Tiger073 Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 Im a sophomore in college and theirs this Freshman college girl that Ive met and been getting really into. When we passed each other on the way to class and stuff shed always smile at me and Id smile back. I eventually got to know her, friended her on facebook, exchanged a few "small talk" messages and asked her to lunch. She said yes. It went really well (although it was short because we both had class to get to 25min after we agreed to meet) and I asked if I could see her again. There was a fairly popular dance at my college that weekend and she said shed see me there. She showed up with her room mate and danced with me solo for awhile, but then went because no one was dancing with her room mate and she felt bad. We all wound up leaving early because it was so hot and stuffy in there so it didnt seem like it was a good night, and Im worried that, even though the dance room being bad wasnt my fault, I had somehow made a bad impression. Anyways, this week she couldnt do anything because midterms start this week. This is what happened so far, and Im just wondering if anyone can help me measure the situation. Two things to consider though. 1) She got out of the relationship she was in soon after the first time we hung out. I don't think its because we started hanging out, however. 2) Im an RA, but she is NOT one of my residents. Although I realize that some freshmen might be nervous around an RA. Im wondering if this matters at all. Please give whatever advice you can. I like this girl and I REALLY dont want to mess it up.
Cheshire Cat Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 She does not sound particularly interested - someone who really was would rather go to an one-to-one date with you instead of just seeing you at a dance and would probably find at least a little time to see you during the week. Anyway, I'd say ask her out to lunch (or anywhere) next week and see her reaction.
moman Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 I was a RA in college - use that opportunity to your advantage. Yes I was corrupt but I wish I had been a LOT more corrupt. She's probably shy. Ask her out and see what happens. Be confident
Author Tiger073 Posted October 13, 2006 Author Posted October 13, 2006 She couldnt do anything this weekend because its midterm break and shes going home but said shed definitely be willing to do something the week afterward. It SEEMS genuine but Im paranoid about stuff like this. I think she knows Im interested (I sent her a Friday flower and she came up, hugged and thanked me afterward) and Ive come to visit her a couple times to say hi, hung out for awhile one of the times. The fact that shes doesnt make time, as someone mentioned earlier, is a little worrisome but it IS midterm week. Assuming we do get the chance to hang out next week, should I bring up the fact that Im interested?
Yamaha Posted October 13, 2006 Posted October 13, 2006 Don't smother her or she will back off. She knows you like her so just play it cool and not so needy. If she is not up to your interest yet you need to back off and see if her interest increases. You will know if/when she likes you.
ddnnee Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 avoid her. reason: she's a rebounder. You will end up into a mess because she hasn't tied up all ends with her ex. go to your local bookstore and read "relationship for dummies"... seriously. one of the big signs is avoid rebounders. They are highly unstable and only need you for that time to replace their old relationship until they find out they don't actually need you. also spend some time in the breakup section of this forum and read on the people's demise. after spending much time on loveshack, i began to realize that girls are only nature's cum dumpster and nothing more. some cum dumpsters are clean and unused, while 99.9% of others are overflowin with not only spooge, but crap too. sad but true... sigh....
remedylane Posted October 22, 2006 Posted October 22, 2006 I'm a big optimist, so I think you should give her more chances. To me it seems as if you've barely even done anything with her. Give it some time. Keep asking her to hang out and stuff. If she starts giving excuses and doesn't seem to hang around, then I guess she doesn't like you. BUT, if she starts hanging out with you and stuff, she probably has some interest. I think the only way to find out is to simply ask her if you get the chance. That's something I need to work on too. lol
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