db75 Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Just a bit of background. My GF of 3.5 years and I decided to end things just over 2 months ago. We had been apart for 3 months(long story, not worth explaining right now) We also had an apartment together. The lease finally expired on Oct. 7th. Over the last 2 months we've had to deal with one another somewhat reguarly on the phone and via e-mail to work out matters with the apartment. So in some ways, we still had something of a relationship. Although, I have not seen her in the flesh since the day we broke up. We finally finished things up with the apartment about 2 weeks ago and have finally been able to go NC. We didn't have a bad break-up, we are on good terms. I've got so many problems in my life right now which I won't bother to list here in addition to the break-up. Because of those problems I just really miss my ex. She was my best friend, so I guess it's only natural to want to turn to her for support right now. She's just about all I can think about the last few days. I feel so crushingly lonely. Just miss her and it hurts like a son-of-a-bitch. I've been through break-ups before. This one is just a little different because this is the first time I truly and deeply loved who I was with. Just sucks. All you can do is stay busy and just sorta wait it out until you feel better again. Any advice or encouragment anyone can give me?
KittenMoon Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 I've got so many problems in my life right now which I won't bother to list here in addition to the break-up. Because of those problems I just really miss my ex. She was my best friend, so I guess it's only natural to want to turn to her for support right now. She's just about all I can think about the last few days. I feel so crushingly lonely. Just miss her and it hurts like a son-of-a-bitch. I've been through break-ups before. This one is just a little different because this is the first time I truly and deeply loved who I was with. Give yourself time to heal, whether it take a month, six months, or more. Give yourself permission to hurt and to miss her. Remember that feeling an emotion is not the same as wallowing in it. Like you said, keep busy, maybe working on those problems you mentioned. Hope you feel better.
Author db75 Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 Give yourself time to heal, whether it take a month, six months, or more. Give yourself permission to hurt and to miss her. Remember that feeling an emotion is not the same as wallowing in it. Like you said, keep busy, maybe working on those problems you mentioned. Hope you feel better. Thanks Kitten. Yeah, that's what I've always told others to...in essence "don't feel bad for feeling bad." I'm always the worst at taking my own advice. I certainly wish I could skip the pain completely, but I know it's part of the process. Thanks again.
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