diana8813 Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 I have a big problem and need help. This is probably the biggest decision I ever had to make in my life. I am 25 years old. I am in love with my high school sweet heart and another man. I was with my high school sweet heart since I was 14, I feel in love with him because, he was very funny, very romantic, and there was always something exciting happening when I was around him. we had a daugther together when I was 19, but then he got addicted to drugs three years ago, so I left him after trying to help him many times, he has since then had three kids with a crack w----e. There was nothing really serious between them other than unprotected sex and getting high together. they never went out on dates or lived together. During the time we separated I meet a wonderful drug free, faithful man but, he is not very romantic or very exciting. I love him because, he so different from my first boyfriend. He has never done drugs before and his first girlfriend cheated on him. I know he loves me but doesn't show it, I believe its because, he too got is heart broken by his first girlfriend. BUT I LOVE ROMANCE. My first boyfriend has been in a rehab house is going to get out. For some weird reason I started to talk to him again, I thougt it was because, of my daughter but it was cause I want to. This has brought back so many good feelings and bad. which has cause a bad problem between me and my current boyfriend. I told him I wanted some time off to think if I still wanted to stay with him because he wasn't romantic enough. He has now done so many romantic things to try to get me to go back with him. On the other hand my first boyfriend has made promises to make us a family again and bring back all the good times we had. I feel so lost. I Love them both and I don't want to hurt them especially my frist boyfriend since he is about to get out of rehab. If he relaps I will feel it is my fault since I told him I love him and I told him I was going to break up with my current boyfriend for him. On the other hand I can't break my current boyfriend heart, he already got it broken by cheater. If I go back with my first boyfriend I think I will always brign up the past for leave me and my daughter for drugs and having three other children, but I feel so much love when I am with him, I am happy. My current boyfriend has never done anything to hurt me and is now starting to be more open with me and more romantic. what do I do?
whichwayisup Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Maybe you need to be on your own for a while and focus on your daughter. If you love these two men, then take time away from them both so you can figure out what you want. You can't stay with someone (meaning guy #2) in fear that you will hurt them if you two break up.
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