What do you think the longest the average person goes for without having sex, dates

[lovelorcet]

hotgurl and lovewhatever (sorry, I can't remember your name) do you both go out socialising at clubs and bars everynight or something?

 

I am a pretty social person and I try to keep busy so going out, sports, motorcycle etc...

 

Here is one example of how things can work for me... I work with and know a lot of girls and I seem to be the type of guy that they like to talk to and tell all kinds of crap to, actually a lot of times more then I want to know. So they trust me and value my opinion. I have no problem going out and hanging out with them and thereby get to meet a lot girls as they introduce me to their friends. So if I make a good impression and they ask their friend (my colleague) who is that guy they say "Oh that is XXXX he's a great guy..."

 

I am not the type of guy who can just walk up to a girl and start talking about something and start flirting but if I can find a natural way for starting a conversation (where it is not like I am hitting on her) then I can carry the conversation pretty well and come across as being charming and sincere.

 

Girls are just other humans and nothing to be afraid of. I actually find that I attract the most women when I am my self, confident and I show interest in a girl but not too much. Listen to her, make her laugh, joke around and bug her a bit...

[RecordProducer]

For me it was 3 years without a BF when I divorced my ex-husband (during this period of time, I had sex like 6 times total without love and it sucked completely.

 

Without sex I've gone for 10 months also after the separation with my ex. However after these ten months I went a long time without sex again and frankly having it once every few months meant nothing to me. So it felt like I went without sex for a couple years or so and I was really in a miserable emotional state because of that.

 

No matter what, I still think that sleeping with "just anyone" is a very bad idea. I would never want to have sex with a guy I am not very attracted to and emotionally connected with.

[Ross_K]

Really, I just don't understand how you people do it. And like it's just nothing too, like it just happens naturally without you putting any work into it.

[SadGreenEyes]

Im going on two years AND Im involved in a long term.

It's not easy for me and this is the longest stretch I have had the misfortune of experiencing. Boyfriend has been on prescription meds for depression which killed his sex drive and urge. Stinks for me but he says he will speak to his doctor about weaning off of them, so there is a God!

[everlong]

i think the longest i went without having sex was one day...oppppppps! u mean with someone else! lol. well, grade nine sucked [erase that year!]. honestly, 4 months. to be honest, whether you are male or female, if you want to have sex - it's not hard to find a sex partner. when u have the urge, you just find a way! lol!

 

happy humping one and all!

[alphamale]

i have met men in their 40s who have had few dates and no girlfriends...

[CrushedOrgans]

I'm a girl, I'm pretty, outgoing and get alone with a lot of different people.

 

woohoo.

 

dirrrrty baaaaaaabe....

 

[Noos]

Ross - you're not unusual. And to the guy with the Aardman chicken in his avatar - women get rebuffed by guys just as much as men do and it hurts given that men will supposedly f*ck anyone. I was seemingly invisible all through university and lived in the friend zone.

 

My longest time without sex is 33 years. I go out, I have a good job, I'm social, I'm told I'm very attractive - in fact I've been told plenty of time that I look like the late Natalie Wood - but guys don't like me at all and I'm not into hook ups. If you go to an all girls high school, you wait around to be in love before you do it or to do it with some one who is not drunk and is nice to you - this is how you end up.

 

Also, being fat and ugly from the time you are about seven to the time you are 27 doesn't help and have a pretty blonde friend doesn't help.

 

I know plenty of women like me and a few men too. They haven't seen a psych about it because it doesn't affect their self-esteem but I do. It helps somewhat but you have to go regularly and it's pretty expensive. Drugs help you cope but they don't solve the problem.

[maoserr]

Historians conjecture that Newton probably went his whole life as a virgin...

 

Frankly, I admire the guy. He's a great scientist and extremely religious. If I had a choice to see the world like Newton and sacrifice all womanly pleasure, I would most definitely do it.

 

You know, sex/date doesn't have to be the most important thing in the world...

