kismat Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 my bf of about 10 months is coming to see me this weekend... i really love him, but i don't know whats wrong... usually when we get to see each other i get really excited, and we both count down the hours lol.. but this time, i just can't seem to get into it.... i feel so blah about the whole thing. for some reason, i've been feeling this way for the last week or two... i feel like i'm just pulling away, without any idea why!!! has anyone ever been in this situation? what could be wrong!
Guest Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 After you havent seen each other for awhile it takes some time to get back into the grove. Sometimes that process isnt exciting. When my LDR and I see each other many times it takes a few hours to connect again. I bet once he gets there you'll feel better.
Author kismat Posted October 7, 2006 Author Posted October 7, 2006 After you havent seen each other for awhile it takes some time to get back into the grove. Sometimes that process isnt exciting. When my LDR and I see each other many times it takes a few hours to connect again. I bet once he gets there you'll feel better. thanks guest... i really hope you're right!! usually when we're together its amazing, what scares me is that i've never been so blasé about seeing him before... he called me to let me know what time he was heading out tomorrow morning, and i almost felt guilty because i couldn't really get into it, and sort of just wanted to get off the phone =( i really love this guy... so i hope that once i see him it'll all just come back! i agree, sometimes in the LD, its hard to feel that connection...
Cheshire Cat Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I agree with what guest said. I've been feeling the same in a similar situation, too - I actually hear it is quite common (even in not-so-long distance relationships). I guess your mind and body are just adapting not to spend energy in those "counting down the hours" feelings. Rapid heartbeat is expensive. Just biological mechanisms at work, nothing to worry about.
Island Girl Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 It happens in relationships. Long distance or otherwise. It is part of the settling in. It isn't going to be sooooo exciting all the time. That part settles down and then there is a feeling of security and true caring about the other person. Sometimes people get too caught up in the tingly feelings and they break up with their partner. Like an addict chasing a fix. This is the great part really. The growth of the two of you together is more fulfilling than any of the butterflies ever could be. This is the part when you move forward to the place where you are a couple. Established and secure together. That step is what leads to spending lives together. Enjoy!
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