KittenMoon Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 More proof the powers that be hate me: Tonight I was supposed to go with a friend to his friends party. Those friends bailed, so we decided to meet up for a drink at a neighborhood bar. A couple of my friends came with me. As we walked to the bar, we stood at a crosswalk. I look across, and coming from the other direction was my ex's roomie and his friend from out of town. As I hadn't seen these guys in a while, and didn't seem my ex with them, I almost called out. SO glad I didn't. My ex followed shortly after. Standing there, w/ my friends, I swore and quickly turned around, walking in the other direction. Though the street was full of bars, there was no question where they were going (to the bar we were also headed to). I thought he didn't see me. We circumenvented a bit, met up with the other friend, and went to another bar. As we took off, I though I saw my ex pull out his phone, but like I said, I thought he hadn't seen me. Then I got home... and there was a message on my machine from him. We're not on bad terms, but I haven't seen him or talked to him in person since may. And I still hurt a lot. Anyways, he said he saw me, saw us take off, said he wanted to talk to me still, so give him a call if I want. What drives me crazy is that although we live in the same neighborhood, in the past 5 months I haven't even seen his car, much less him. WHY at that very moment did we have to be in the same place- of all places, all moments, all nights, on an outing that was literally an absolute last moment thing?!!! I don't know what to do. He sounded a bit annoyed in the message. Also, I'm confused as to why he literally picked up the phone and called me right after he saw me. Arg. Perspective? Guess I'm a bit shaken.
Teacher's Pet Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 This is why I like living in New Jersey... We have bars/clubs/sports bars on every block here. I have my new hangouts that my ex has never even heard of, most likely. Besides, most of "our" hangouts were mainly "her" hangouts, so I really don't have to avoid many places... I'm still not in a place to deal with running into her, unless I'm out with my girls. I'm very grateful I have a lot of attractive female friends.... it would drive my ex nuts to see me with my "harem" lol Since I don't dance, I'm great for watching purses. -tp girl's best friend
Author KittenMoon Posted October 8, 2006 Author Posted October 8, 2006 I have my new hangouts that my ex has never even heard of, most likely. This wasn't "our" hang out. I go there once in a blue moon. I never would have expected to run into him near there, although now that I think about is his bday is in a couple days, so it was more likely. And though it was unlikely to run into him, I am more perplexed as to why he called me up right then. On the plus side, it's possible he saw me walking with my friend, a tall handsome (though taken) gent he doesn't know. I don't know. Annoyed at all this. The harder I try to get out, have fun, meet up with new friends.... the more monkey wrenches get thrown into the works.
garnet Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Hi KM, I remember you posting the other day about him emailing you. Did you ever respond to that email? It sounds like the classic difference in the way men and women deal with things. He probably feels like "what's the big deal, why can't we just talk?" without really putting himself in your shoes. Sorry that you were shaken. Maybe there's a purpose for this run-in that will become more clear in time. best wishes, G
loveinlife Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Hi KM, I think the question here is what does he want to talk about? I don't know if its a good idea to give this guy a call. If he wants to talk to you, he will call you back. Sometimes questions left unanswered might linger on the back of minds for a long time. If you want to get the truth and not guess, it might be a good idea to find out what he wants. I am sorry that this happened to you KM. It is never fun to bump into an ex. I did and found out that my So was with another guy holding hands and kissing in a club. Few days later, she said that they aren't friends anymore, which could mean that she went to the next stage or it could literal. I hate those ambigious messages. Good luck to you KM! Best wishes!
Ariadne Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Hey, WHY at that very moment did we have to be in the same place- of all places, all moments, all nights... It's a sign! It's a sign!! Awww... talk to him Ariadne
the_alchemyst Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Remember what you told me not long ago? Yep, same thing. AGAIN. Just call him back and ask him what the hell he wants. EDIT: Actually, no--email him. Yes, email him and ask him what the hell he wants. And more--ask him what the hell he's talking about because you saw nothing of which he speaks of. Sorry, but this is so tiring! What the hell, you know?
loveinlife Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 I know its a hard time for you. I understand how that feels. The answer is there, its always been with you. KM, you know what to do. With that and how you feel, I and most people are with you, no doubt. You stay strong, easy said than done. i really hope you feel better, don't let this drag unless you feel that there is a reason. No one will judge on that except yourself. It hurts, I know, I try my best to understand. Live life with hope, I am with you. Good luck KM.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Hey, WHY at that very moment did we have to be in the same place- of all places, all moments, all nights... It's a sign! It's a sign!! Awww... talk to him Ariadne I really hope this is a sarcastic post.
Author KittenMoon Posted October 8, 2006 Author Posted October 8, 2006 Remember what you told me not long ago? Yep, same thing. AGAIN. Just call him back and ask him what the hell he wants. EDIT: Actually, no--email him. Yes, email him and ask him what the hell he wants. And more--ask him what the hell he's talking about because you saw nothing of which he speaks of. Sorry, but this is so tiring! What the hell, you know? I was going to email him anyways today/tomorrow anyways for his birthday, so I guess I'll have a word about last night as well. Don't know exactly what yet, but that's that. I really hope this is a sarcastic post. Ariadne's never are.
Ariadne Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Hi, I really hope this is a sarcastic post. Nope, I don't use sarcasm... I don't know how even. Ariadne
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