mysticalstar Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hi everyone. I need some advice! Now I know there is not a set time period on when to say "I love you" to your significant other but when would you say is the right time? I have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months and my boyfriend has told me 2 times that he loves me and he was drunk both times. When do you think is too early to say it and when do you think is too late and to the point where you should start moving on because if he doesn't know by that time...he must not love you or if he does...he must not love you like that? thanks everyone
allina Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 When your ready to get dumped. If you're going to try to be clever at least use proper grammar
everlong Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 i think the right time to say i love you is when you know you love someone [that could happen at any time]. and then tell them that everyday.
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 When your ready to get dumped. Soooo true.. I have only felt/said I Love You to a few women and I'm thinking that the longer it is till the next time I say those words the better..Maybe not until the time I can collect social security then I can fall in love with a Hot Blonde nurse that gives me sponge baths
Author mysticalstar Posted October 12, 2006 Author Posted October 12, 2006 thanks everyone! but if it gets to be a year and he still hasn't said it to me and I let it slide and then a few more months pass and still no "i love you" do you think he is not that into me? I mean I know we have only been together for 9 months...but I think by that time you can tell if you are falling in love with someone or if you love them. do you?
allina Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 thanks everyone! but if it gets to be a year and he still hasn't said it to me and I let it slide and then a few more months pass and still no "i love you" do you think he is not that into me? I mean I know we have only been together for 9 months...but I think by that time you can tell if you are falling in love with someone or if you love them. do you? It's really hard to make that call, there are many other things to consider but generally when it comes to me I would have a hard time being with someone that still has not said I love you after a year. Have you asked him about the drunked i love you's at a time when he was not drunk?
Pyro Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Hi everyone. I need some advice! Now I know there is not a set time period on when to say "I love you" to your significant other but when would you say is the right time? I have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months and my boyfriend has told me 2 times that he loves me and he was drunk both times. When do you think is too early to say it and when do you think is too late and to the point where you should start moving on because if he doesn't know by that time...he must not love you or if he does...he must not love you like that? thanks everyone I would say the right time is when you know in your heart that you do love him. At 9 months, I would think/hope that he has developed love for you. Take Allina's advice and ask him about the few drunk incidents when he said it to you.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 When your ready to get dumped. Aside from the sarcasm, I say "Riddler" is right. If you love someone you may need to tell them. It's hard to do cause your putting yourself at a great risk, but if you want to find out if you have a chance for LTR it's probably got to surface. I'm really scared of those words, but I'm sure when the right lady comes along I will have no prob. Regards,
Rooster_DAR Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 If you're going to try to be clever at least use proper grammar You know grammar get's thrown out the window when your armed with a keyboard.
alphamale Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 around 6 to 9 months is good. never before 6 months, ever!!
Pyro Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 around 6 to 9 months is good. never before 6 months, ever!! That doesn't necessarily apply to everyone. I said it at the 4 and a half month mark.
Author mysticalstar Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 Well I guess I have beaten around the bush about it but never actually came straight forward and asked him. I don't want to push him into saying it if he is not ready. But if a year does roll around and we are still together and he still has not said it...I am going to have a hard time with it. I guess I just wait and see...
Pyro Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Well I guess I have beaten around the bush about it but never actually came straight forward and asked him. I don't want to push him into saying it if he is not ready. But if a year does roll around and we are still together and he still has not said it...I am going to have a hard time with it. I guess I just wait and see... I would still ask him about the times he said it when he was drunk. That doesn't mean that you are trying to push him into it.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Sometimes actions speak louder than words.
allina Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Sometimes actions speak louder than words. This is very true, I don't understand people that are treated like total sh*t by their partners yet insist they are loved because "he/she said so"
alphamale Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Sometimes actions speak louder than words. actions ALWAYS speak louder than word, brother.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 actions ALWAYS speak louder than word, brother. Thanks for requoting me. True
lovestruck234 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I said it about the 1 month mark....but I'm just a naive teenager!
allina Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I said it about the 1 month mark....but I'm just a naive teenager! I'm such a sap but I still think thats way too soon, to each their own. Did you say it first or did he?
moman Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Past 2 girlfriends - 3 weeks and 3 months, respectively.
lovestruck234 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 I'm such a sap but I still think thats way too soon, to each their own. Did you say it first or did he? He did..... ........... *snaps out of daydream*....in translation.... "I want to get into your pants..." Lol, but I know he loves me now.....
allina Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 He did..... ........... *snaps out of daydream*....in translation.... "I want to get into your pants..." Lol, but I know he loves me now..... :laugh: Awwww I think I'll give my bf a year, though I may get very ancy by 8 months if it still hasn't happened
lovestruck234 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 :laugh: Awwww I think I'll give my bf a year, though I may get very ancy by 8 months if it still hasn't happened Awww he's probably just waitin' till he knows for sure! I'd be gettin ancy by now if I were you! But anyway..... Plus, you guys are older and mature and you think about things and stuff. Teenagers?? They don't think. They just say....
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