Corvandus Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Ok, I had moved to Western Australia from the Blue Mountains (about an hour west of sydney) A few months back. And I started talking to a girl I knew back here. Long story short, I moved back for her. Eight months later, my father is going through a divorce and my bipolar is getting uncontrollable (I was unmedicated). So I go to a shrink after telling her "I need to sort myself out. You need to back off for a bit while I adjust". Go and get the drugs, try them out, decide against them. That was a week ago. I find out tonight, on the phone to the guy she's with now, this alleged "Abusive and raping" ex boyfriend (which is not at all true) that she had shagged him THAT VERY NIGHT. Before I had even spoken to her. I go out and try to make myself better for her, and she decideds to neglect to tell me she believed it was a breakup. She cheated on me already. After planning to get engaged and move back, me believing every single word she said, especially the big three "I love you" with various addendums..... Now she's off smoking pot every night, hasn't stopped since that night, and whoring herself out and has already cheated on him. She was a dear friend and I can't help but be concerned about him, but she's a coward! When confronting her about the cheating, and her new bloke confronting her about lying about the abuse, she broke down rather convincingly and begged me to forgive her, saying she thought in her heart she'd lost me and couldn't deal with the stress properly. Her best friend rings me, I tell her what has happened and she says, rather simply "Nah. She's bs'ing you." So I talk to her again, and say "She's right. You don't feel sorry, or guilty. Not about what you've done to me. You're just sorry you got caught out." And apparently she was attempting suicide. Now that is the ultimate cowardice. Telling her new bloke to tell me she's trying to kill herself to get her out of it. Bollucks. And now I'm left terrified of a defacto relationship. I'm currently hanging out with a bisexual girl friend of mine who put it simply to me "You need to have fun. You need a mate and a shag. And if you think I'm right then I'll snap you up for something." Implying that she wanted alot more, mind you, but understood the bs around me. So, how do I (a) confront her and try to get her to manage her life before she destroys herself along this path of hers (b) come to the decision of whether or not years of loyalty can be destroyed in a different sort of situation's lying, and © Move on from this phobia and find a girl who won't do this. This was the sixth time i've been betrayed by a woman who lied to me. Not this intense, but similar situations. I've lost all faith in women, and find it occasionally difficult to feel anything at all. I'm having anxiety spasms and I have a really really deep low/depressive state affecting my sleep patterns. If you managed to read that novel, hit me back. </3cv
Jane Doe Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Good grief, you have so much going on I don't even know where to begin. First of all, are you now on meds for your bipolar? If not, get on them. ASAP. Secondly, you need to forget this girl. She's doing drugs, suicidal, sleeping around and already cheating on her new boyfriend. She is not relationship material. Surely you can see this. She needs to seek her own help. Don't sleep with your bisexual friend. She won't be your friend for long if you do. It'll get complicated and turn ugly. Count on it. If you have a long history of being dumped on by women, obviously there's something terribly wrong with your judgement where women are concerned and/or a flaw in the vibes you give out. You're attracting the wrong type of woman. I would suggest going to counseling to try to get to the root of this. Now I have a headache from thinking about all of this.
bchlvr Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 First Things First: Are you medically stable? Are you compliant in taking your medication? You need to be in a frame of mind where you can sort things out clearly and make good decisions for yourself. That may require counseling. From your post, things sound chaotic with these women. Take care of yourself first.
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