Guest Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hi, I am looking for some advice for a friend of mine who is married and suspects that her husband might be having an affair with another MW. She's not 100 percent sure, but has a strong feeling that he might be. What she is having trouble understanding is that he always proclaims to be happily married. If he was happily married to her than why would he get involved with another MW? He's not the agressive type so chances are that the OW planted the seed? Feedback would be great!
ataloss Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Why would it matter who "planted the seed" unless your friend is looking for someone to blame? My suggestion would be to talk to her husband.
Adunaphel Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hi, If he was happily married to her than why would he get involved with another MW? MM I had an affair with is happily married. A friend of mine who lonce met him with his wife said they looked like the perfect couple. He's not the agressive type It does not really mean anything. so chances are that the OW planted the seed? I hear that it's usually the married guy the one who does the pursuing, with a few exceptions. Would it really make so much difference if the OW planted the seed? Guys who cheat only with OW who hit on them, are not "guys who do not cheat". They are cheaters who do not dare pursue other women but will seize the occasion if it presents itself. In case your friend's H is cheating and your friend will have to figure out whether he is "just a generally nice guy who made a mistake", who planted the seed is not *so* important, expecially if the affair went on for an amount of time and was not a single episode.
yousaveme Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 If he was happily married then he wouldnt cheat....
2sunny Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 PLANTED THE SEED? :lmao: I am sorry - but I was reading this literally and to me that would always be the man! Hey, if he is interested at all in the other woman - there is nobody to blame but HIM - for his actions, and inability to control his emotions/"seed" :rolleyes: Sounds like YOUR FRIEND (?) is trying to lay blame to the OW instead of her husband's wandering ways. HE should be held accountable - if he is wandering...
outofdarkness Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hi, I am looking for some advice for a friend of mine who is married and suspects that her husband might be having an affair with another MW. She's not 100 percent sure, but has a strong feeling that he might be. What she is having trouble understanding is that he always proclaims to be happily married. If he was happily married to her than why would he get involved with another MW? He's not the agressive type so chances are that the OW planted the seed? Feedback would be great! I do not think that it is ALWAYS the marriage that is the problem..Sometimes, the MM is just a selfish jerk who enjoyes having a home, kids, W., etc..and then wants to have the honey on the side to have fun with...Sometimes it CAN be a symptom of something wrong with the marriage or some void, but it can also be a symptom that the cheater has deep problems and needs IC...It's not fair to always just blame the marriage...Every situation is different..I don't reallly know about "planting the seed", as I was the W who was cheated on, but I would think that it would work both ways...Sometimes the OW and sometimes the MM...
reneet Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 If he was happily married then he wouldnt cheat.... Stirring the pot ? ? ? ?
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