peekaboo740 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 In June this guy at my job and I started talking, like 2 weeks after he gave me his phone number asking me to come to his house for a BBQ with him and his friends. I actually hesitated to call this guy that I had a huge crush on because I am married. I married a man that is 26 years older then me to get back at my daughters father who cheated on me. I really never liked my husband but stayed with him for 6 years (dealing with verbal and physical abuse) because 1. I was too scared to leave him. But, finally in june, after my husband beat me, I kicked out my husband. I thought well I want to go on with my life. So I informed this new guy that I left my husband, and told him why. We would flirt with one another at work, no care if anyone knew or watched every day. So this new guy and I started to hang out alot. I even stayed at his house an awful lot. I asked him what were his intentions, He replied"I want a long term relationship with you, do you feel the same way?" I simply replied "yes" not putting too much thought into it. After like 3 weeks I began to feel insecure, ashamed, and out of place asking him tons of questions "should we date if Im married, is it bad?" One day, I felt sooo strange like maybe I was rebounding. So I texted messaged him telling him that I needed space, that I was asking too much from him. He called back. "Take all th time you need. I can still be your friend." I freaked out. Called him and cried. He tried to tame me. But it was hard because I really like him. From when I first saw him. He told me the same thing.He even told my other co workers. We continued messing around, but I fell hard for him after having sex like every weekend. I began acting too weird, I even admitt it. So he stopped calling me but proceeded to talk to a co worker about me "She is beautiful, and her daughter" like all the time. When confronted, he denies it and becomes defensive. He even got pissed when I gave his buddy my # and he gave me his# (to only talk about bad divorces.) I explained. He forgave. We still talk, at work he will say "morning, morning" turn red and walk out. Sometimes it seems like he wants to talk to me but doesn't. He still jokes around with me and smiles when he looks at me. I'm still going through a divorce which is default. I cannot tell if this guy still likes me. Im so stuck on him. I even told him that I love him after 4 mos. knowing him. And told him that making love to him ment everything to me. What should I do?
maoserr Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Maybe he's a bit tired of being supportive. Try to ask him about his life a little and try to have some fun. Forget about the divorce for a bit and cut loose. Just my guess.
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