precious99 Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 Hi again - I know I just posted about my break up but I have run into a new issue that I'm not sure what to do about. About 5 minutes ago my BF's (or I guess ex-BF's) mother called me - I didn't answer cause I thought it was him - but she left a message very concerned - asking what is going on, saying that he just showed up there very distraught and uncommunicative. She seems really worried and I'm wondering what to do....is it appropriate to talk to his mother about our relationship? I mean we have gotten close and all but she is still his mother.... Sorry if I seem frazzled and unsure - but I am new to this - I'm not young but this my first relationship since my marraige and if I'm being truthful and honest about it the prospect of the demise of this relationship is much more difficult and gut wrenching. Thanks again.
blind_otter Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 I wouldn't. You're just opening up a whole different can of worms with the mom.
bluechocolate Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 I don't know the story, but I suppose if you went out with the guy for a long while & were close to his mother then it couldn't hurt to talk to her, but I don't think you should. He is not your b/friend any longer & it is not your job to facilitate better communications between her & her son. Not only that, it is presumptuous & insensitive on her part to approach you in this manner, though I'm sure she thinks she is just looking out for his best interests.
D-Lish Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 no, I wouldn't involve mom too much. You're in a pickle though- she did call you, and you're on friendly terms with her..... Hmm. At the very least maybe return the call tomorrow. I don't know what you would say though! It's HIS mom- he should be the one talking to her!! I guess you would have to say as little as possible to her. Let her know you guys are just having some issues you are trying to work out...I don't know- this is a tough one.
norajane Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 Be courteous and return her call, but tell her that her son is the one who can best answer her questions.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 My Ex's mother called me crying and didn't understand what was going on between us. Although I felt like telling her what I felt about her daughter, I refrained. I calmly called her back and said the she needed to talk to you about this herself and that it's not my place to do so. Chance are, she probably told her mother something other than the truth. D'oh!
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