not broken up just a "break"

[joemoes]

My girlfriend and I would have been dating 4 months as of tomorrow. we broke up on Oct 7th the 12th is four months. She broke up with me on birthday. heres how it all went. we had a conversation a couple weeks ago and hse said i shouldnt say i love you as much and talk about serious things, she used to like talking about getting married and having kids and stuff and saying how much we love each other. Then we were fine after that. Then saturday we were spsoed to hang out for my birthday and went to a late movie because her dad made her go to her sisters soccer game for the day which was an hour away and it was a tournament. when she got home she caleld me we went to a movie. had fun then wen i dropped her off and got home she imed me and said we need a break. she didnt get me anything for my birthday might i add. i have been going crazy. We didnt have one fight until this. it was 4months of perfection. i know it doesnt seem like a lot but i am in love. So after she broke up with me we went to talk the next day at her house and she started crying i started crying then she stopped then i started crying histerically because i was about to leave. she said she wouldnt change her myspace or aim profile but they slowly are changing im number 2 on her top 24 now. monday we didnt talk at all. she told me to stop sending emails and harping on her. tuesday i stayed home from school and made her a card with a poem of how i felt and the card had our picture in it kissing in a heart on front and then i had a big heart on teh back with my signature and asked her to sign it when she was ready and i would take her back no questions asked. then i got 3 roses i got one to give her to break the ice when i saw her then the other two one was fake one was real i tied them together with a note and hte note said the real one is for how real the love was we had. and the fake one is how the love i have for you will never die. then i had conversatoins we had in passed parts saying i love u in an envelope. i didnt read any of this to her she just saw the first rose and started crying and opened up the manilla envelope that had everyhting in it and saw the other 2 roses and started crying. then her dad came home and i had to leave because she was grounded, but yet she went to olive garden last night the day she was sposed to be grounded. then i decided to let her contact me for now on. she imed me we talked she told me that it upset her what i gave her i said im sorry i shouldnt of done it and she said oh well. its ok. and today ive been driving around town road by her work once hse didnt see me. im very confused and lost how it went so wrong so fast. she said in an email to a friend i was to klingy, and said i was going to buy her a ring. she was the one that said she would get married right then if i asked her i wasnt going to but we were just talken. she also said i was to serious. What should i do? she has had bad past relationships. i took her virginity as well. What does she mean by break. also her best friend is moving in 6 months outta state and she just found out, her mom is in florida for a week, her grandma is dying,

[tikigods]

when someone says they want a break, and the other person does nothing but pester that person, the person that asked for the brake is going to just get angry and push the other person away even more. Skipping school, calling her, making her cards, those aren't the things she needs right now. Give her some space. In four months it sounds like you have become very very clingy on her and with everything else going on in her life I dont think she wants that. Step back, STEP WAAAAY BACK and let her compose herself, don't call her, don't wirte, heck don't even make yourself avalilable ot her. And if she comes back don't do the same things you are doing right now, give her room the breath.

[Rooster_DAR]

when someone says they want a break, and the other person does nothing but pester that person, the person that asked for the brake is going to just get angry and push the other person away even more. Skipping school, calling her, making her cards, those aren't the things she needs right now. Give her some space. In four months it sounds like you have become very very clingy on her and with everything else going on in her life I dont think she wants that. Step back, STEP WAAAAY BACK and let her compose herself, don't call her, don't wirte, heck don't even make yourself avalilable ot her. And if she comes back don't do the same things you are doing right now, give her room the breath.

 

This is very true and is a lesson we all wind up learning. When someone wants a break, there are many things going on with them that they need to figure out. Constant contact and pressuring will end any chance you may have with them. Do what you want to do and leave them be, you'll be in a much better position in the end.

 

Regards,