mememememe Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hello, I have been dating my 25 yr old boyfriend for 6 months. I am 27. The sex is incredible, and happens a few times a week. However, sometimes we go several days where he "can't"...as in his erection drops completely or he is not in the mood. I shouldn't say his drive is low, perhaps, because maybe mine is high. I like to have sex once or twice a day. We both have very random work schedules so we see eachother a lot...daily. He used to watch a lot of porn on his computer, and I told him I thought watching it daily was too much -- he has cut it out as a result (NOT just because I suggested I thought it could be problematic, so I would rather not discuss the porn thing too much here as I don't think that is much of an issue) and rarely masturbates -- he wants to "save it" for me. Other than the fact that he could possibly be lying to me about masturbation, etc., WHICH I DO NOT THINK IS THE CASE, can anyone tell me why I want it so much more than him a lot of the time? I hate having a higher sex drive than my man. I feel undesirable, even though the sex is great when we do it. Also, he has only given me oral a few times....he said I taste like candy....but he NEVER initiates oral sex. I have mentioned this, and he has said, "just tell me what you want and I will do it"...but I don't want to have to ask every time. I give him blow jobs CONSTANTLY, even before sex. I want the same in return, but I'm tired of mentioning it, even though I have only mentioned it a few times. It just seems in general that I initiate sex more. About a week ago, I stopped initiating and we went 5 days without sex. Then he was dying for it. I dont' want to have to go without just to get this response. We have talked about this, and he says he has always had a low sex drive. For a while, I was only concerned with getting him off...and didn't worry about myself....just so he would be in the mood more....and, he is. Also, I am not insecure or uncomfortable with myself, so it's not like I don't turn him on. Besides having a really cool and fulfilling job, I also model lingere/bikini's, so I know in most men's opinions I am "hot". So what gives? Any advice or experience with this ladies/men?? I hate always wanting it more than he does. Thanks
burning 4 revenge Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 I think you answered it yourself. He has a low sex drive. It's not that low if it's a couple of times a week, but for 25 that is kind of low I guess. Anyway it has nothing to do with your desirability. If he gave you oral everyday, but only penetration twice a week could you live with that? It might be better from his point of view, that way when you f*ck he'll be rock hard and enjoy it more. And so will you. Quality over quantity.
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