thetwiddle Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hey everyone. I'm in a bind. I just broke up with this girl i've been dating. This is our 2nd time around. Round 1 (April-May): The first time around, we met, had a lot in common and got to know each other. I jumped the gun a little, and wanted more than just dating within the end of the 1st month of dating her. She tried to break it off with me because she said she didn't have the time, and that she didn't want to make the time for me. I told her, **** that, you're worth fighting for, and I'm not letting you off that easy. We were together another 2 weeks, and then we had a dinner and defined "us". She wasn't looking for a relationship, and she tried to break up again. I told her, "I'm still going to fight for you." She said, "you don't take rejection very well do you?" I told her, "Fine, if that's your decision, then that's it." (BTW, always drive a separate car). So there was tension and awkard silence for the drive back to my house, until I realized, "**** it, she doesn't want to be with me, doesn't mean I have to change who I am." So I started joking around with her. We get home, I exit the car. She exits the car. She comes around and starts trying to makeout with me. I told her, this was your choice, live with it. I left with the attitude, "this bitch is crazy." Didn't talk to her for a month. I then started to hang out with our friends again. It was a little awkward. We would avoid each other. We then started talking as friends. We started hanging out a lot, just as friends. I didn't have any expectations and I didn't want anything to happen. We talk as friends and she tells me about this great guy she dated over this past summer. Round 2 (Mid July-Now): She asks me if I'm seeing anyone, I tell her "I haven't seen anyone since her." We start doing stuff more and more together than with our friends. Things progress from July, I still don't think we're dating, just friends. I leave for a family reunion and she's texting me the whole time "Do you miss me? I can't wait until you get home." I get back after 5 days and we start hanging out again. We've been unofficially "together" ever since. About 2 weeks ago she told me her best friend asked what we were, and that she couldn't tell her. I told her, I couldn't tell her either. I then told her, I don't date more than 1 girl at 1 time and expect the recipricol. She said that she wasn't dating anyone else, but that she had a lot of different options and continued to tell me how great she was. I told her if she couldn't be with JUST me, then we would have to be JUST friends. (Ultimatum, I know, sigh.) So she said that she didn't want to end it because she really liked me, but hinted that she wanted to keep her options open. I told her, we're just friends then. She didn't like that answer and told me to think about it before making a rash decision. I talked to her intermittently. Tried to set up a dinner to talk about it. She said if this was a breakup dinner then she could just be told over the phone. Told her she wasn't ready for me, and that we would be better as just friends. She told me AGAIN, "this is your decision, because it seems like you've made up your mind, but I don't want you to do anything you're going to regret." 3 days later, I pussied out and called her and told her that I wanted to continue things. Then we were back to unofficially "together." She just started school and was stressing out about stuff. She made time to be with me at least once a week. She seemed very physically distant these past 2 weeks. I talked to her about it 3 days ago. She said she's not an affectionate person (she was affectionate before) and that she really likes me and knows that I'm a guy that a lot of girls are looking for and that she still is heartbroken over the guy she dated over the summer. She's been having lunch and dinner with him, and he even asked her if we were dating and she said no. She said that she didn't feel that spark anymore with me and feels we've moved into the "comfortable" stage of our relationship. She told me she's heartbroken over her ex and that she still cares for him but doesn't see a future with him, but she see's a future with me." I told her, "It's better if we're just friends then and not to contact me." I've been in NC for 2 days! Help! Cause I want to call her so badly. I know I probably did the right thing for both of us, but it still hurts for ****. I've deleted her number, her friends' numbers, pics, texts, and emails. Can I get some feedback on my situation. I left out some details, due to the length and drama of this "relationship," so if you need more info tell me.
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