes..... except the reg. one that comes with them in the front! :p :p
Author PWSX3 Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 oh and for cripes sake put on some nice underwear.... clean ones..... no holes..... except the reg. one that comes with them in the front! :p :p They don't all have holes in the front. I plan on taking off work a little early so I can take a shower and all that pretty stuff put on, so clean undies will go on. The W had given me a clue of where we were going so I was talking to the gal next door since she lives in the town we are going to and she gave me a name of the place she thinks we are going so I called the W and let her know and it was correct, so she faxed me there menu & we joked around about it. Ilmw, you don't have to worry about me tonight, I will be calm, there is no pressure since we have been joking around about going and I have already told her I was going just to have fun with someone I care about. I can't believe how slow this day is going, I'm really looking forward to this evening. Things are looking good in the neighborhood, last night on the phone she told me she does want to go to counseling and work on getting back together. :bunny: I still have my guard up & it might take a while to get that down but we will see.
ilmw Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 They don't all have holes in the front. I plan on taking off work a little early so I can take a shower and all that pretty stuff put on, so clean undies will go on. The W had given me a clue of where we were going so I was talking to the gal next door since she lives in the town we are going to and she gave me a name of the place she thinks we are going so I called the W and let her know and it was correct, so she faxed me there menu & we joked around about it. Ilmw, you don't have to worry about me tonight, I will be calm, there is no pressure since we have been joking around about going and I have already told her I was going just to have fun with someone I care about. I can't believe how slow this day is going, I'm really looking forward to this evening. Things are looking good in the neighborhood, last night on the phone she told me she does want to go to counseling and work on getting back together. :bunny: I still have my guard up & it might take a while to get that down but we will see. GOOD...excellent..stuff!!! You know what to do... now do as you say... and do as you have learned. I...and many others I'm sure will have there fingers and toes crossed for you.. ilmw
Author PWSX3 Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 GOOD...excellent..stuff!!! You know what to do... now do as you say... and do as you have learned. I...and many others I'm sure will have there fingers and toes crossed for you.. ilmw I do appreciate it and it does mean a lot to me knowing I have people pulling for me. The guys here at work aren't the best influence that's for sure. They think I should be out screwing anything I can because I'm a free man. They think it's silly that I have to "date" my W and that I better get more out of it then just dinner. It's good to know there are people that understand that isn't how I was raised, & we are "both" trying to make this work. Now if it was just me working on getting back together and she didn't want anything to do with it then that is a different story, but I still wouldn't go out screwing around just because I need a piece of a$$!.
ilmw Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I do appreciate it and it does mean a lot to me knowing I have people pulling for me. The guys here at work aren't the best influence that's for sure. They think I should be out screwing anything I can because I'm a free man. They think it's silly that I have to "date" my W and that I better get more out of it then just dinner. It's good to know there are people that understand that isn't how I was raised, & we are "both" trying to make this work. Now if it was just me working on getting back together and she didn't want anything to do with it then that is a different story, but I still wouldn't go out screwing around just because I need a piece of a$$!. Hey PW... These guys at work...they married? If so... it is kina funny that they say these things.. (I have heard similar things too) But when they are in our boots...they are the first ones who's lives fall apart...totally...! seen that before too. Never mind there crap...they don't have a clue... like we didn't before we bothered to educate ourselves. You are miles/years...a life time ahead of your co-workers..so pat yourself on the back.. and give yourself an ataBoy! ilmw
Gunny376 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Good luck, were all pulling for you! We'll expect and after-action report by 0900 MT tomorrow! :p
Author PWSX3 Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 Well ladies & gentlemen I'm OFF!!!! Still can't believe I'm this excited just over a dinner.
dgiirl Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Awww Perry!!! Your gifts sound perfect and I'm sure she'll absolutely love them. I know I would Have fun and forget what your coworkers say. It's all hot air.
Author PWSX3 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 WOW!!!!! I don't know how I can say this without writing a book but I'll try. I picked the W up and she gave me a card that she had made & it had her favorite color, mine & Patrick's on it and it was pretty cool. Then I gave her my Valentines bag and she asked when she was suppose to open it and I told her anytime she wanted so she started opening it as we started driving to the resaurant. She really thought it was cool and liked all the different things I had put into the bag. After she was done she thanked me and then grabbed my hand and held it for a while. We got to the restaurant and got our food and just sat and visited while we ate. After we finished we just sat and talked and then she took my hands and held them while we talked. After a while she said she knew she wanted to hold my hand but that was the only thing she knew she was going to do. She said when she sent me the email and suggested that we make it a "date" that she was very nervous about what was going to happen. We talked about what we have been working on, what we want from each other, what we are afraid of when we start working at getting back together. Yes I said when we start working at getting back together. She said she misses me & that what she sees in her future has me in it, but she said she is scared to death of the what if's that keep coming up in her head. Gunny, the shirt was a success, she kept rubbing my arm and telling me my shirt felt so soft. If you remember it was suede and very soft. Anyway we must have sat there for over an hour and a half talking so we decided to got to Sam's because she wanted me to help her pick out some grilled chicken that I have been buying so we went shopping. While we were looking at a book that she wanted to show me that she bought we were reading the first little section so our faces were close so when she looked at me I gave her a quick kiss. Just a small one but I felt since she was a little nervous & the reason she asked to make it a "date" was in case we wanted to kiss that giving her one someplace she wasn't expecting it would be less awkward and she liked it. After we paid we just sat at the tables and talked some more, we held hands and she kissed me a couple times. I then took her home & we sat in the car for a while and talked then she leaned over and started kissing me a few times. O.K. a lot of times. We just held each other and kissed and then some mushy words were exchanged and she thanked me for saying them, she even told me she loves me back & she is ready to give us another try. Things felt very comfortable for me, they felt like they suppose to & a lot of my questions I have had about getting back together were answered. She told me some of the things she has been working on, that she knows that she needs to tell me when things bother her, but to say them in a way that I won't get defencive & we can work it out instead of butting heads. I told her I had a great time & that we were meant to be together & she agreed. She did admit when she first moved out she didn't think there was "ANY" chance that we would get back together and she didn't know if what she did was the right thing, but now she said she has seen much growth in both of us and understands we both needed it. We still want to keep the communication open and on the 24th we go to the big city to see Larry the Cable Guy as a family so that will be fun. Tonight I feel very good inside, I feel like things went very well & the most important part is it felt right, we didn't rush anything, we let each other know how we are feeling, that we are both still scared of what will happen but are welling to work together at it. We also figured out we are going to need a bigger house so that is going to be a very tuff one to figure out. She unerstands now that she needs her room/space, I need my room/space and then there is the house we keep up together. Thanks everyone for wishing us the best, I was glad to have each and everyone of you in the back of my head for support. Well it's past my bed time but I figured I needed to get something writen before Gunny thought I was MIA and started looking for me. :laugh:
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