Meaplus3 Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Yes. I have been around here for a LONG time now. WOW 111 post's it has scared me. When I first came to this site I was asking the question as to if I was in an emotional affair? Well YES I was! My affair now almost 1 year old and has grown. He's married and so am I. This man is the most wonderful thing in the world to me! The fact that he has wanted to move slow is nice, however I NOW need to get a move on things's. I struggle each day with my love for him. We have been so close and yet so far. In july I told him I loved him. He seemed so excited. He came around more in a very flirty way. He told me he has many feeling's for me and if he told me them it would make matter's worse? What could be more worse than loving each other and not being able to be togther? AP:)
whichwayisup Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 What could be more worse than loving each other and not being able to be togther? Having a full-on affair and having your husband, your kids, his wife and their kids know what's been going on. And seeing all the pain that has been inflicted upon them all.......... AP, you're getting sucked back in again. This man has TOLD you that he isn't going to leave his wife, even though he has some feelings for you. Sooner or later you must decide what it is you want. The life you're leading is on a dangerous path and what makes it worse is that you guys are neighbours! Just think of the fallout, WHEN (and I say when, because sooner or later his wife and your husband ARE going to clue into what's going on) this is discovered. I wish you would try your best to shake this man out of your system!! But seeing as NC isn't going to work because he's right nextdoor, the only other alternative you have is to move, or hope he moves.
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 11, 2006 Author Posted October 11, 2006 Having a full-on affair and having your husband, your kids, his wife and their kids know what's been going on. And seeing all the pain that has been inflicted upon them all.......... AP, you're getting sucked back in again. This man has TOLD you that he isn't going to leave his wife, even though he has some feelings for you. Sooner or later you must decide what it is you want. The life you're leading is on a dangerous path and what makes it worse is that you guys are neighbours! Just think of the fallout, WHEN (and I say when, because sooner or later his wife and your husband ARE going to clue into what's going on) this is discovered. I wish you would try your best to shake this man out of your system!! But seeing as NC isn't going to work because he's right nextdoor, the only other alternative you have is to move, or hope he moves. Whichway I know I am letting myself get sucked back in, it's just that he seems all serious now and he has never been like this before. I know that I am NOT doing the right thing here, however it's so darn difficult to break free from. Moving is not an option right now for me. I have had lot's of free time this week to contact him and I have not. I am trying! AP:)
Sup Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Whichway I know I am letting myself get sucked back in, it's just that he seems all serious now and he has never been like this before. I know that I am NOT doing the right thing here, however it's so darn difficult to break free from. Moving is not an option right now for me. I have had lot's of free time this week to contact him and I have not. I am trying! AP:) It's GOOD that you are trying. However, I suggest that you tell your husband what is going on here. Have you had sex with OM? If not, it would be better to tell your husband NOW what's happening here and NOT wait until after you have sex with you neighbor. It would be much more difficult to fix your marriage after having sex with OM. Your husband probably DOESN'T even know there's something wrong with your marriage, or what need/s arn't being met, somehow OM is fulfilling those needs. Is this just for the thrill of it? You and your hubby need Marriage Counseling TODAY! Lastly, Do YOU really want to destroy your husband, and two families over this?
lover's rock Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 If you tell your husband, he might become Mr. Wonderful . Men who love their wives are willing to do anything to make them happy. If he sees that someone it turning your head, he'll want to know why, and he'll want to know how to fix it. It's worth a try.
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2006 Author Posted October 12, 2006 It's GOOD that you are trying. However, I suggest that you tell your husband what is going on here. Have you had sex with OM? If not, it would be better to tell your husband NOW what's happening here and NOT wait until after you have sex with you neighbor. It would be much more difficult to fix your marriage after having sex with OM. Your husband probably DOESN'T even know there's something wrong with your marriage, or what need/s arn't being met, somehow OM is fulfilling those needs. Is this just for the thrill of it? You and your hubby need Marriage Counseling TODAY! Lastly, Do YOU really want to destroy your husband, and two families over this? Sup, I think in a way this started just for the thrill of it, until we both started to have feelings! We have not had actual sex, but have done plenty of other thing's. Lately we have been very close to the actual act. You are right when you say that my husband probably doesn't know that there is stuff in our marriage that need's repair. I have thought about telling him and came very close one day but could not bring myslf to do it. I would be better to make him aware of what's been going on, however I am so afraid of what he will think. What if he tell's mm's wife and she flips her lid. Sex or NO sex this is an affair that we both have been having and it's almost 1 year old now. My heart is torn right now in two directions. AP
Sup Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Sup, I think in a way this started just for the thrill of it, until we both started to have feelings! We have not had actual sex, but have done plenty of other thing's. Lately we have been very close to the actual act. You are right when you say that my husband probably doesn't know that there is stuff in our marriage that need's repair. I have thought about telling him and came very close one day but could not bring myslf to do it. I would be better to make him aware of what's been going on, however I am so afraid of what he will think. What if he tell's mm's wife and she flips her lid. Sex or NO sex this is an affair that we both have been having and it's almost 1 year old now. My heart is torn right now in two directions. AP Forget the What ifs, tell your husband, start out by saying: honey, we/I got a BIG problem, then go from there. If you don't tell him to help STOP this, and you two do have sex, it WILL be WAY worse for everyone. Yes, your husband WILL be angry, and rightfully so he should be. YOU started this with OM, now YOU must finish this, but , NOT by sleeping with OM. There is NO excuse for what is happening here, give your husband a choice what to do. Just make sure that he knows EVERYTHING that has happened between you and OM, and the fact that you have NOT had sex with him. In the VERY least, this should be your husbands wake up call! NO MORE EXCUSES JUST TELL HIM!!!!!!!!! JUST DO IT!!!!!!!
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