[RecordProducer]

Really, I just don't understand how you people do it. And like it's just nothing too, like it just happens naturally without you putting any work into it.

I always feel like I was putting a lot of effort to meet someone. The guys who hit on me were always the wrong ones.

 

Regarding confidence, you won't have it until you find out WHY you feel so inconfident. You need to cure the virus, not the cough.

[Bogun]

Ross, stop being so desperate for sex. Your self esteem will only really be developed from within you. Other people cant boost it for you. Once your self esteem is boosted and your ego is pumped up a bit, you wont need to go looking for sex, because you will know that you can get it anywhere.

 

Soooo....

 

Go pump some iron in a gym and a get a sexy bod, do some volunteer work with disabled kids or something like that - it will really make you feel good about yourself, and you never know, there might be a sexy girl working there too. Pay a gay dude in an overpriced hair salon to give you a sexy haircut, and buy some new clothes if you need them.

[Ross_K]

Ross - you're not unusual. And to the guy with the Aardman chicken in his avatar - women get rebuffed by guys just as much as men do and it hurts given that men will supposedly f*ck anyone. I was seemingly invisible all through university and lived in the friend zone.

 

My longest time without sex is 33 years. I go out, I have a good job, I'm social, I'm told I'm very attractive - in fact I've been told plenty of time that I look like the late Natalie Wood - but guys don't like me at all and I'm not into hook ups. If you go to an all girls high school, you wait around to be in love before you do it or to do it with some one who is not drunk and is nice to you - this is how you end up.

 

Also, being fat and ugly from the time you are about seven to the time you are 27 doesn't help and have a pretty blonde friend doesn't help.

 

I know plenty of women like me and a few men too. They haven't seen a psych about it because it doesn't affect their self-esteem but I do. It helps somewhat but you have to go regularly and it's pretty expensive. Drugs help you cope but they don't solve the problem.

 

Noos, I know what you mean. There's this woman near where I live who is the local nymphomaniac, I was hoping she may be interested in me, and when someone told my sister about it, she said why would she be interested in him?

 

This nymphomaniac will **** almost anyone, and I always had the feeling that even because of this, she still wouldn't want to **** me.

 

So, when my sister said that it hurt so, so, so bad.

 

I mean, am I that sexually undesirable to woman kind?

 

It seems like it. I wish I was ****ing dead.

[Ross_K]

I always feel like I was putting a lot of effort to meet someone. The guys who hit on me were always the wrong ones.

 

Regarding confidence, you won't have it until you find out WHY you feel so inconfident. You need to cure the virus, not the cough.

 

Yeah I know, I guess this is somethign I'll have to go into with the psychologist.

 

I'm betting though that my mum has sucked it all out of me.

[everlong]

sex and confidence go hand in hand. women can smell desparation a mile ahead, just as they can see confidence in a man. if you have no confidence in yourself, you might get laid but the sex will be lousy [lol]. if you have yer ultra mojo working and a woman sees that, chances are you and her will have a wickedly wonderful romp in the sack. one last point - sex is great - it keeps you healthy and alive, and as long as you know what you want [just sex or companionship] and communicate that to the other - chances are things will work out just peachy [wink].

 

happy humping y'all

[Ross_K]

Ross, stop being so desperate for sex.

 

You say that as though I shouldn't be.

 

I'm a healthy male of 30 years of age and have never even touched a woman, of course I'm desperate for sex. And it's not just about getting off, like I've said many times before, it's also the giving and recieving of physical touch, and all the psychological aspects that go with it, like knowing that 'wow', a woman actually wants me sexually, that it is actually possible for me to have sex, ect. And it would be very good for my well being, it'd make me so fel so much genuinley happy in life deep down inside.

 

Your self esteem will only really be developed from within you. Other people cant boost it for you.

 

I guess. I'm not sure if my self esteem needs boosting though.

