allina Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Awww he's probably just waitin' till he knows for sure! I'd be gettin ancy by now if I were you! But anyway..... Plus, you guys are older and mature and you think about things and stuff. Teenagers?? They don't think. They just say.... No no, I'm not feeling ancy about it yet, it's only been 3 months, but if things keep progressing as they are I may be ready for the L word in a few months When I was a teenager, well 18-19 I was with someone for a year and a half and never said it, it's weird I dont remember couples in HS saying "I love you"
lovestruck234 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 When I was a teenager, well 18-19 I was with someone for a year and a half and never said it, it's weird I dont remember couples in HS saying "I love you" Really? Ha! Well, I'm not in HS anymore and plus, I never really said it in HS to any guys I was with anyway...it was kinda like "Eh, better not say it, they might freak and run for the hills" plus, I never really "loved" them anyway.... Rhys is the 1st guy though, the first guy I guess that I felt comfortable saying it to. And the first guy that has ever told me he loves me anyway, so it's kinda a big deal thing for me (as stupid as that sounds)...
allina Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 (as stupid as that sounds)... Nah, doesn't sound stupid at all. I remember how a first love felt.
Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 around 6 to 9 months is good. never before 6 months, ever!! 16 days... thats how long before he told me... and its still perfect and wonderful and amazing and i am so thankful everyday for him! you can't put a time limit on something like that. you say it when it feels right. and if you have to ask when to say it, then maybe there's something else you need to be looking at in your relationship. i've always said that love is a word that comes out of your mouth when your heart is so full that you have to say something! and it still feels that way to me everytime i tell him
alphamale Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 :lmao: Plus, you guys are older and mature and you think about things and stuff. :laugh:
Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 If you love someone, youll know it. its like a weird feeling inside and you will know that feeling somewhere along if u really are deeply in love. Or u could be like my exgirlfriend, who said it a month in, and for some reason i said it back even tho i didnt mean it. i wouold have been in a world of crap if i hadnt said it considering i was staying over her beach house for 2 more nights. I didnt mean it tho, and im posotive she didnt mean it either. Some people just do not knwo what love really is. say it when u feel it. Dont make the same mistake i did. but if ur gonna lose a relationship over it, and u dont want it to end, sometimes a little lie liek that can actually help, if u know that you will love her down the road, and u still have feelings for her. idk if im contadicting myself or what, but whatever. thats my advice.
Stunner Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Well....at four months does this count? "I believe you are a truly independent woman. You are smart, sexy, beautiful, wise, down to Earth, fun, loving, caring, sensitive, giving....you're just....everything." Guys...?
Author mysticalstar Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 Thanks for everyone's advice! I really appreciate it. I guess I just really want him to say it because I do feel that way for him but I guess there is no rush and I should just give it a little time. I won't wait forever..but a few more months won't kill me. Thank you so much!
Rooster_DAR Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 One last note: It is not possible to find true love without going through every experience that relationships provide. If you say you love someone within a years time, this is not true love, but only the neurotoxin of chemical changes that drives evolution and procreation. Regards,
Pyro Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 One last note: It is not possible to find true love without going through every experience that relationships provide. If you say you love someone within a years time, this is not true love, but only the neurotoxin of chemical changes that drives evolution and procreation. Regards, Again, this doesn't apply to every single relationship. You say every experience? One does not have to go through the pain of cheating to realize true love. Thats just plain silly to believe that.
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 If you say you love someone within a years time, this is not true love, I believe that true love is friendship , So it is possible to love someone after only knowing them only a short time. I have know many couples succesfully married that got married after only knowing each other a short time..
Rooster_DAR Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Hi everyone. I need some advice! Now I know there is not a set time period on when to say "I love you" to your significant other but when would you say is the right time? I have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months and my boyfriend has told me 2 times that he loves me and he was drunk both times. When do you think is too early to say it and when do you think is too late and to the point where you should start moving on because if he doesn't know by that time...he must not love you or if he does...he must not love you like that? thanks everyone After you cum!
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Sometimes it is the chances that we don't take that are the ones that we regret. If someone feels love then they feel love.. if they deny themselves this feeling because it hasn't been long enough then they are making a big mistake. The last ex that I fell head over heels in love with I fell for her after about 3 months.. I did tell her but had trouble showing her.. till this day I had wish I had asked her to marry me.. her parents married after only knowing each other a short time and have been married 35 or so years.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I believe that true love is friendship , So it is possible to love someone after only knowing them only a short time. I have know many couples succesfully married that got married after only knowing each other a short time.. Perhaps they had the tools and maturity to make it work. I am referring to the overwhelming feeling you get when you first fall in love. These feelings eventually go away (the extreme ones), and when the water settles one must understand what commitment is all about. The loving feelings can still be present, or may not be there at all. Regards,
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Perhaps they had the tools and maturity to make it work. You are correct that it does take maturity.. My grandparents were married 68+ before death seperated them.. Their secret was easy... They were best friends.. that was their love for each other
Rooster_DAR Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I often here of people who are best friends at first, and grow love from there. These people are still together. Hmmm
laRubiaBonita Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I often here of people who are best friends at first, and grow love from there. These people are still together. Hmmm and THIS is how i know when i have found "the one" for me. when i find a man i feel totally comfortable and WANT to tell things to and, most importantly, one who wants to listen, and whom i want to listen to as well. but.... i have a hard time telling any One person everything about me, other than my sisters (who i do not tell each certain things) i only have one really good friend. i tell her most everything, but even LS'ers here know more than she does abot some things. Is there hope for a mistrusting individual? mistrusting cause i am conniving and sneaky.......
Stunner Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I agree with the 'best friend' thing. I'm 38 and have only had that one time prior to this relationship. Before this one I never knew that such comfort, support and simple joy could be derived by simply the knowledge that this person exists on the planet. With my previous stroll down that path I was too young to develop a healthy relationship. Now, I am fully aware of the other person and enjoy him being complimentary to my life instead of becoming it. I am the one he confides in...discusses his dreams and pain (family stuff). I think we are off to a very promising start. Neither one have said the 'I love you's' but I think it might be a two way street...time will tell...his actions most certainly do.
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