IWalkAlone Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 It is often said that men will have sex with anything in a skirt, but the women require an emotional commitment/connnection/relationship/whatever before they will have sex with a guy. Oh really... I've known a few guys that often find women they've just met making themselves sexually available to them, and they take advantage of it. Do these women really have "emotional connection" with these guys? I know a very attractive women who was on a "break" from her boyfriend last year. During that time she had sex with at least three guys. These weren't really relationships, and other than a visit to a bar or two, they really didn't date. They just met at her place or his place and had sex. What that because she had "emotional connections" with these guys? Over in the Marriage section there's lots of threads from men complaining that their spouses, who supposedly have a "emotional connection" to them, don't want to have sex with them. Come on ladies.... Let's hear the truth!
blind_otter Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 Psychologists theorize that people who are sexually promiscuous are punishing themselves, to a certain extent. It's a masochistic behavior. People have a great capacity to lie to themselves. It's one of the major drawbacks of being human. IMO there is no "truth" about sexuality and emotional connection -- some people need it and feel it, some people don't. And never the twain shall meet. (or if they do, they'll end up bitching about their relationship on loveshack. )
quietintrovertgirl Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 Sorry to say ladies but us women can't separate emotion and sex.We try but the emotion show through.
Walk Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 Why's it gotta be dissected? Sometimes the woman just wants to have sex. It's kind of difficult to get laid if it always requires a full-on production of sleepless in seattle. Can't we just have sex once in a while? So what if it causes us to have an emotional attachment afterward in most cases. So what if we turn into an emotional wreck afterward and start stalking the guy. He got what he wanted. Sometimes I think (some) women have one night stands in order to fill an emotional hole. The need to feel wanted and desired. Not so much for the physical release, as for the emotional need. Yet these women seem to also have a fear of getting too emotionally connected, so keep it at a physical level for as long as possible. Fear of getting hurt emotionally. Yet still have emotional needs they want met. That's my hypothesis anyway. Most men seem able to completely disconnect any emotional feeling from it and leave it at the purely physical level. Don't think most women are quite built that way. Although there are exceptions.
Author IWalkAlone Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 Sorry to say ladies but us women can't separate emotion and sex.We try but the emotion show through. You didn't anwser my question. The guys I know who easily hook up with women can do so because women find the emotion is there?
Author IWalkAlone Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 That's my hypothesis anyway. Most men seem able to completely disconnect any emotional feeling from it and leave it at the purely physical level. Don't think most women are quite built that way. Although there are exceptions. Are you saying that guys who hook up with lots of wome are really hooking up with a small percentage of women who are able to have sex on a purely physical level? About what percentage of women do you think that is.
monkey00 Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 You didn't anwser my question. The guys I know who easily hook up with women can do so because women find the emotion is there? The guys that do hook up with such women do so by bringing out that emotion in women. A woman would not just sleep with any guy in the street, she sleeps with the one that makes her feel.
catgirl1927 Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 The thing is, all women aren't the same. We're each different, based on our experiences, upbringing, attitudes, etc. We're unique. Kind of like people.
Author IWalkAlone Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 The guys that do hook up with such women do so by bringing out that emotion in women. A woman would not just sleep with any guy in the street, she sleeps with the one that makes her feel. Make her feel what? Turned on? Horny? How is this dofferent than guys?
skimmy Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 I've done the one night stand, and it felt pretty empty; I've even had sex with guys I don't really like as people, and that gets pretty empty after awhile...I've discovered that I need to like someone as a person before I'd get in bed with them. Doesn't mean love, doesn't mean romance, but if there's a mutual respect and friendship, that works too. As long as both parties go into it with the same understanding, the same expectations.
Guest Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 I saved this a while ago from our local paper: "It's time to lighten up & get it on! Sex no sin between adults BOOTY CALL! If you're like me, and apparently totally out of touch with reality, you don't know that this term refers to "dropping by for casual sex," as portrayed on CBS sitcom Two and a Half Men last Monday night. This would happen between friends who enjoy each other sexually, but with no strings attached. Simple as that. Of course, I was totally up to speed with the practice -- just not the name. Now both you and I know what to call it. See, under the right circumstances, I'm totally for booty calls, just as I am with legalizing prostitution. It's time mankind got past sex being dirty and accepted it for what it is -- just a very enjoyable and necessary part of life. What's the big deal? Sex provides intimacy, contact, communication, escape, pleasure, a brief respite from the stress of living in today's insane world. Casual sex between strangers happens all the time. Why does hiring a pro make it deviant and depraved? Should you have to be in love with someone to have sex with them? Should you have to be married? Of course not. If those ingredients are part of the equation and working well, terrific. Nothing is better than two people madly in love, particularly at the soulmate level, enjoying everything about their relationship -- including a great sex life. If you can get a lifetime out of it, you've won the lottery. Unlucky at love But not everyone is so fortunate, and it's partly for those unlucky at love that prostitution may provide a "fall-back comfort zone." Pun intended. There are people out there, who for any number of reasons either choose not to be in a "love" relationship that includes sex or -- for reasons seemingly beyond their control -- are unable to connect with a partner. I've heard numerous interviews done by prostitutes describing those who employ their services as "lonely people, who along with the sex just need to talk to someone, to be listened to, hugged, etc." They truly benefit from being able to hire a temporary "mind and body buddy." Doctors might even prescribe visits to such practitioners. Beats rolling the dice on some of the diseased predators awaiting vulnerable prey at the local bars. You don't have to be lonely to desire a positive sexual encounter with another human being. Under the right circumstances, it fits right in with all the other normal things on our list: grocery shopping, gym, check Home Depot for spring specials, wash car, visit body buddy, watch Two and a Half Men, let dog out for pee, bed. Would legalized prostitution really work? I don't know, but I know what doesn't -- the status quo. Nope, it's time Red River College offered "Body Buddy 101," offering sex-trade wannabes the opportunity to learn their craft on the up and up, giving them some legit, non-sleazy employment opportunities in private or government-run facilities down the road. You'll never completely stop the nasty, grubby, evil side of the trade, but legalizing retail sexual companionship would at least give some of the participants (both buying and selling) the safety and dignity they deserve. Between consenting adults, it's not sin -- it's just sex. Lighten up. "
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