myflyby Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 I wouldn't say this is about a friend. Its about tensions in my university flat. I live in a halls of residence, with 8 single bedrooms and a common area (living room) and kitchen. Everyones nice, only one girl is annoying me. Her boyfriend is constantly in the flat, and they're all over eachother. They are always in the common areas, never her bedroom. Their general soppyness is vile but excusable (I'm the same when my boyfriend visits) but what I'm not happy about is their exclusive attitude. If we're all watching TV in the living area and they pop their heads in, they see we're in there, we smile, and they leave. Yet whenever the room is unoccupied they are all over eachother in there. Surely if its privacy they want, they should go to her bedroom? The living room is a social area from everyone and they are making people feel like they aren't welcome. Similarly, when they are in the kitchen, they immediately shut up and start whispering (in another language) when you walk in. What should I do? I was such a bitch flatmate last year and always brought up issues...it didnt make me very popular. How do I approach this subtly? also I dunno if this even matters, but it might be worth mentioning that she is a muslim and her parents (who frequently visit) hate her seeing him (he is also muslim). I heard an allmighty screaming match between them all a few weeks ago. replies would be good
Cheshire Cat Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Before bringing up the issues, you and your other flatmates might try entering (and using) the living room like you normally would if they weren't sitting there all over each other. They'll probably leave after a while or stay in the room and stop behaving so affactionately. I don't think they are expecting you to leave them alone if they are snogging each other in an unoccupied sitting room.
SoCalCatman72 Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 My Advice: 1. Do not be intimidated by them. If they are all over each other in the common area, just sit right down beside them (it is a common area) and eat your popcorn while watching Silence of the Lambs, be sure to ooh and ahh graphically during the death scenes. 2. When they start talking in a foreign language, ask in a voice loud enough for everyone around to hear "Why do you have to change languages when someone who doesn't speak your language comes around? Are you trying to hide something (like where to plant the bomb for your jihadi) from others or are you just being rude. 3. Make complaints to the housing authority that your flatmate continues to have a constant guest (this may be in violation of the housing rules).
myflyby Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 My Advice: 1. Do not be intimidated by them. If they are all over each other in the common area, just sit right down beside them (it is a common area) and eat your popcorn while watching Silence of the Lambs, be sure to ooh and ahh graphically during the death scenes. 2. When they start talking in a foreign language, ask in a voice loud enough for everyone around to hear "Why do you have to change languages when someone who doesn't speak your language comes around? Are you trying to hide something (like where to plant the bomb for your jihadi) from others or are you just being rude. 3. Make complaints to the housing authority that your flatmate continues to have a constant guest (this may be in violation of the housing rules). haha. thanks for your replies. i heard sucpicious noises coming from the living room the other night., so I blatently walked in and they were all over eachother. they looked at me like I was being rude, so i gave them a dirty look, made up some reason why i'd walked in and left. then because i'd done that, they thought it was funny to make 'fake' (well i hope they were fake) loud sex noises all night. i cant just sit there and watch TV while they're whatevering. its gross lol.
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