Guest Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 is that wrong? she deosnt look like a 14 year old. I dont know what to do.
norajane Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Don't have sex with her cause you might be violating laws, depending on the state you are in. Make sure her parents have met you, know something about you, and are ok with you two dating. Otherwise, you're doomed. If you can't do that, then back off and wait until she's legal.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 is that wrong? she deosnt look like a 14 year old. I dont know what to do. Yes, it is WRONG and ILLEGAL!!! What can you possibly like in a 14 year old??? Seek therapy, please. I am saying this out of kindness and concern for YOU. A 14 year old girl is nowhere like a woman. She'd be more like a boy! Please, talk to a counselor.
StayClose Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Come on, one of my fondest romantic teenage memories was with a 14 year old girl when I was 17. She was mature for her age, intelligent and well-read. In fact, I recently found her again on the internet and have started corresponding with her. Although now I'm 44 and she's 41. Doesn't seem like such a big deal now.
lovestruck234 Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Awww I dunno.... I guess it would depend on where you live and the rules and all of that kind of stuff... One of my really good guy friends is 17 and he is going out with a 14 year old. But I tell you what, she looks about 18!! Anyway, I know, I know that's not the point. The choice is up to you. Just remember it is up to you to act responsibly in this situation. If you really do care about her then yes, as norajane said, go meet her parents. It so very vital that you do that and show to them that you are responsible and plan on looking after and caring for their daughter! She still has alot of maturing to do, you know that right? You have to understand the choices you make in this relationship need to be mutual. You have to be so careful here. Are you planning on this relationship going a fair way? Can you see it venturing into a sexual relationship? Then just make sure you know what you're doing. I'm not saying you shouldn't, I'm just saying, for her AND your sake, please be careful how you go about it. Protection is often forgotten about amongst teens. Now how sh*t-scared would you be if you found out one day that "Oh, by the way, I'm pregnant"....I know I would be running for the hills....and I'm a girl!! Bottom line, and I will stress again......BE CAREFUL.
Almost Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Don't have sex with her cause you might be violating laws, depending on the state you are in. Since he's not yet 18, he's not yet an adult, so I don't see how any laws could be broken. I think in every state you're not an adult until 18. So it doesn't matter what the age of consent is because neither of them is an adult. I don't think anyone is breaking any laws if one person is over the age of consent and the other isn't, if they are both under 18. But as soon as he turns 18, he would be breaking the law if he has sex with her while she is under 18 or whatever the age of consent is in his state. But then again, perhaps it's illegal for two people under the age of consent to have sex with each other??? Regardless, it's probably not a good idea. But hopefully they are just hanging out and dating, and not thinking about having sex yet. Make sure her parents have met you, know something about you, and are ok with you two dating. Otherwise, you're doomed. This would be a good idea. If you have reason to believe that her parents, or your parents wouldn't approve for some reason, that should be a warning sign to you.
norajane Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Since he's not yet 18, he's not yet an adult, so I don't see how any laws could be broken. I think in every state you're not an adult until 18. So it doesn't matter what the age of consent is because neither of them is an adult. I don't think anyone is breaking any laws if one person is over the age of consent and the other isn't, if they are both under 18. Some states have "Romeo and Juliet" laws about teenagers having sex. Kansas has one where if a teen under the age of 19 has sex with a teen between 14-16, it's against the law. Some states specify an age difference, like a teen who has sex with another teen who is 3 years or more younger, it's against the law. Not all states have them, and the age ranges of years might differ, but it's worth being safe rather than sorry if the parents get upset.
Mystic Gohan Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 i look at the whole age thing like this, my friends parents are 10 yrs apart so it would be like a 10yr old dating a newborn, but i dont have a problem with age as long as both people are mature enought then who cares really, just make sure that you do meet the parents and explain what and why it is happeneing cause if you kept it a secret and they found out, you owuld be the new biatch at the local jail, i have a friend who is 23 and he is dating someone who is 18 i know she is lagal but they have been dating since she was 15. like i said maturity due, that's all that counts. please respond to link below: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t101010/
Almost Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 It seems to me that the way it should be is there should be a maximum age difference if you are under 20 or 21. So you could say if you are under 20 or 21, you can't date anyone more than 3 or 4 years older than you. If you are older than 21, you can't date anyone under 18. The movie Endless Love, with Brooke Shields from 1981, was about a 17 year old boy dating a 15 year old girl. According to Wikipedia.org, it still hasn't been released on DVD, although it is probably available on VHS.
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