Should I start NC again? What is she doing?

[figgurinoutlife]

My bipolar ex tried to come back to me over a month ago saying she loved me, had to have me in her life, wanting to have a second chance and take things slow, and she even told me she was going to change her number so her latest ex couldn't have it. They broke up 4 mos. ago after a little over a year. I fell for it and we began to hang out again after a rocky 2.5 years of knowing her, 6 mos. together and 2 years of being ex's.

 

During the two years of being ex's she has been very hot and cold to me. When she would have a fight with her latest ex she would run to me. She would call me all the time too, wondering what I'm doing, and with whom and would act jealous if I was hanging out with another girl. She would even sometimes tell me she was still in love with me and would try to put the moves on me. She has always had a tough time letting me go.

 

She hasn't had the best taste in guys. She has dated unattractive, welfare, some druggies, those who like drama. I wasn't the best catch when we dated but I blossemed and all the things she didn't like about me before I changed (for myself). I have my head on straight, am attractive, have a house, good job, friends, everything. She always said before she was happy when we were together.

 

Anyways, back to the point - So as we started taking things very slow and I find out she is still talking to her latest ex who got her on drugs. My ex has been clean for about 2 weeks and said she wants to stay that way. She was also talking about wanting to get her own place, not really making future plans with me, all the while I'm thinking maybe she is using me to soften the blow of leaving her ex. She tells me no she is not over her ex yet and I ask her why she didn't wait to come back until she was over him, and her response was because I care about you. So I am surfing myspace the next day and find a blog on her page about him and she was saying she's not sure she's ready to let him go and that she's still in love with him and that whomever he dates next has to go through her for approval, blah blah blah.

 

I am crushed so I almost immediately cut her off again. So I'm sure she goes back to hang out with the ex. So a few days later after I started NC she texts me "sayin hi" I ignore it. Then she texts me "it's rude to ignore someone" I ignore it. about a week went by and she texts "how do you want me to get you the money I owe you for the phone bill?" I ignore it still. A few days later she says "so I take it you are paying my cell bill then?" I ignore it while thinking I will just pay the bill so I don't have to talk or see her. Next day I start thinking that she should give me my money so I will text her to mail it to me.

 

I did just that. After 10 days I break NC by saying "please get me a money order for the money and mail it to me. Thanks." She sends back almost right away "I will when you can treat me like a human." I didn't respond for about 10 min. confused and she sent another that said "exactly, didn't think you'd text back." Then she sent "you can't even speak to me. forget you." About 20 min. later I sent "You will never be able to treat me as a human so why should I treat you as one. All you did was lie and screw me over. **** that. One day you will know what it feels like to be screwed around, and don't worry about the bill, I will take care of it." About an hour later she sent "You ****** with me too, but I did not lie to you." I have no idea why she's saying I ****** with her too, cause I didn't.

 

I haven't sent anything since. I am surprised she didn't wait for ME to ask HER for the money, instead of her volunteering it. Was I an idiot for breaking NC? Should I send her a text back or start NC again? What is she doing?

[Amour77]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.... She seems to be using you as a rebound after breaking up with her ex. On top of that, if the ex put her on drugs, she might be attracted to him because of that too.... You are too perfect for her.

 

After 10 days I break NC by saying "please get me a money order for the money and mail it to me. Thanks." She sends back almost right away "I will when you can treat me like a human." I didn't respond for about 10 min. confused and she sent another that said "exactly, didn't think you'd text back." Then she sent "you can't even speak to me. forget you."

I totally see where you are coming from. My ex would do the same. Because I am being aloof, or cold to her and not talking to her whenever she wants to talk with me, she becomes very upset and says that I am not treating her properly and should re-think my attitude. DON'T FALL for that! It is all BS! Is she a control freak by any chance?

People like that, who have cheated on you, betrayed you, lied to you, still think that they deserve respect and deserve the full attention of the person they acted so badly towards. You know what? You perfectly have the right to be cold to her, ignore her, and tell her to get to f*** !

[andy_whitewater]

You sound like a good guy with your head screwed on right so don't let this mess you up. This girl sounds a little bit troubled and you just don't need that. Shes treating you really badly probably because of guilt, or self pity and thats something she needs to deal with alone. Everytime you contact her she is drawing you in and taking out agression on you. Seems as if you've done nothing wrong and are still getting fallout for that. Keep up no contact and get on with your life buddy

 

good luck

 

peace

 

x

[figgurinoutlife]

Yeah I think she is a control freak. I did NC for 1.5 mos over the summer and she freaked out and came to my driveway crying. Do you think she really thinks I'm too good for her? Crazy. Do you think she will keep trying to contact me? I am going back to NC starting today.

[Ruff Ryder]

In one short line mate " RUN FOR THE DAMN HILLS"

 

Thats the answer. NC and keep it.