shawn_68 Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Same here, I changed my phone numbers. I also told the secretaries at work that if she calls, tell her that I quit my job and moved out of state. Very well done.
vanButterfly Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 - Call a friend. - Call your other friend - Call many friends - Write down a list of things you have always been afraid to do and then start doing them. You will be surprised at how fear takes away this feeling you have to contact your ex. - Delete his phone number from everywhere (this didnt work for me because I then looked at my phone bills ) - write down your thoughts. Sometimes we really just want to vent - and it doesnt matter that they dont hear it. - start new hobbies. This is said all the time but I SWEAR by it. - find a new 'friend' but do not be too intimate. We are all human and you will be surprised how a hug from someone can help. Sometimes it's all you need - and a good ear. - get them to tell you to not contact them ever again. Might be easier if you hear it outright. - call your mum and cry. I bothered my mum every day (nearly) for weeks and she was on the other side of the world. :)Thank god for calling cards!! But thank god more for my mum! She is the greatest woman on earth!
Josalina Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 i am so tempted to text the ex but the only thing that is stopping me is pride!
Rooster_DAR Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Don't do it Josalina, you have come this far. Everything going okay with you?
Josalina Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 yeah i have about 6 men that keep texting since they no i have split with the ex and the worst thing is i don't like them and hearing form other men makes it worse as there is only one i want and he don't want me. but i won't do it. thanks for the reply.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 Yup, I'm in the same boat. I just can't see any of the girls that are chasing me due to my disposition with my EX. It will come back someday, just way too soon. Regards,
andy_whitewater Posted October 15, 2006 Posted October 15, 2006 I've got a few ways of making No Contact work 1. I wrote a whole bunch of songs and poured my heart out in them. I recorded them all and listen back to them if I need too. It helps because it shows I have progressed since then. 2. Get immersed in my band - be it with promoting, writing music, myspacing or whatever. It helps to remind me that I have skills and talents and that there are things I can do well. Getting dumped sends you to an all time low so I find it really helps to remind yourself what you're good at. 3. Listen to music. Everytime I think of her and it gets too much and I really want to call I put a song on and use it as a distraction. Sometimes its a happy song, sometimes a sad song. 4. Go out of the house. I've found the times I'm most sad and lonely are when I'm stuck at home because I'm thinking "shes out living her life with her new boyfriend and I'm stuck here" so I go out and do something, even if its just a little something like going to the shops it gets you out and about. Keep your mind active whatever you do. It helps time pass faster and helps you grow as a person. Its ok to feel sad, but its not ok to never feel happy again. Like Rooster, I don't think I could be with any of the girls that have an interest at the moment because its too soon after the break up and there is too much I still don't understand. Time will help work everything out i think. Good luck x
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