Sunsurge Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 When I was at high school, I spent every year in the same form class as this girl, and just seeing her every day made my heart race - I've never met anyone who has made me feel like that since. I've had plenty of crushes, but nothing like this. Unfortunately I'm not a very confident person: I'm 19 years old now and a university student, and have only had one girlfriend, and that was only because she asked me out. I had to break it up because after just a month of dating her, I realised how awkward I found it to be around her. Getting back to the girl that I feel really madly in love with... I've lived the last 3 or 4 years, regretting every day of my life for never building the confidence to ask her out. And until a few days ago I'd always spent my time trying to accept the fact that I might not see her ever again. But then one of my good friends back home started at university and met up with her again, and knowing how much I loved her, told me about her being there. The problem is, even though I now have the chance to meet with her again, I don't think I could muster the courage to ask her out. These feelings have led me to feel extremely depressed in the last few days to the point of feeling physically ill. I love her so much, and yet I'm too timid to ask her out, and I just don't know what to do. These forums looked like a great place to get some advice. If anybody has any pointers I'd really appreciate it. Thanks in advance.
HUMMINGBIRDLOVE Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 I think if you never ask her you will never know how she feels mabey you can start out as friends ask her to a movie or out to eat and say just as friends and let nature take its course if it is meant to happen it will and there should be no feelings getting hurt bcuz it was intended as friendship good luck...Anna
Author Sunsurge Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 I suppose you're right. Mustering the courage though is very hard for me. Even walking around town in day-to-day life, I find it very hard to look straight ahead, and try to avert the gaze of other people, often by staring at the floor, which makes me feel stupid. Is it normal to be in love with somebody to the point where you feel very depressed, and even ill, at the thought that they might not feel the same way?
Sand&Water Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Sunsurge, Is it normal to be in love with somebody to the point where you feel very depressed, and even ill, at the thought that they might not feel the same way? I do believe it is normal. Right now, you are just intensely infatuated with this girl. You certainly cannot be in love with this girl, as you have (a) never asked her out, (b) never spent more than a week with her -engaging in productive and fun activities and © haven't quite absorbed her overall personality and attitude to suggest that she is, indeed, the most amazing girl. You don't know if she will be compatible with you, unless you get to know her better, and possibly ask her out. Hence, I recommend you really work on gathering the courage to ask her out. You should, at least, make a small attempt at getting her number for instance. IF you don't act now, you may regret it later on in life. I am absolutely sure she will not bite you. Go for it! Sand&Water
Author Sunsurge Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 I'm working on building my courage up until I'm back in contact with her again. I got quite a shock just now when me and my friends had a chinese and the fortune cookie said "Someone you care about seeks reconciliation" - 100% true story, I swear it. I don't believe in that sort of thing (fate) but... it makes you think at least.
Loserdude Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Sunsurge, I do believe it is normal. Right now, you are just intensely infatuated with this girl. You certainly cannot be in love with this girl, as you have (a) never asked her out, (b) never spent more than a week with her -engaging in productive and fun activities and © haven't quite absorbed her overall personality and attitude to suggest that she is, indeed, the most amazing girl. You don't know if she will be compatible with you, unless you get to know her better, and possibly ask her out. Hence, I recommend you really work on gathering the courage to ask her out. You should, at least, make a small attempt at getting her number for instance. IF you don't act now, you may regret it later on in life. I am absolutely sure she will not bite you. Go for it! Sand&Water Yes, this is exactly right. You are not in love, you are infatuated. Just chill out - it's no big deal. I was once "in love" like this - I was 17 and I couldn't talk or eat whenever I'd see this girl - Julie and she actually liked me back!!! She'd come to see me and I'd say, "Let's go eat," and after 5 minutes of looking at her I couldn't eat (or talk, for that matter). She eventually blew me off b/c I couldn't be my dazzling self when she was around. I just turned into Loserdude. Anyway, a few years later she sought me out, we got together a few times and I was way over my crush and I realized we didn't have that much in common so it was kind of good. (I wonder what ever happened to her...) Anyway, CTFO dude and have some fun. If you can't get over this sickness, I would just forget about it. But stop thinking about it and just go for it. What, will it kill you?
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