Is men generally more ready for wife-house-dog-child than women?

[ace88]

I've not been with many men, but those I've found myself in a relationship with over the years (I'm 25) have all been thinking of their 'future' in terms of getting married, buy a house and have children..

 

I've never once had those dreams.. I just wanted a dog. (Still does)

 

I'm currently in a 3 month old relationship with a great guy. I moved in with him after dating for 2 days. (It just naturally happened). Since I moved in straight away, this relationship feels like the bus in Speed. -It's never going under 80 miles/hr..

 

My boyfriend has told me he wants to marry me on several occations.. (I've told him if we're still together by christmas to go ahead and pop the question;) )

 

It does worry me that things are going so fast. Especially since all I've ever really wanted in life was a dog...

 

On a side notice..[sorry].

 

Today I realised I might actually very well be pregnant..

 

My boyfriend has this picture perfect unrealistic view of what having a baby means..

 

For me it's a huge deal. I've been an au-pair and know what having a child means.

 

-If it turns out I'm pregnant; he'll be soooo happy.. cos obviously, that would mean he's closer to his dream of a happy family life.

 

-If it turns out I am pregnant; I'd want an abortion. Which I know, in the end, he'll agree to because he loves me...

 

My reasons for it?

 

I want to finish college and work at least a year before I get a baby.. I also want to be married, *own* a house/apartement and not rent like we do today...

 

In my mind, I cannot look after a child unless I get this.. It doesn't matter that my boyfriend has a job and stable income and would in theory be able to support me & a possible child..

 

Am I being selfish here?? I'm open to getting ideas. The world is not black & white, I get that. At the moment tho, it just seems that way..

 

Anyone else experienced something similar or feel like giving their thoughts and ideas?

 

xx

 

Yes, you are being quite selfish. No matter how much you plan for life, things change. Don't get an abortion. That's like covering one mistake with another one.