SadGreenEyes Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 I found out my boyfriend of over 2 years posted a profile on Match.com and met someone. I had a feeling something was going on, in fact, I was convinced. I asked him over and over to please tell me the truth, and he denied it, naturally. I went into his email and found a letter he wrote to "her". I was devistated, went into complete shock. It was bazaar...I couldnt even cry. I also found a telephone number and called her. Basically, boyfriend and I were havign serious problems then which was why he decided to do what he did...I didnt and wouldnt think of straying, even when times are rough, but none the less, he did and he got busted. They never slept together, this I know, and I caught them a month into the relationship and put a screeching hault to it. Now, this is where Im at. I was always the type of woman who swore by never forgiving cheating, and here I am, willing to forgive him for what happened. This is all new to me. I have my good days and my bad days, which I think is normal. I wonder if the trust will ever come back, or if the suspiscion will ever go away now that it's happened. He swears they didnt sleep together, and she told me the same thing as well. He wasnt in love with her and when she decided she had enough and ended things with him because of me, he willingly let her go. My question is - will this ever go away? I think it could have been worse had they slept together and if I found out later on into their relationship. I pat myself on the back for finding out as soon as I did! Trust? How does that rebuild? When will I stop thinking he is on the internet all night picking up other women....which I assure you, he's not, but still - look at what he did. Will he do it again? This was the first time, and like I said, things were really really bad between the 2 of us, so I can kinda understand...still tears me up inside though. Has anyone been through this that might be able to help me to cope? Thanks people! SGE
Rooster_DAR Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Trust comes from knowing that someone can be trusted. Regards,
Guest Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 I am in a similar situation. I found out in June and now I am finally feeling like I can trust him again. It has been a long hard raod to get this far and we still have a bit to go to get back to before. I would suggest that you talk to him and see if he really genuinely still wants the relationship, tell him that he gets ONE more chance, not two not more... one. If it happens again then you are gone no questions asked. Good luck to you. It takes a lot out of you trying to deal with the trust and the insecurities you feel (at least I felt really insecure for a while) R
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