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[Ross_K]

Now I see where it is much more than a confidence problem............

 

What do you mean?

[SmoochieFace]

What do you mean?

 

Means you're in need of an attitude adjustment.

[Ross_K]

It's funny, you say all this stuff at me a4a, supporting the other person, and when I try to talk about it and ask questions to understand where you're coming from you don't say a damned thing, I'm not talking just about this topic, but that other topic as well.

 

Could it be that you just randomly stick up for your favorite person without even knowing what's going on?

 

Anyway, it's best if I just put people who aren't nice towards me onto my ignore list, it's what I should have done in the first place instead of all this arguing. So, a4a, don't be surprised if I don't respond to your post because I won't be able to see it, no offence, it's just that I'd rather not have toxic people in my life.

 

No doubt I'm going to get several posters saying I'm such a bad person for attacking a4a, and she hasn't done anything wrong. But whatever, they can go on my ignore list too. I've had enough now.

[Ross_K]

Means you're in need of an attitude adjustment.

 

I wonder why she doesn't say the same about dgiirl though, or what about herself?

 

You know, I've tried being civilised, even when I was talking to dgiirl in PM I actually apologised about everything, even though I didn't think I was in the wrong, but yet I'm still given crap. So, **** them, the gloves are off now.

[littlekitty]

Geez Ross!! You certainly aren't reading 'How to win friends and influence people' are you?!!!

 

Let me ask you something Ross. Is the Ross we're seeing here arguing and biting at people when they something he doesn't like the same Ross as in real life? Do you act this way in real life if someone says something you don't agree with, or offers you advice which does fit what you want to hear? Because if it is, it's part of the problem.

 

I don't want to be a bitch, but the way you are acting on LS is alienating people from you. In my time here I've not seen many genuine posters do it quite as well as you have!

 

If this isn't how you'd act in real life, then are you being overly aggressive and argumentative here because you don't have to actually face people? I'm honestly interested in this point.

 

Often in life the strongest action to take when you feel someone is getting at you is to react with pride and dignity, rather than childish name calling and arguments. Sometimes it's best to be silent, and walk away head held high. Don't be dragged down to a level you feel someone else is going to. Say something genuinely smart, or shut up and ignore it. It makes you look a much stronger, smarter person than this argumentative crap you're pulling.

[Ross_K]

Geez Ross!! You certainly aren't reading 'How to win friends and influence people' are you?!!!

 

And they are, lol, give me a break.

 

Let me ask you something Ross. Is the Ross we're seeing here arguing and biting at people when they something he doesn't like the same Ross as in real life?

 

No, I don't act like this because I don't have enough confidence too, although I do feel like it on the rare occassion when someone has an attitude with me.

 

Do you act this way in real life if someone says something you don't agree with, or offers you advice which does fit what you want to hear? Because if it is, it's part of the problem.

 

No, and I don't on message boards either, you must have me mixed up with someone else. Did I ever bite at you when you offered me advice which may not have worked for me? No.

 

I don't want to be a bitch, but the way you are acting on LS is alienating people from you. In my time here I've not seen many genuine posters do it quite as well as you have!

 

Nah, you've got it worng, it's those alienating themselves from me.

 

If this isn't how you'd act in real life, then are you being overly aggressive and argumentative here because you don't have to actually face people? I'm honestly interested in this point.

 

I'm not overly aggressive.

 

Often in life the strongest action to take when you feel someone is getting at you is to react with pride and dignity, rather than childish name calling and arguments.

 

I don't think name calling or arguments are childish, but you're entitled to your own opinion.

 

Sometimes it's best to be silent, and walk away head held high.

 

Yeah but the thing is if I walk away silent, I can't hold my head high.

 

Don't be dragged down to a level you feel someone else is going to.

 

I'm not being dragged down to their level, since I'm not doing the same thing that they're doing, what they are doing is out of order and what I am doing is just sticking up for myself and not taking the **** they're giving me.

 

Say something genuinely smart,

 

I do say things which are genuinley smart.

 

or shut up and ignore it. It makes you look a much stronger, smarter person than this argumentative crap you're pulling.

 

Maybe, but it wouldn't come across like that in real life though, it'd come across the opposite.

 

And, it's them that are causing the arguments, see? I've tried to be civilised, I've wanted to bury the hatchet and just try and make some sort of understanding of things, and even apologised, but no, I'm still given crap by the likes of a4a, digiirl put's me on her ignore list, and everyone else who has an attitude with me get's ignored. I've even asked them so is them having an attitude with me first just in my imagination, am I losing it, and shown them quotes from posts, because I was so curious as to what they'd have to say, but no, they don't answer my questions, they don't explain anything.

 

So, I'm thinking, if they want a war, they've got one.

 

And do you notice something littlekitty, even though we are disagreeing, I'm not giving you crap, I'm not being disrespectful towards you, because you are not doing the same to me.

[a4a]

Ross obviously you cannot handle anyone disagreeing with you. I can see why you are not dating...... I am being friggin' dead serious here.

 

You seem to have a very passive agressive abrasive personality.

