Jane Doe Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 This is just a general question here. Years ago during the war men and women wrote to one another (having never met) and they claim they fell in love. It was a pen pal sort of thing. I've developed online friendships with people without ever talking to them or meeting them in person. Granted, only one out of twenty have lasted. So.........is it possible for a man to fall in love with a woman online, having never met her and never hearing her voice? I had one tell me he had fallen in love after chatting online two weeks and seeing a picture. Thoughts?
Yamaha Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Yes. I think it's possible as long as you have seen a picture of them. I don't think you can fall in love in 2 weeks. You might fall in lust but love takes more time than saying "Hi. Can I jump your bones?".
Sand&Water Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Reply: I've developed online friendships with people without ever talking to them or meeting them in person. What is the point of developing online friendships. I don't see the benefits. Is it possible for a man to fall in love with a woman online, having never met her and never hearing her voice? I doubt it. Is it worth developing an online romance, knowing that meeting in person will not happen for at least several months -or even years? The sad part, of online romance, is the chance of nonexistent chemistry once both parties meet in person. Sand&Water
whichwayisup Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 What is the point of developing online friendships. I don't see the benefits. Wow, you're missing out. I've got some great online friendships, some from here too.
quietintrovertgirl Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I believe you can because i believe i found the man i want to spend the rest of my life with, lost my virginity too and i never met this man in person and this man doesn't know what i look like. My story is I met a man March 2004 online.I've never met him in person but i have talk to him on the phone and via email. I didn't fall for this man at first but It took me 4 months into knowing this man to realize.This man is the man i've waited for all my life but this man not ready for a relationship. Oh I know what he looks like but I've never show him a picture of me yet.We have a very good verbal itimacy.
stoopid_guy Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Personally, I don't see how. Online friendships with people you'll never meet IRL? Sure. And, I think you could fall in love with them after meeting them IRL, but until you see them IRL, they're really just an idea. I have a buddy that tried online dating. He met a lady and we picked on him that it was really a 300 pound gay biker posting photos of his sister. He did finally meet her in person, but they just didn't "click" like they'd both hoped to.
johan Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 2 weeks is a little too quick regardless of whether it's online. I've seen people fall in love online. But they are just falling in love with the limited aspects of the person that they experience online. The real-life person may not be so lovable. It's kind of an analog to falling in love with someone you've never lived with. When you move in, you discover even more about them that you have to love or accept. Maybe you can't. I avoid online love completely if the person lives far away. No long-distance relationships for me. If the person lives close by, then I'd want to meet and get away from the online thing, but that hasn't ever happened. Online friendships are ok.
Craig Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Can you fall in love with someone you've never met? Yes. But it doesn't mean you are going to be compatible once you meet in person or after a year or two. Love in itself can not be the foundation for a lasting relationship and is not a good enough reason to be in a relationship with someone.
Kittiecat Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I don't think you can. I think people show you what they want you to see online. The real stuff can only be seen face to face - and even then the picture is muddied by the usual doubts and self defenses. Bottom line - humans need human contact. I don't care what words pop up on the screen. As they say, talk is cheap...even the talk that happens in cyberspace.
Guest Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I had one tell me he had fallen in love after chatting online two weeks and seeing a picture. Thoughts? Run very far and very fast away from anybody who claims to have fallen in love after two weeks - online or not. You can't love somebody you've never met. What you love is the imaginary person you think they are. lost my virginity too and i never met this man in person He must have one hell of a long dick! Seriously, you have NO idea what this guy is really like. The person you meet online can be a good act or can be 5% of a person's real personality. His 'not ready for a relationship' like is a bunch of bull. Insist on meeting him ASAP.
