Guest Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 I'm in junior high and I liked a girl for around three years, and just this year we actually became friends, and it started driving me bonkers coming so close to a chance to achieve the 'rank' of 'going out' EVERY SINGLE DAY...(still dont know why that terminology is used, makes no sense) Well, I got a good friend to tell her, and he told me that she said 'Wow,(that's where i got sort of excited)That's three 7th graders and joe, and none of them are Duck(that's where the excitement got shot down like a terrorist)" she was talking to me that morning after being really mad at her mom before school so I was helping her out, and she said that I was practically the only person that was able to make her happy(Little midget slave that runs my brain goes skipping around in circles), then she told me about the boy that she said she liked was her brother's best friend and the only person who was able to make her happy(Little midget slave gets to really thinking about this-------I was once a good friend of her brother------) I gave you this information just in case it helps in the advice-giving process, oh yeah, And i'm going to have to confront her tomorrow, that's what i need advice on...
Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I'm in junior high and I liked a girl for around three years, and just this year we actually became friends, and it started driving me bonkers coming so close to a chance to achieve the 'rank' of 'going out' EVERY SINGLE DAY...(still dont know why that terminology is used, makes no sense) Well, I got a good friend to tell her, and he told me that she said 'Wow,(that's where i got sort of excited)That's three 7th graders and joe, and none of them are Duck(that's where the excitement got shot down like a terrorist)" she was talking to me that morning after being really mad at her mom before school so I was helping her out, and she said that I was practically the only person that was able to make her happy(Little midget slave that runs my brain goes skipping around in circles), then she told me about the boy that she said she liked was her brother's best friend and the only person who was able to make her happy(Little midget slave gets to really thinking about this-------I was once a good friend of her brother------) I gave you this information just in case it helps in the advice-giving process, oh yeah, And i'm going to have to confront her tomorrow, that's what i need advice on... You know what? I am in my thirties, and if I look back at it now, I would do things differently. I would not beat around the bush. This will help you. If you just get her alone and say matter of factly... "You know what? I really like spending time with you. There is a lot about you that I admire. In this time we have spent together, I have started to develop some feelings for you. All though I am not certain myself exactly what these feelings are yet, I just didn't want to play games with you. I also don't want to be wasting my time either. I just want you to take some time to yourself and kind of think this over. I will talk to you tomorrow and if you decide that this may be something you might want to pursue, let me know. If it isn't, then I can be done with my questions about it and will be just as happy to remain friends with you. That way, I won't be wasting my time and I can get on with things and start looking elswhere." I know that this sounds heavy, but it will give you two outs. One, you can get this over right away and won't be questioning things anymore. Two, if you say this in the manner that I said, she won't be thinking.... Man this guy is absolutely crazy about me. If you say things the way they were stated above, you kind of sound like you could take it or leave it. That way you put it out there, but you don't sound so desperate. Hope it helps. Also, it sounds very mature. So, if it doesn't work out, you can still walk around with your head up high. I should know how girl's think, cause I am one. One, who has had several guys in high school that liked me. I wish someone would have just come up to me and said this to me. It would have taken all the guess work out of it.
Recommended Posts