loveinlife Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 I guess I am still adjusting to my single life now that my ex is gone with someone else. No one to talk to at night, no gnites from someone who I love. No one to sleep at night and cuddle with. Missing the sex. No one to keep me busy, except for my friends at this moment. There is a girl right now that is really fun and entertaining. However, she has a bf. She keeps on signaling me that she likes me. I talk to her everyday, but I don't want to get any personal with her. She is "like" a gf without the gf name. We conversate really well and she wants to hangout with me all the time. Her bf lives an hour away and she has problems with him. I won't do anything silly of course, although I know she is looking for an escape from the life she is in. She does keep me busy throughout the day as in conversation wise. There is no sex involved between us. It is starting to feel a lot better than before. I don't get these crazy thoughts on my mind and how I am hurt over my ex as much. But there is something missing, that lifestyle of being with someone. That ease to have sex whenever you want. That soft touch of a woman's skin. The beauty in a woman just lying there and embracing the moment and looking at them without a thought but pure happiness bc god created women to be so beautiful. I miss all that, the essence of a woman to share time with. Just wanted to vent this out so I feel better. Good luck to everyone.
KittenMoon Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Ditto (except change "girl" to "guy" and minus any prospects for me)
latefragment Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 ditto for me, change 'girl' to 'guy' and other relevant details. i went through a really lonely period of physically missing ... physically needing physical attention. now i'm just doing ok but every once in a while get jealous when i see people together. but like i said most of the time i am fine... thank god. but, ditto ditto ditto.
Sand&Water Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 REPLY: Don't even get me started on the "Feeling of Being Alone". I am the queen of loneliness, misery, and everything else associated with not having someone care or be interested in me - as a woman and a human being. I know what you mean, though, Loveinlife. The whole concept, and fulfillment of being close to someone emotionally, mentally, and physically. The bodily heat and energy emitted from the other, can only make you yearn to work harder at finding that special someone. Consider yourself lucky. Just lucky. Soon enough, you'll hook up again with a beautiful girl. Oh, and stay away from the girl with the boyfriend. Don't do something dumb. Wait it out, and in due time she will have to make a choice. Regards, Sand&Water
LakesideDream Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 It's been over five years for me, and I have pretty much overcome those "alone" feelings. Occasionally, I get a little meloncholy, not often. There is no good advice. Things happen at their own time. I actually felt more "lonely" dating, than I did just living. I do enjoy my cat though... !
Teacher's Pet Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Same here... I miss the sex..... I'm glad I have some great new friends....but...it's still not the same Tonight it's raining out, and I have nothing but my 3 cats to keep me company.... -tp loves his cats is just a big pu**y at heart
D-Lish Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Tonight it's raining out, and I have nothing but my 3 cats to keep me company.... TP- Good thing you have a litter box handy then- just in case Stinky girl happens to come by again! haha. Missing the ex sucks. Got your PM Iminpain- just drop me a line on e-mail or MSN if you want to chat! Dee
fatty Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Hey, excellent post and I ditto your situation. In my case, my freind just broke up with her boyfreind. We had discussed casually on the phone about "spooning" "cuddling", "sex" etc... We discussed it with each other and how it would be great to just have the essence of another person there, not the actual act of doing it but the essense of the other person. As one of the poster's mentioned about "energy bieng emitted". Last week, my freind and I hung out in her basement. After 2 hours of just playing cards and talking we decided to watch a movie. There wasn't enough room on the couch so I invited her to lay with me. It was the great, the feeling, caressing, touching, the warmth. It was the most cozy/comfortable feeling I have ever had. It wasnt awkward the next morning because we understood we had used each other for what we needed. There was no sex though LOL My ex called me 2 days ago and we talked, she told she slept with a random. So now I am alot more messed up. but definately lonely. We should start a spooning group, I got alot of belly space to go around haha
Teacher's Pet Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 We should start a spooning group, I got alot of belly space to go around haha LOL..... I could keep all the chicks in the shade with what I got... They actually have "Cuddle Parties" you can organize for people to come together, literally, and hug/cuddle/snuggle (in a non-sexual way)..... They are pretty popular, I think........ I'd love a LS cuddle party! :) -tp loves it when they call him Big Poppa
Guest Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 i feel you...my bf and i are on a "break" and it's like a total break...no seeing each other not too much communication...and it's hard...you just get comfortable with someone after awhile..you know how they are, what they like and dislike...it's amazing how i just miss getting a kiss whenever i wanted or having someone to cuddle on the couch with...sometimes i'm ok and then sometimes it comes rushing back and i find myself looking through old photos and emails...but you know what they say..time heals everything..the only problem is you gotta wait for time...don't know if i helped or not but i can relate so you're not alone
Author loveinlife Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 I feel that im with you guys/girls also. When I feel that I have moved on, something on the back of my mind tells me to not. I really dislike that feeling because it makes me sad all over. Hope to see you guys are doing better. Love, Loveinlife
Summer2000 Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 I totally know what alone feels like. Thank God I have a cat and a dog to cuddle with and a 65 inch tv to watch! I miss having someone around to cuddle with and for someone to just call and tell me they miss me.. I am so scared that I will never get married or have kids, I feel like my clock is ticking here, I will be 30 in a few months.. Yuck! Make the time stop please, i want to be 21 again! lol But I guess being alone makes you understand yourself better.. I actully went out on a date last night and in so many ways I was feeling like I was cheating on my ex! I get in moods where I feel like I am moving ahead and then I feel bad and start missing him again.. I totally know what alone feels like.. I wish L/S had a place where we could all just cuddle and watch movies together and eat a lot of food..
everlong Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 "I won't do anything silly of course, although I know she is looking for an escape from the life she is in. She does keep me busy throughout the day as in conversation wise. There is no sex involved between us. It is starting to feel a lot better than before. I don't get these crazy thoughts on my mind and how I am hurt over my ex as much. But there is something missing, that lifestyle of being with someone." RED FLAG! you are both 'using' each other to replace something missing...not to sound harsh, but she is looking for an escape...and you are hurt and like the attention...it doesn't sound like it is about 'both of you together' but about 'what each are missing' can frankly, either one of you could find that elsewhere...think about it
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Ditto (except change "girl" to "guy" and minus any prospects for me) Flip and ditto
Guest Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 "I won't do anything silly of course, although I know she is looking for an escape from the life she is in. She does keep me busy throughout the day as in conversation wise. There is no sex involved between us. It is starting to feel a lot better than before. I don't get these crazy thoughts on my mind and how I am hurt over my ex as much. But there is something missing, that lifestyle of being with someone." RED FLAG! you are both 'using' each other to replace something missing...not to sound harsh, but she is looking for an escape...and you are hurt and like the attention...it doesn't sound like it is about 'both of you together' but about 'what each are missing' can frankly, either one of you could find that elsewhere...think about it Thanx Everlong for looking into that perspective. It is a void that I am feeling and I do realize that I have something she wants, perhaps that attention too which her bf might not be giving. You are right about I could look for that elsewhere. Thanks for watching out my back. Thanks, Loveinlife
No Way Posted October 16, 2006 Posted October 16, 2006 It seems all are feeling alone yet keeping perspective. No one is desprate to jump just to get a few needs met. Your not done grieving yet. You have to fully feel the sadness and embrace it to recover from it. This is just a tough time. We are strong. Although with a cuddle buddy so close I think I would loose my footing. That could get you involved in some cover up band aid relationship that may set you back. I've had a cuddle setion and felt so so alone after I hated myself. The alone was magnified. I'm not willing to do that to myself for a long time.
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