Author Jane Doe Posted October 7, 2006 Author Posted October 7, 2006 Love in itself can not be the foundation for a lasting relationship and is not a good enough reason to be in a relationship with someone. How true that is!! If everyone on this board believed that and lived by that mantra, we'd all be 150% better off!
quietintrovertgirl Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Run very far and very fast away from anybody who claims to have fallen in love after two weeks - online or not. You can't love somebody you've never met. What you love is the imaginary person you think they are. He must have one hell of a long dick! Seriously, you have NO idea what this guy is really like. The person you meet online can be a good act or can be 5% of a person's real personality. His 'not ready for a relationship' like is a bunch of bull. Insist on meeting him ASAP. I know what my online man looks like but he doesn't know what i look like in person.I've did a background check on my online guy.I knew infromation about this guy before he even told me himself. Idid my homework.I did have a chance to meet him last year but i couldn't because i don't drive.
bluetuesday Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 you can develop very strong feelings for someone you meet online, but those feelings are not genuine love. they may feel a bit like it at the time, but when you realise how quickly they go away you realise it was not love, only infatuation or the thrill of thinking you've found someone who really 'gets' you. the people who click with someone they meet online ONLY transform that potential for love into real love when they meet and actually get to know each other properly. you simply cannot know a person you have never met. in the same way you cannot really know what jake gyllenhaal is like until you've spent a few months with him. hardened fans think they know. they think they would have chemistry with him. they think he would adore them. it's all make believe. online love is is illusion. a nice one, a powerful one, but an illusion all the same. people show the best side of themselves online when they're looking for someone special and trying to keep them. it is not the same in any way as a real live relationship and success stories are justly, frighteningly rare.
Quinch Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I fell in love with someone I never met. We emailed every day, swapped pictures, spoke on the phone, had cyber sex, etc. It is possible but I do believe you have to meet within the first 6-8 months if you're going to have any chance of making it work.
Ariadne Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Hi, So.........is it possible for a man to fall in love with a woman online, having never met her and never hearing her voice? Yes, it is. I have fallen in love with men that I had never met or heard their voices. I have been so in love that I couldn't sleep at night or think of anything else. Ariadne
2sunny Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I know what my online man looks like but he doesn't know what i look like in person.I've did a background check on my online guy.I knew infromation about this guy before he even told me himself. Idid my homework.I did have a chance to meet him last year but i couldn't because i don't drive. Is that because you are fourteen years old?????
bluetuesday Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I have fallen in love with men that I had never met or heard their voices. I have been so in love that I couldn't sleep at night or think of anything else. see, i would not call that love. perhaps the fault is that we only have one word for love. but i would call what you described infatuation.
Ariadne Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 Hey, perhaps the fault is that we only have one word for love. but i would call what you described infatuation. I have to agree Ariadne
lindya Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I don't think you can. I think people show you what they want you to see online. The real stuff can only be seen face to face - and even then the picture is muddied by the usual doubts and self defenses. Bottom line - humans need human contact. I don't care what words pop up on the screen. As they say, talk is cheap...even the talk that happens in cyberspace. I agree. Don't psychologists say that 90% of communication is non verbal? It's easy for people to pander to eachother's "perfect partner material" fantasies online, so inevitably people end up thinking they've found the true love that seems so elusive in real life.
quietintrovertgirl Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Is that because you are fourteen years old????? Oh man my stomach hurts from laughing.:laugh:.I have a driving phobia
Craig Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 Love. Falling in love is not genuine love. IMHO. To fall in love is like being under the influence of an internally manufactured illusion. You don't know the person, you don't know if you are compatible long term and most of what you think you know about them usually will turn out to be wrong as you really get to know them. That is why it is important to get to know a person before deciding that you are in love. Any initial attraction that is mistaken as love is just an indication that the person creates an internal response in you. Most likely, it is a hold over from more primitive times when procreation and survival of humans were more important than selecting an appropriate long-term mate. It is a shame that we only have the one word 'love' to describe so many different states of being. No wonder people are confused. I love my cat.
alphamale Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 So.........is it possible for a man to fall in love with a woman online, having never met her and never hearing her voice? No... I had one tell me he had fallen in love after chatting online two weeks and seeing a picture. Run, don't walk!
burning 4 revenge Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I believe you can because i believe i found the man i want to spend the rest of my life with, lost my virginity too and i never met this man in person and this man doesn't know what i look like. My story is I met a man March 2004 online.I've never met him in person but i have talk to him on the phone and via email. I didn't fall for this man at first but It took me 4 months into knowing this man to realize.This man is the man i've waited for all my life but this man not ready for a relationship. Oh I know what he looks like but I've never show him a picture of me yet.We have a very good verbal itimacy. So will I be invited to yours and Rosses wedding?
whichwayisup Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 lost my virginity too and i never met this man in person How? I kinda wanna know now...Details please, or start a thread in the sex section about it.
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