Guest Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 I think my wife who left me almost four months ago is using the techniques from "divorce busting" on me. We have had limited contact and haven't spoken in a couple of weeks. Where do I go from here.
anna13 Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 interesting , i thought the information in that book was helpfull for the spouse left behind not really the spouse that has left. it is basically a book saying the divorce is the last thing you should do and it talks about how to imrove your relationship with your spouse. so she left because she didnt want to be with you anymore? or did she leave because you didnt wnt to be withher anymore? ... if she is reading that book then that means that she does want to work it out that is my take on it , and if you want to work on it I would say communicate with her. call her and suggest a lunch together and kinda try to enjoy each other's company . I dont know too much about your situation but don't take her reading a book like that as mind games , cause it really is a book about how to save a marriage. if you want to save the marriage then it is a great sign that she wants to save it too. you guys may have another chance.
Trimmer Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 First of all, register and give yourself a username. There are so many "guests" on here that it is hard to keep them straight - in some threads we have guests replying to guests, and that's not what this community is about. It's anonymous enough, I don't see the point of being a guest. Come in and stay a while... Is the only thing that makes you think she is doing a 'divorce busting' process on you the no contact, or are there other indications? The reason I ask is that no contact is a pretty common approach, and by itself, I wouldn't assume too much about specifically where it is coming from. But if there are other indications, as Anna said, it is inherently a process designed to help people get back together. Would you want that? And I'll echo Anna's questions - tell us a little more about the circumstances of your separation, what happened before, and what happened since...
Gunny376 Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 First of all, register and give yourself a username. There are so many "guests" on here that it is hard to keep them straight - in some threads we have guests replying to guests, and that's not what this community is about. It's anonymous enough, I don't see the point of being a guest. Come in and stay a while... Is the only thing that makes you think she is doing a 'divorce busting' process on you the no contact, or are there other indications? The reason I ask is that no contact is a pretty common approach, and by itself, I wouldn't assume too much about specifically where it is coming from. But if there are other indications, as Anna said, it is inherently a process designed to help people get back together. Would you want that? And I'll echo Anna's questions - tell us a little more about the circumstances of your separation, what happened before, and what happened since... I agree with Trimmer and Anna, but will add, I think its just a coincidence that it seems that she's doing this ~ when its probally the oppossite. When you're caught up in this your mind will take any little thing and turn it into a positive glimmer of hope ~ when its not there. Hope for the best, but be preparred for the worse would be the better course of action. In truth ~ she's probally never heard of LS nor Divorebusters
Guest Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 My wife and I had been fighting since the day we got married. It was a power struggle. When she left it was abrupt and I am not so sure that it wasn't a "wake up I am serious this time" type of situation. She had mentioned to me that I called her the last three times. I thought it was an odd that she would keep track and mention it. She has on other occasions used excusses to get off the phone first. Maybe I am reading into things here. She has gone into no contact now and that in it self I would expect. But after some of the things that she said it just seems wierd. I was curious how I should proceed.
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