stuck13 Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Okay so i've been dating this guy for a little over a year and about four months ago he moved in with me and about a month and a half ago he proposed. I said yes and we were planning on a long engagement anyway but in the last month i've well i guess im getting premature cold feet because i hardly ever wear the ring and when i do i cant seem to keep it on and i dont want to be around him a lot and i do really care about him but i'm 21 and he's 19 and i have like come to this realization that maybe my parents were right and i should be dating lots of guys not just one but then sometimes i think that im being selfish because he is always telling me that i'm the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with and as much as some day i might totally be down to settle down with him and stuff right now i want to be free and be able to do whatever whenever with out having to wonder if he can come to or if he wants to go and i just want to expierence life and not regret it later.... but then i have the problem of what if he's the best guy for me and i ruin everything and am i willing to be unhappy to find out and i really dont want to hurt him but there's no way not to. so please someone help me how do i make this as painless as possible
agnf666 Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Well, how about doing this. My friend has been engaged for like almost going on 2 years now. She is 21. She really loves her boyfriend but isn't ready to get married just yet. Wearing that ring doesn't mean you have to get married tomorrow. I mean basically don't plan a date yet. I think that you are just very nervous about the whole situation. I mean your parents are going to say stuff like that. I mean this is up to you. If you really love him and see him in your future then you need to give it a little time and see. Everything happened soo fast for you that is probably why you are getting nervous. If you are really wanting to get out of this engagement then you have to tell him before you start planing things or whatnot.
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