 

Once your self esteem is boosted and your ego is pumped up a bit, you wont need to go looking for sex, because you will know that you can get it anywhere.

 

Nah, there's no way I'd ever be able to get it anywhere. No way. I can't imagine things changing that much from a self esteem boost. I still doubt I'd even get anyone or even get a girl to act attracted to me from that.

 

Soooo....

 

Go pump some iron in a gym and a get a sexy bod, do some volunteer work with disabled kids or something like that - it will really make you feel good about yourself, and you never know, there might be a sexy girl working there too.

 

I already work out, and my body looks pretty good. Instead of volunteer work I could get a job, but that wont make any difference because I've worked at many places beforre and never even experienced a woman acting attractive to me.

 

Pay a gay dude in an overpriced hair salon to give you a sexy haircut, and buy some new clothes if you need them.

 

I've already got a sexy haircut IMO, well, at the very least I think it looks really good anyway. And I've already got good clothes.

[Ross_K]

Oh and I'm sorry if it looks like I'm dismissing everything that Bogun is saying before anyone or himself starts shouting at me.

 

He did give me good advice and I appreciate his time.

[hotgurl]

woohoo.

 

dirrrrty baaaaaaabe....

 

 

I meant along. Freudian slip. But speaking of there is a guy I can't wait to be alone and naked with.

[CrushedOrgans]

You say that as though I shouldn't be.

 

I'm a healthy male of 30 years of age and have never even touched a woman, of course I'm desperate for sex.

 

well, yes, of course you are, but the trick is not to ooze of desperation. if you seem like you're begging for it, it's a problem. your desperation is evident even from your earlier posts, and we online strangers can see it, so can real people.

 

and yes, women can smell it a mile away, as someone else says. so stop showing it so much and maybe it'll hide a bit better.

[CrushedOrgans]

I meant along. Freudian slip. But speaking of there is a guy I can't wait to be alone and naked with.

 

 

hahaha, i know. that was a pretty good slip though.

[Ross_K]

well, yes, of course you are, but the trick is not to ooze of desperation. if you seem like you're begging for it, it's a problem. your desperation is evident even from your earlier posts, and we online strangers can see it, so can real people.

 

and yes, women can smell it a mile away, as someone else says. so stop showing it so much and maybe it'll hide a bit better.

 

I don't think my desperation would show though, I mean, if I was talking to a girl I'm interested in, I may naturally show interest as long as I feel confident and not shy. But I don't think there'd ever be a time where I'd take things too far too quickly.

 

Is that what people mean by showing your desperation? The taking things too far too quickly part?

[SmoochieFace]

I already work out, and my body looks pretty good. Instead of volunteer work I could get a job, but that wont make any difference because I've worked at many places beforre and never even experienced a woman acting attractive to me.

 

Would you elaborate on the bolded text, please?

 

I think know what's going on here but I want to hear it from you.

[reneet]

i think the longest i went without having sex was one day...oppppppps! u mean with someone else! lol. well, grade nine sucked [erase that year!]. honestly, 4 months. to be honest, whether you are male or female, if you want to have sex - it's not hard to find a sex partner. when u have the urge, you just find a way! lol!

 

happy humping one and all!

 

Happy Humping Good one

[samsungxoxo]

If none of them are ready for it yet, then sex isn't happening.

[CrushedOrgans]

 

Is that what people mean by showing your desperation? The taking things too far too quickly part?

 

 

i think it's more of an attitude than anything else. a woman doesn't "smell desperation a mile away" by being close enough to you see if you go too quickly, so she wouldn't know you even did that. it's like we sense it. taking things too far too quickly would be a result of desperation, yes. but how can you do this if you don't get anywhere?

[Ross_K]

Would you elaborate on the bolded text, please?

 

I think know what's going on here but I want to hear it from you.

 

Well, out of all the places I've worked at, I've made about 3 friends who were girls. But no girl, has ever acted like she was attracted to me.