tekratel Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Hi This is my first posting so bear with me, on and by the way I'm a guy (I think my posting here could get a bit woolly with who is who) Well, I've been/ had been with my partner for six years - most of the time it's been fairly torrid with daily arguments that have sometimes gotten really out of hand and I suppose within the relationship a level of competition and certainly a lack of balance. But we stayed with it and had three children in three years (no twins). Our relationship has continued to be stormy throughout and I got to think that it's not the way things should be and we should look at splitting up. Obviously with a young family this poses problems, the eternal one would always be should you stay together for the sake of the kids? The further complication came into being that my partner started a business last year with a friend. Now I've had quite alot to do with the business too and spent alot of time with her business partner. It's wierd as time goes on and you're spending it with someone who you get on with and can talk for hours that one day you start getting the knot in your stomach and a feeling of loss when you come away or off the phone. Now, nothing happened with her but as time went on I just fell for her, feeling like electricity when I'd speak to her and so on and so on. But I kept my feelings to myself and tried not to talk too much to her in the hope that out of sigfht would be out of mind. But it doesn't work like that and then a couple of months ago my partner and I had a huge argument she threw me out of the house and I stayed with family. During this time I was in touch with the girl and then I suddenly found myself telling her what I felt about her. She was shocked and said I shouldn't say things like that. Anyhow, as time went on we started talking about things and essentially she feels much the same way about me, but is racked with guilt and doesn't know which way to turn. Bear in mind that nothing sexual has gone on - just kisses and cuddles. So, I'm here, in love with this girl I don't love my partner and in fact we have separated because things in our relationship have gone too far and there are three young kids to think about. So, she feels terrible because it's her business partner; she's thinking about getting out of the business because my ex isn't the nicest person to be around (in fact she says my ex treats her like sh**). Now she feels in a really exposed position because of the situation she is in and she says she doesn't want to have to deal with all the fallout that would happen if my ex found out about us - I want us to make something of this relationship because I know we'd could be really happy together - and she doesn't know if I'm genuine or not and I don't know what to do next, whether to give her some space or whatever. There's probably a book in this somewhere!! So, any thoughts would be appreciated.
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