 

BTW...... I do not know Dgirl, she is not my favorite anything..... this is not RL. But you felt the need to assume this and state it? Humm.... perhaps you are using this imagined relationship of best friends forever between D and I as an excuse as to why I agree with her that you are in need of an attitude adjustment.........

 

There is a huge difference between toxic and truthful. Honestly you post here and I would guess you are about 18 years old. You absolutley refuse to see yourself through the eyes of others....... instead you scream and stomp and put people on ignore that are actually trying to help you. But of course then you can get attention and blame them for trying to make you out to have less than attractive communication skills, or for that matter, a magnetic personality. Are you attractive?..... soley judging from these posts and if you converse with women in RL in this matter........ no you are not attractive and a new hairdo or a tuxedo isn't going to improve your odds of enamoring anyone.

 

Alas I am on ignore but it was great exercise for my fingers to type this out

[a4a]

So, I'm thinking, if they want a war, they've got one.

 

omg....... grow up!

 

honey if you fell of the face of the earth tomorrow it would not matter to me. You only start "wars" over things that actually are important. :lmao:

[littlekitty]

And do you notice something littlekitty, even though we are disagreeing, I'm not giving you crap, I'm not being disrespectful towards you, because you are not doing the same to me.

 

I will indeed give you that point Ross. I have been bluntly honest, and at time possibly harsh with you. However you have taken it on the chin and not been funny with me at all.

 

But... there are times you've reacted to other posters, when I don't believe they've really said anything to prompt the attack from you.

 

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. I do think you over react, and react badly to some posters and some things said.

 

But a point worth pondering is why you feel the need to act like this on here, when you would never do so in real life...?

 

I've walked away from many situations, silently WITH my head held high. And it's been a dignified and wonderfully empowering thing to do. To leave them wondering.....!!

[Ross_K]

I will indeed give you that point Ross. I have been bluntly honest, and at time possibly harsh with you. However you have taken it on the chin and not been funny with me at all.

 

But... there are times you've reacted to other posters, when I don't believe they've really said anything to prompt the attack from you.

 

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. I do think you over react, and react badly to some posters and some things said.

 

Okay.

 

But a point worth pondering is why you feel the need to act like this on here, when you would never do so in real life...?

 

I don't do so in real life for two reasons. One I could get beat up, and for another, I've tried to do it in the past but I always end up being very lost for words early on and can't think of anything to say back to prove my case, and they come across like they're right/won the argument, which just makes me feel even worse. Maybe this happens because of not feeling as confident, shyness, whatever, and feeling more like I'm on the spot. In forums you have time to try and explain your point and think about that you're saying.

 

I've walked away from many situations, silently WITH my head held high. And it's been a dignified and wonderfully empowering thing to do. To leave them wondering.....!!

 

Ah, but what about bashing that girl in the supermarket with your basket?

[lindya]

I don't do so in real life for two reasons. One I could get beat up, and for another, I've tried to do it in the past but I always end up being very lost for words early on and can't think of anything to say back to prove my case, and they come across like they're right/won the argument, which just makes me feel even worse. Maybe this happens because of not feeling as confident, shyness, whatever, and feeling more like I'm on the spot. In forums you have time to try and explain your point and think about that you're saying.

 

Are you over-compensating? Taking out, on people here, the frustration of not feeling able to say what you'd like to say to people in the real world?

[Ross_K]

Are you over-compensating? Taking out, on people here, the frustration of not feeling able to say what you'd like to say to people in the real world?

 

Maybe, yeah, I think if I do ever go over the top, then I reckon it's probably down to what you've said. I've actually thought about this before.

[lovelorcet]

Stop starting "wars" on a board and get out in the real world and do something... You are not going to get anything done looking at the wall in your room...

[Ross_K]

I'm not starting any wars, it's them who have started it.

 

You're not going to get anything done by looking at a wall in your room either. You need to go out instead of posting to me.

 

Can you see how illogical that sounds?

 

I do go out and I don't just sit here everyday.

[SmoochieFace]

I'm not starting any wars, it's them who have started it.

 

Yeah, that's it, you don't do anything 'wrong' - it's ALWAYS 'them'.

 

I take it that your 'scared' of taking responsibility too, right? Always gotta blame someone else, right?

 

This is really turning into a cheap movie of the week.

[SmoochieFace]

I don't think name calling or arguments are childish, but you're entitled to your own opinion.

 

Your opinion probably isn't shared by most 'real' people.

 

Name calling is the sort of rubbish one would do on the schoolyard as a tyke. 30 year-olds doing it is ridiculous.

 

And let's think about this - what are you really getting out of it anyway?

[littlekitty]

Ah, but what about bashing that girl in the supermarket with your basket?

 

Slightly different senario I would say. She wasn't really doing anything to me except not moving even though she could see I was coming past. I didn't say anything except 'Excuse me', and then I just 'accidently' wacked her leg with the basket and I pushed past her. Her fault, if she'd have moved I wouldn't have got her!!

 

I did however walk away head held high as she shouted some childish name after me!!

 

It's about knowing when to argue your point, and when just walking away with dignity is a better option.

 

For example: When I met my SO I received tons of abuse from his ex gf. I didn't rise to it, I simply ignored it. Why stoop to her level?