torre Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 I've known the girl for several years. About a year ago we started becoming closer, and by around the turn of the year we had become really really good friends. Always around each other having a ball, etc. It was truthfully the best friendship I had and I loved it. She felt basically the same way and we were really quite the duo. Inevitably I gathered more serious feelings for her and she found out in no time. She never felt the same way about me, but that never seemed to have an effect on our relationship and we continued to be friends in the same way for a long time. It was never really an issue and the fact that my feelings weren't returned wasn't a big deal for me after a while - I was quite happy. I no longer have said feelings for her. She knows this. Over the last two months its gotten all crappy. She steadily got more and more distant from me. By now we don't talk much, or I guess I should say she doesn't. My attempts at conversation are mostly met with minimal response and lame replies. It's as if we were never really friends. There's no bad blood or anything...there's not really anything. Just like were merely acquaintences or something like that. It sucks, majorly. Life is really splendid except for this BS and there isn't a thing in the world I want more than to be friends again. I miss our relationship a ton. I obviously don't know what to do. Whaddya think? Thanks.
Cheshire Cat Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 This is just a thought... did she start to grow distant as soon as she realized you no longer had feelings for her? Perhaps she enjoyed the attention more than she actually enjoyed the friendship. Perhaps she is worried she might develop feelings for you now that you are no longer interested in her. Perhaps she has a jealous boyfriend. Perhaps she just grew distant for no reason at all... she is just not so interested in the friendship anymore, and it is really not about you. I think it happens a lot. You could point it out to her that she has grown distant and ask her if she is okay and if there is a reason why she grew distant. You have nothing to lose, and you might even get an answer.
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