sapphire0903 Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Hi all, Just wanted to say hello, and check on a few of the kind souls that responded to my threads. Posh..........How ya doing girl? Still hanging in there I hope! WhichWayisup.........Thanks for all of the good advice, hope you are doing well too and Frogwart........, don't know if you are still out there, but your words were very helpful to me as well. Just to update you on me, MM and I are remaining friends, I have stopped him from all the kissing and long touches and such. He now hugs me and pecks me on the cheek. He will call 2- 3 times per week.......down from daily phone calls, and we will have dinner maybe once per week. I don't ask about him and his wife, that relationship is between the two of them. We keep the conversation about our lives (although they are seperate). Last Friday I helped him with some paperwork (it felt good to be able to help him after all the things he does to help me) we had pizza delievered, and joked and also remembered all the things we have done together. (we were going through his receipts from 2005) I have to admit..........it is an adjustment. Of course I want more from him, but I am not putting my life on hold, I posted my profile on a date service for their trial period of 7 days, and got a few numbers. I don't look for anything serious to develop, but in my mind, I am activly trying to pursue a "different avenue" He is respective of my wishes, and has told me that if I do not want him to call any longer......he wont. Here is a thought though..........I told him that I do want to remain friends with him, and as with my other male friends, I frequently speak to them about the "man in my life" . I asked would this be somehting I could speak to him about, or would it be awkward and uncomfortable. He told me that I could talk to him about me dating other men. My friends are thinking "No Way", "Men are so territorial" "he probably will not want anything else to do with you for a while" So I ask you all "what do you think" Not only just this question I posed to him, but for being friends with him. Not doing the "no contact" does not work for me, even though I respect the idea, it makes sense, but I know me better than anyone, and it would not last, not for someone that I care about. Thanks guys!!
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