Guest Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hi, all - So here's the story: I have been with my BF for 3.5 years, been living together for 3. I love him. He is WONDERFUL - smart, funny, sensitive - and we've never come across an issue that we couldn't work our way through in a day or two. Although we are pursuing different careers, we have very similar goals for the future (wanting to move around a lot, one kid - eventually - etc.). We have started talking about getting engaged, (a long engagement, which I prefer for silly girlish romantic reasons) and part of me is ecstatic - I can't imagine a better person to share my life with. But there is part of me that worries that we're too young (I'm about to turn 24, and he's 26). I don't know if this is just traditional thought getting in the way, or if there's something to it. Also, the fact is that I love him immensely, and I respect him tremendously, but when I look at him, I don't always feel lust for him. Which is not to say that there is anything lacking in the bedroom, quite the contrary. Basically, I feel as though we're already married, and are just very comfortable with each other. Which is not a bad thing in itself, I just wonder what this might mean for us after we walk down the aisle. Any thoughts?
Mirage222 Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 No, your not too young to get married.. or have a child for that matter. You are just overly comfortable with your b/f and that is why your lacking in the lust area. Love replaces lust. As long as you keep control of your relationship, hence: keep it open, happy, fun and real you will find that comfort is truly a necessity to your future with your b/f. So, go at it if that is what you feel is right.
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