koolkat68 Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 okay here's the deal ..i met a girl that i never had any intention of having a serious relationship with...but the more i got to know her i started to like her more and more...we eventually ended up being together...we were together for like 5 months..i know before you say anything...i just want you guys to know that i have been in a relationship that lasted two years...i thought that i loved that girl...until i met this girl..we just seemed to be able to tell each other anything, and like the same things..i didn't have to put up a front for this girl...she liked me for who i truly was...we had the most fun when we were around each other...i live in texas...and because of troubles that she had back home out of state...she was living in the same town as me...she always told me about how she missed home and that she was going to go back home someday...and i being a college student that will be graduating in december...i always told her that i didn't like to think that far ahead...because i am a person that lives life day by day and i was all about her "right now"...to which should would reply "what do you mean right now"...well we started to get really close....and then the day came...she had seemed wierd the days prior...but it still caught me off guard....she told me that i knew that she was trying to go back home and that she didn't want anything holding her back....i asked her if it was something i did or if she just plain didn't like me anymore....she said i did nothing wrong and that she still liked me...i let like two days pass...and i went to go talk to her...i wanted to know why...how can somebody just wake up one day and decide that they don't want to be with them anymore...she kept telling me she didn't know...i told her that i wasn't asking her to be with me forever, to which she responded "i know but thats what is going to end up happening"....so at this point i'm thinking that she has to love me too right, because why would she say that, was it because she was scared of saying goodbye later on if we were to continue our relationship.......she then by said that there was nothing i could do to change her mind....this hurt me deeply....i would see her here and there, and on occasion she would talk to me for hours...and then a day later as though she figured she let me get to close again, she would tell me that she couldn't see my face...i asked her why...she would not answer....i figured that i would leave her alone and give her some space...so about two months pass by..in which there wasn't a day that went by that i didn't think of her...it was very hard not to pick up the phone and call her but somehow i managed...then about a little less than a week ago i saw her at work and i figured that i would say hi...she surprised me by talking to me and telling me that i looked good...she asked me to stay and talk a while with her...so i did...she told me that she hadn't talked to anybody in a while and that she enjoyed talking to me again...so i went home i was pretty happy but i did not expect nothing more than the conversation that we had just had...so i left it at that....but the next day at exactly 9:30 she text me and asked me what i was doing...we exchanged text msgs that night for about an hour...after that happened i was pretty happy...but i still didn't get my hopes up...cause that really isn't anything; she could have just been bored right?....okay the day after that i was at work when i was called to the front for a guest....and guess who it was?...it was her, she said that she had brought me some ciggarettes because she owed me some from sometime way back when that i don't really remember, so i took a break and we talked for a little while about nothing....after this happened i was really excited...but i still tried to play it cool i let two days pass before i called her....so today i called her and she actually answered she told me she was busy but that she would call me back...in which i thought she was blowing me off...but about an hour later she called me back..and we talked for about twenty minutes when she told me that she had to go...because she had to take a shower because she has work at six in the morning...so i told her bye... I really dont know why she would all of sudden start talking to me again, could it be because she just needs somebody to talk to..or is it because the fact that she will be going back home around thankgiving and she wants to talk to me again...i really dont know...i miss her alot...just talking to her makes my day...i'm playing it cool...because i dont want to scare her off and squander this oppurtunity if it is an oppurtunity....i dont know maybe you guys have some more insight...like i said i have been in serious relationships but this time it was different i never thought that i could feel this bad or that i could care for someone this much...i never thought that i was lonely till i met her...i want her back in my life so bad....i always thought that i had been in love before...then i met her and realized that she is my first true love....if any of you guys know of some ideas or what i should do i would really appreciate it and i will keep you informed on how things are going
EllieBear Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Well it sounds to me that she wants to have her cake and eat it too... Like she doesn't want a relationship but still wants to talk to you and that is hurting you a lot. What I think you should do is move on from her. Stop talking to her! She knows how you feel and she doesn't apparently feel the same...Yes maybe she is confused but aren't we all..Who wants to be with someone that can't make up their mind. Coming from a girls point of view..it sounds like she just has no one else like no other guy in her life so she talks to you. But one day when she does meet someone else those calls will stop, and there you will be..alone, sad and upset b.c you knew she didn't want to have a relationship with you and you couldn't have already been moving on. When you find someone that you want to be with no matter how far you live you will want to be with that person. It's normal to want things you can't have...but do you really want a girl that doesn't feel the same about you? Good luck Hope this helped?
Author koolkat68 Posted October 11, 2006 Author Posted October 11, 2006 I was trying to stop talking to her...and as far as i'm concerned i had done that pretty well for about two months..but then she started talking to me and texting me...i know that it could be nothing...but there is that ounce of me that is always optimistic....and wants it to be true...and i think thats what helps me not completly lose it...and its hard for me to forget all the things she told me and shared with me....i guess what i'm trying to say is that i don't want to move on until i can honestly tell myself that i've done everything i could...
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