Jump to content
While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

Hi, all -

So here's the story: I have been with my BF for 3.5 years, been living together for 3. I love him. He is WONDERFUL - smart, funny, sensitive - and we've never come across an issue that we couldn't work our way through in a day or two. Although we are pursuing different careers, we have very similar goals for the future (wanting to move around a lot, one kid - eventually - etc.).

We have started talking about getting engaged, (a long engagement, which I prefer for silly girlish romantic reasons) and part of me is ecstatic - I can't imagine a better person to share my life with. But there is part of me that worries that we're too young (I'm about to turn 24, and he's 26). I don't know if this is just traditional thought getting in the way, or if there's something to it. Also, the fact is that I love him immensely, and I respect him tremendously, but when I look at him, I don't always feel lust for him. Which is not to say that there is anything lacking in the bedroom, quite the contrary. Basically, I feel as though we're already married, and are just very comfortable with each other. Which is not a bad thing in itself, I just wonder what this might mean for us after we walk down the aisle.

Any thoughts?

Posted

No, your not too young to get married.. or have a child for that matter.

You are just overly comfortable with your b/f and that is why your lacking in the lust area. Love replaces lust. As long as you keep control of your relationship, hence: keep it open, happy, fun and real you will find that comfort is truly a necessity to your future with your b/f. So, go at it if that is what you feel is right.

×
×
  • Create New...